My boyfriend may be back into drugs, but i found out wrongfully, help!?

Question

I hate the fact that boyfriend used to do drugs it has been a serious issue for us. We even broke up a few times as a result of his drug use and lying. He has told me he doesnt do this anymore and we were doing fine recently. then just today i snooped through his phone and discovered deals he had been making with dealers. what do i do? do i have the right to confront him, even though i wrongfully snooped??? he never lets me read his phone and it was an invasion of privacy. so do i have the right to even bring it up--if so how?

Answer 1

Even though you found out through snooping, he still needs help. Don't confront him angrily. Do it from a perspective of trying to help him. And be ready for him to refuse, because he might. Also, be ready to make an ultimatum: "Me or the drugs." And be ready to mean that ultimatum.

In the end, it is up to him whether or not he really wants to stop. If he decides he is, you can support him. But if he doesn't decide he is, you can't force him into it.