My boyfriend just dumped me i'm pregnant and having the baby why doesn't he care.

Question

Me and my boyfriend had been seeing each other for 7 months. We don't use condoms anymore so i know it's his.. I'm completly in love with him and i just found out that i'm pregnant i told him and he doesn't care he told me not to ever fuking call him agian. Why won't he help me.

Answer 1

Most men do not want ot be fathers until they feel that they are ready. 7 months is not a long time to be together. You do not have a strong bond. He is probably scared. Give him time and he may come around, or he may not. My ex didn't talk to his kids for over 9 years (they were born before he met me). He just wasn't ready and it destoyed their relationship. Be strong and good luck!

Answer 2

he won't help because he is a scumbag.  It is too bad that you found out too late.  I guess there is no sense in talking about you having s*x with this guy after 7 months and not using a condom.

Answer 3

because he don't want to be a father. or he  don't have opportunity. who knows

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Answer 4

this is why I advise all girls to not have s*x early or without protection unless they are married to the guy

He was getting a free ride and now that obligations have come along he plans to walk away

you need to go to a lawyer and get him recognized as the father of this child and be forced to pay support and such other things that the court decrees

Answer 5

How old are you?  I commend you on keeping the baby but what did you expect him to do?  Let me be honest.  You may be totally in love with this guy but you were obviously just piece to him.  He was using you for s*x.  That is why he is being like he is.  I know that it is hurtful to you and you do not understand it.  However, guys will tell you anything to get into your panties.  That is just what they do.  He may need some time to let everything soak in.  Give him a little time and then sit down with him and tell him that you are having his baby and he was perfectly fine with not using protection and that the consequence is a baby and if he doesn't want to have anything to do with the child he at least needs to pay support. he may protest and say it isn't his.  If that comes up offer to get a paternity test done.   It is all fun and games until someone gets pregnant.   As far as the baby goes, make sure that you get all your prenatal care, take your vitamins daily, eat right and make sure that you do what is best for that little life.

Answer 6

Many men are scarred of such a huge commitment, that they didn't really plan themselves. Is he young, because that could also have a lot to do with being scarred. He may be thinking he won't be able to go to college, or have the life he wanted.

You guys should have planned for it though. Using no protection what-so-ever, will lead to a baby. A guy might have also decided it was your responsibility to go on the pill. Your best bet is to talk to him, explain that it is both of your guy's responsibilities. And if you or both of you can't and won't be good parents, be sure to at least give the child a chance at a better life, such as adoption or something. Just know this is a big responsibility, and it is something you are going to have to talk about.

Good luck.  

Answer 7

He sounds the typically irresponsible guy (I'm Not saying all guys are this way!). Unfortunately there's nothing you can do as far as forcing him to be a part of your or your child's life. What you can do is when the baby is born go to court and make him pay child support. If he doesn't make regular payments you can go back to court & they'll order it to be automatically deducted from his wages.

I'm sorry you're in this position, but pregnancy is a consequence on unprotected s*x.

Answer 8

He doesn't have a choice. He HAS to help once the baby is born. This guy is an irresponsible d**k. You have a right to child support so don't let him off the hook. If he doesn't pay, he'll have his wages garnished, won't be able to get a tax refund and may even lose his drivers license. Your child does not need to think that men are supposed to behave like this. I'm sorry for your pain but this guy doesn't sound capable of being a father. Good luck.

Answer 9

If it's his, you can legally require him to help with the child. It's unfortunate that someone that doesn't want a kid is forced to provide for it anyway, but that's the choice he made when he had s*x with you (he chose to take that risk).

Sorry your relationship appears to be over, but definitely hold him accountable for helping provide for his child and helping cover your medical bills while pregnant. That responsibilty is yours and his, and no one elses.

Answer 10

He wont help you, because you were careless. Make a choice and stick with it.

In his subconscience mind he doesn't see the mother of his offspring... He see's a loose girl who he had s*x with during a time when both of you were getting to know each other... and if you had other boyfriends before and or during your courtship, then he has every right to question this unplanned baby you sprung on him.

Do the math - 1 month of dating (assuming there was no s*x) + 2 months of pregnancy = 4 months of sexual relations? and if you only dated on weekend then it equals to 12 weekends of sexual intercourse (give or take a weekend).

What did you expect for him to do?

Granted it only takes one time to get pregnant, but a woman has to set her priorities and plan her future for her own well being.

Good luck

Update - For everyone who considered the guy to be a jerk.

Read what I wrote, understand that dating does not equal a life altering partnership simply because she gave it up too early and easy. Also consider the guys point of view - Did she have another boyfriend(s) during their courtship?  

Do the math = If twelve (or less) weekends of dates means having s*x during those dates then how do you figure when it is appropriate to stop using a condom? After 2 or 3 dates? 4 or 5? and if those dates were sexless dates, then how many chances did he get without a condom in the four month period before she became pregnant?

Her ownly option is to either keep the baby and do a DNA test (which doesn't change the guys mindset), but gets him to pay for his baby or TOP and move on with your life.

Good Luck with either decision.

Answer 11

some guys will say they love you and keep on saying so just to "get somewhere" with you.

If you end up preg ofc they don't want to be tied down they'll get up and leave you.

Life is rough

but you have to get through it

srry but seems like he didn't really care for you..only what you were giving him.

well I wish you the best

~♥Britxx

Answer 12

Sounds like he was using you.  Sorry.  But what the h**l were thinking having unprotected s*x with someone after 7 months.  You knew this was a possibility.  

Answer 13

Well first of all your boyfriend is a jerk! and he doesn't care about the baby because he wants to forget you. He wants to forget everything you did! So pretending and not believing that he has an x girlfriend that's pregnant makes him feel better. and what ever u do don't have the baby removed, give birth and try to keep it if you have the money, but if not give it to an orphanage where your son or daughter could have a happier life. You have been given the gift to create life, dint destroy it, good luck

Answer 14

he is probably scared and not ready for the responsibility which is awful

Answer 15

I am sorry you are living an all to common story. You need to tell your parents that your are pregnant and seek the father of this child out for at least financial support. You will be both a mother and father to your child, but if you come from a tight family it should work out.

Good luck.

Answer 16

WELL STOP MOPING AROUND AND SALP DAT ***** IN HIZ FACE HOW DARE HE DISCLAME Ya BABY LYK DAT UNLESS U CHEATED AND HE FOUND OUT HIZ BROKE AZZ

GURL STOP WAT U DOIN AND BEAT HIZ AZZ AND TELL HIM DATZ HIZ BABY AND HE GNNA PAY CHILD SUPPORT IF HE DNT BELIVE U GO TAKE A DNA TEST TO PROVE IT

Answer 17

  7 months is way to early in the relationship to be having s*x w/o protection.  You made a big mistake by getting knocked up w/o a ring on your finger.

Answer 18

Burn down the mothasuckas house....