My boyfriend started having s*x with me whilst I slept. I don't know what to think about it...?

Question

I slept at my boyfriend's house last night for the second time. We are sexually active and have been for about 2 months now, I was a virgin before I met him, although he wasn't. Last night he woke me up and asked me to move to the middle of the bed so, half asleep, I moved and tried to go to sleep again. I could hear rustling from his pocket (condom) and thought that it must have just been in his pocket and he was wondering what it is. A few minutes later, I opened my eyes and he was having s*x with me! I was still half asleep and wasn't thinking straight so I just let him. He then finished and went back to sleep! What is your opinion on it? I don't know what to do. What would you have done in the situation? Any similar experiences?

Answer 1

Sorry but im gonna give you a rude shock. Just because hes yr bf and yr in arelationship with him and are sexually active doesnt give him the right to have s*x with you without your knowledge. The definition of Rape is when one act is forced on the other person without their knowledge or willingness...this indicates that he was forcing himself on you and u better make it clear to him never to behave like this. YOu are not some toy or free thing available him to satisfy when he wants to...you shd be wanting to do it.  

Answer 2

that's sounds a little bit strange my boyfriend Will wake me trying it on but will wait till I'm full on awake before going the whole way I'm sorry but i think you need to confront your boyfriend tell him that it makes you feel confused and also ask him if he thinks its ok to have s*x with a girl without consent he may realize that hes been an idiot and not do it again hope that helps  

Answer 3

this is just wrong... kinda like rape - why didnt he just initiate s*x while you were awake - you wouldnt have said no... talk to him about it - maybe he thought it was alright since you were half awake (men dont always think further than that)... tell him how you feel and if it happens again , think about if this relationship is really worth it

Answer 4

u should nt let him do it if he do it again  he will do it wit others girls

Answer 5

tbh, some lads do actually do that and if you wasn't phased by it at the time then you have nothing to worry about tbh. he used a condom, right? so you're alright in that situation. speak to your boyfriend about it and if you don't want him to do that then he'll have to respect you; if you never reacted, he obviously thinks you're enjoying it so in wish case, he'll keep doing it.

Answer 6

I see nothing wrong here....for he is your bf...so is all cool....he was in heat..you were asleep...well..he enjoyed you ..he did not want to awake you....once he got done..to sleep...normal.

Answer 7

I really think u should enjoy it too. I do it with my gf when she's asleep too. i try not to wake her but i'll go really slowly. i'll just touch her at those spots that she enjoys and she would already be awake b4 i really start. sort of like petting her to the mood. if she dun feel like it, she'll just push me away. normally, when she wants it, she'll enjoy the moment and when she's really awake, she'll still close her eyes while we strip each other.

i would say communication sometimes really would help. your bf may be in his sexually active mode/age where he will just do it for the sake of doing it. s*x is something that u must enjoy it too; not something to rough it out and let him enjoy it.  

Answer 8

did you enjoy it,if not it could be called rape !!!!!!

Answer 9

This is more common than you think, some guys like it occasionally. He should probably have warned you that he likes doing it, though. As long as you're ok with it, then no problem.

Answer 10

you should enjoy it.  It can be exciting waking up to your partner doing you.  I woke up once to my GF preforming oral - it was amazing

Answer 11

sounds odd