My boyfriend just left 4 navy basic training 2 wks ago. does anyone have any advice on how to get through it?

Question

we have been together for 2 and half years and are used to seeing him everyday. now that hes gone to basic its kinda tough to get through it. does anyone have any advice on how to get through it, that is going through the same thing or has gone through this before???

Answer 1

if you havent done so yet, join navyformoms.com. my boyfriend and i have been together for over 3 years, and he just graduated boot camp on july 3. hes in pensacola now. we still feel the same about each other, especially after being together for so long. we just couldnt imagine it any other way. i got to visit him the weekend he graduated and it was amazing but my stomach was in a know the WHOLE time. while hes in basic training, write him everyday. its their fuel. i got a letter from my guy every weekend, and one weekend i even got a letter from his friend telling me about how much my boyfriend talks about me and cares about me. it was so sweet. but definitely join navyformoms.com. there are plenty of girlfriends/fiances/wives on there as well. you can add me. www.navyformoms.com/casey2388

Answer 2

Get a new man while he's gone.  That will ease the pain

Answer 3

learn to be more independant... get a hobby, volunteer...... its going to be hard - but its not like its going to get easier, you guys are going to be living apart when he gets to his duty station whenever he is done with training.  

Answer 4

Best advice..... keep busy and get used to it.  Basic is nothing.  As others have said he still has A school and then being actually assigned to his first base/ship.  

Edit:  If you are a senior, then you will have plenty to keep you busy!  Your head is going to start swimming soon with your senior year and everything that goes with it.

Also, since you've been together for 3 years and you are only 17, please realize that he's making some huge changes in himself and his life right now.  He may not come out of basic the same cute high school guy you love.  You're still playing and enjoying high school and he has had manhood thrust upon him in a big way!

Miss Curious... please use proper English and spelling if you are going to hang out with the grown ups! :)

Answer 5

Having been through it, my advice to him would be                              1. Do exactly as you are told. 2. Pay close attention to detail. 3. Be a team player 4. Do not let yourself be singled out 5. Take it one evolution at a time, graduation day will come before you know it. 6. Learn the 11 general orders backwards, forwards and inside out.  

Answer 6

do u mean for him or for u?

for him - id tell him to keep busy (like almost always, but not so much to not call :P ) and missing u wont be so difficult, and that he shud follow orders and im sure he'd be fine.

as for u - keep ur mind busy and missin him would be easier to handle. plus wne he does cal (or wen u call him) u'll have lots to talk about - u can tell him about ur day, or ur week or w/e.

hope this helps.

ps im not trying to like break u guys up or somit, it just that wen u miss someone, its really hard to focus on other things. and its easier to deal with if u keep ur mind busy. this doesnt mean that u stop liking/ loving/ caring for each other.

Answer 7

Yeah, maybe send him that one movie, Full Metal Jacket just in case he has trouble.  Or joke around with him telling him something like "please don't chicken out and start acting like Gomer Pile like in that movie".  Oops, that was supposed to be for you, then in that case you should watch those movies to remember him by, I think.

Answer 8

Well write him lots of letters, but dont sound sad but also dont sound like your having the time of your life without him be very careful of that thin line. you def need to get a hobby one that will take up ALOT of your free time  and to be quite frank maybe a "special toy" for yourself. Start building him a kegerator or something cool like that :) Do not send him anything that is going to get him made fun of and make sure you write him at least everyday!!! point= keep yourself very busy and it will be over soon

Answer 9

Without sounding rough - you will do fine and need to get used to separations. After he completes basic he will go to an "A" School and then assigned to a ship or shore station - or perhaps overseas (accompanied or unaccompanied). I am not sure where you live but there are family support groups at every military base and you join the enlisted spouse group - you can talk and do things with women who are walking in your shoes and get educated about the military - it is definitely an adventure and will make you independent!

best of luck! You will be fine.  

Answer 10

its very easy to get through as long as he follows orders and is not a smart AZZZ

Answer 11

You wait.  The needs of the military will always come first.