My boyfriend minimizes my father's illness...Make him understand?

Question

I'm going to find out tomorrow if my father has cancer. But when I told my bf I'm upset over the possibility, he said, "It's not like he's dying!", making light of it.

If my father does have cancer, should I be mad at my bf for belittling the situation or still seek his sympathy?

Answer 1

your boyfriend's an idiot!

Answer 2

I think you should seriously talk to him. He has not choice but to apologize. He's not right.

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Answer 3

Your boyfriend either doesn't know how to react or is scared to react maybe...or he's waiting to see what the verdict is.  

I am so sorry you are going through this--my husband was diagnosed with Cancer 2 weeks ago and had surgery this week.  

Wait and see what happens with your Dad.  If he doesn't have Cancer, which I pray he doesn't, you might want to ask your boyfriend why he said what he did.  If your Dad does have Cancer, see how your boyfriend reacts.  If he's still nonchalant about it, I'd still ask him about about, but then I'd seriously think about dumping him.  This is serious and while some people do make jokes to lighten the mood, him saying the above statement isn't acceptable.  Maybe he didn't know what to say, I don't know.  But if he was a real boyfriend he'd know what to say to comfort you in a time like this.  

Answer 4

Don't be mad, I think he was just trying to cheer you up.  Sometimes people don't know how to handle situations like that so they joke.  

Answer 5

Your boyfriend sounds really unsympathetic.  I would be mad at him now regardless of what the outcomes is b/c he sounds like he is only thinking of himself.  I would think twice about whether I wanted him for a boyfriend or not b/c he might take that attitude towards you, your friends, or other family members in the future.  

Answer 6

I believe your BF is right...We always want to get upset because we picture  the outcome as being the worst. I went through this same situation with my wife. Why get worried over something  that has a 50/50 chance? Why make the worst answer the right answer before you even know what the answer is? That's 100% worry. That's not good for anyone (added stress) It's hard to think this way..but it works....lowers stress and helps you make right and left turns because you see them coming ahead and try not to act on emotional feelings. Which is not based on fact. Thanks for reading.

Answer 7

he is an inconsiderate moron.

but, if that is what your looking for in a man, go for it.

Answer 8

You should be upset at him for his ignorance period. This is the kind of attitude that tells you he has no empathy for others, a selfish being. And you care for him because???

Answer 9

He is a boyfriend, merely a boyfriend. Nothing says you have to continue in a relationship in which you have to question his motives or moods