My boyfriend just had a baby with someone else (we just started dating) this past july. she is now threating

Question

to make him pay child support, which they had agreed that he was going to pay a certain amount now she is mad because we disrespected her "girfriend" (shes bi or now i guess g*y) and is making him pay child support. he makes about 2000$ a month. about how much would he have to pay her a month? he has been giving her money every week, (an amount they agreed to)

she has done this before then a couple of days later she says she sorry and takes it back. what should he do?

and for those women out there in MY postition what do u do? is it hard to be there for a man who is in this situation?

Answer 1

first off get a paternity test done to verify he is the father. Then continiue to pay support if he is.

Answer 2

just try showing him that u support him

Answer 3

They will see what kind of expenses she pays and take her pay and his pay and find a reasonable amount for him to pay..I know in Arizona they can take up to half of the persons check who will be paying child support..Honestly for his sake I would go to court to settle the child support issue and get it in righting because paying child support with out a judge telling you to honestly means nothing..it is just best to do it in court..I don't know what its like to be with a man in this situation so idk what you can do other then be there for him.

Answer 4

Sounds like these people need some kind of mediator if they are going to get pissed at each other and change the plans around all the time. Let the mother file for court ordered child support. It would be in both of their best interest. If she gets pissed off in the future, say two or three years later, and files then, he could be ordered to pay BACK child support....even if he has already been paying the mother, since there is no record of it. Also, this will ensure that the child continues to get the support it needs, even when the parents are arguing. Also, once it is down on paper, the mother has no say in changing the amount, unless she re-files, and there is no guarantee it will change then.

also, you can probably find some kind of earnings table online that shows you how they figure child support payments. I know it goes by how much both parents earn.  

Answer 5

This is why you young people should not be making babies with whoever. I mean use protection for gosh sakes. You are going to have to deal with that girl for as long as you are with him. Never, ever sleep with someone that you would not want to be the parent of your child......use protection! Innocent little babies all over the world, who never, ever asked to be here. This is getting to be a world wide epidemic and is quite ridiculous. Good luck with it!

Answer 6

Your boyfriend just needs to go to court and get a court order for child support.  Sounds like the baby mama likes to play games and who wants to deal with that.  So just let the judge decide!!!!!

Answer 7

dump your bf he is useless

Answer 8

Was the support agreement drawn up by a lawyer? If not your boyfrined would do himself a favor by making sure child support and visitation are spelled out in detail.  This will stop her wishy washy ways.

I had an uncle that payed child support for his children for years, he paid her cash every week but they had no paperwork indicating the terms. After 10 years she was able to have him arrested for not supporting the children just because he didn't have a paper trail proving that he did.

One more thought, he can have it done through the court system having it taken straight from his paycheck to her account so it wont be accidentally missed at any time.