My boyfriend taking control of me!!!?

Question

Im 15 years old and preganant with my boyfriends kid, since i was kicked out of my house i now live with my boyfriend and his friend in DC. Recently today he was telling me what to do like whether or not to stay inside or what i should do, he never really hit me or anything like that but he did grap my arm a couple of times and even around the back of my neck. Im fearing that he might get even more aggressive and actually punch me or something. Im not sure what i should do since i cannot contact any of my family, i have spoken to friends though and they tell me to leave but if i did i would have no where to go.

Read my other questions if you want to know more about the situation.

PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME IM NOT SURE WHAT I SHOULD DO!!

Answer 1

Sweetheart you need to get out while you can.  I'm going through a similar situation.  If you have no one to turn to you can always call your local women's center.  They will take you in. If you need help finding one I can help you.  But you need to get away before he hits you and hurts your unborn child.  I don't want anything to happen to you.  If you need anything contact me at [e-mail].  Your not alone remember that.

Answer 2

Contact your parents and tell them you know you made a mistake and did alot of things wrong but you need them the most right now.  They are your parents, they will forgive you sooner or later and most the time when they kick you out they don't mean never come back.  Talk to them and work it out and if not go live with a friend.  

Answer 3

Contact any number of churches or womens shelters or maternity homes. Plenty of people to provide you care and shelter. Just stay away from the damned government programs. Remember government will always turn out to be your enemy.

But definitely leave. It will get much worse after you give birth and he rejects the financial responsibility and hates you for your part in ruining his life. Standard with many guys.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

that is a red flag that he is being control and a bit aggressive and could lead to getting out of control in the future. im sorry but you shouldnt be with this guy it will affect you emotional and possibly physically if he starts acting up!

Answer 6

That is a real tough situation. As a man I was always taught never put my hands on a woman thats what u dont do. If u dont feel comforted and protected by him then u need to leave. Ur man shud not make u feel fear and pain. But u being only 15 u need to realize whats best for u. Ur still young and if your gonna bring a child into this world u need to make sure u kan take kare of him or her and yourself. And also bring them into good and stable environment

Answer 7

This is very serious.  He WILL become more aggressive and he WILL hurt you and your child.  

You need to find a women's shelter in your area.  You're still a minor, so you may qualify for more support and help in staying away from him than is available to older women in a similar situation.  Pack your clothes at the next opportunity and go to a women's shelter.  File a restraining order against your boyfriend.  Do not ever go near him again, PERIOD, for any reason WHATSOEVER.  This is your chance - right now - to decide forever whether you will be a battered woman or a strong woman who will never subject herself to abuse.  Get out NOW while you can, and don't go back to him.  

Your child does NOT need to know his father if this is the way he behaves.  He will be so much better off without a father figure than with one who is abusive.

A women's shelter is your first step.  They will help you find a way to support yourself and your child.  You can do this, but it's all up to you.

Answer 8

Contact a women's shelter. If you can't find a listing near you call a church or the YMCA. You said he didn't hit you but grabbing you is abuse. If he's over 18, he's also guilty of statutory rape. My heart goes out to you. Please, get out before he becomes more abusive to you. Good luck to you and the baby.

Answer 9

Contact your parents

Answer 10

well, your friends sound concerned if they're telling you to leave, see if you can stay with one of them.  

Answer 11

hun get out now why you have a chance please i have been through this its not a good spot to be in he has no right what so ever to do this to you Email me please please my email is [e-mail]  

Answer 12

Ring mum or dad use a payphone and reverse charges. If no good try a shelter look on web for organisations that would support you

Answer 13

Oh my gosh kiddo. He is an abuser and if you don't get out of that living situation with him, your baby is at risk too. The red flags are there and they are big ones that he will escalate.

I strongly recommend calling a social worker and finding a way to get out of there. Or going to a womens shelter (they will help you find housing and other help).

I'm so sorry that your family kicked you out. Its such a shame that parents like that exist. Do you have any close enough friends who's parents might take you in immediately?

You can even just show up at a police station and ask for help. They can get you in contact with support services, as can an ER (just say you are concerned about your baby and you feel a little under the weather... and then let them know of your situation and that you need a social worker). Heck, even a decent foster home (they do exist) would be better for you. You need responsible adults in your life. You can also just walk into a church and ask for help. But I'd recommend an ER or police station. They have incredible resources at their fingertips.

Keep plugging away at the options I gave you.

Answer 14

You need to get away from him.  He could seriously hurt you or the baby.

Call here:

My Sister's Place (D.C.) 202-529-5991 (24 hour crisis line)

Answer 15

this is definitely a red flag. you need to get help as soon as you can. just because he hasnt hit you yet doesnt mean he wont, dont let it go that far! the fact that your fearing that he might hurt you is not a good sign. one phone call can save your life.

Answer 16

According to the stats and the trends...he will get more violent. You DO need to get help. Since you don't have family you can go to, try checking for shelters in your area, and they may be able to provide you with the resources you need. Also be careful about your online activities. He could be monitoring them. Good luck!!!

Answer 17

First, get an abortion, next, if he continues to be aggressive, contact the police.