My boyfriend told me to loose weight!

Question

Hey everyone. You know sometimes when your in your relationship you can get comfortable. Well he said to me that babe you need to loosse weight. "Your with me and I don't want a big girl". I can honestly say that I gained 25 pounds the first year together. Hey when I was single I wasn't eating barely. I'm pissed because i'm trying and he thinks I'm not. I don't know what to do. I need some advice. I think that he will loose his love for me or cheat on me. I am so tired and cinfused. But all I have to say is i'm young and beautifull he can love me or hate me. I need advice.

Answer 1

Westminster has no clue. I bet she wouldnt be happy if a bf told her to lose weight. I bet she wouldnt just say yes and do as she is told, so stupid.

At the end of the day it is up to u. If u are happy with how u look then balls to him and stay that way but if u are unhappy (and dont be unhappy if he is the only person to say anything) then do something about it but only what u want to do.

Im sure u are a beautiful person inside and out and quite frankly he does not sound like he derserves u because if he loved u then he wouldnt say them things and would love u regardless of what u look like. Im sure u have not turned into a baby elephant in a year and i can guarentee that he isn't the best looking or ideal weight either. Men are more sensitive then women believe it or not so maybe he is unhappy about something to do with him so that is why he is turning it round onto u. Dont change who u are to please someone else.

Answer 2

d**n.  I said the same thing to me ex-wife....Now I'm just a big jerky poopy pants...but that was also 6 years ago.

I'm sorry he said that to you.  It's what on the inside that counts.

Answer 3

Lose him instead!

If you 'weren't barely eating' when you met him, then obviously that was an unhealthy weight, so he shouldn't be complaining when you're getting up to a healthy weight. If you're really concerned, ask your doctor about what's a healthy weight for you. But, the main reason you should lose him is because he didn't say something like "Hey, I'm getting worried about this weight you're gaining", but because he said "I don't want a big girl", so it was purely because of superficial reasons, not a concern for your health.

Answer 4

First of all if he is ur boyfriend he wouldnt even say that. He should love u for who u r not for wut u look like. Wut u should do is dump him, loose weight then go near ur current boyfriend and just walk around him. Just play wit him....lol but again he shouldnt be saying that to u. Talk to him tell him how u felt wen he told u to loose weight. Cuz thats just dead wrong.

Answer 5

first off all

helll nawww!!

he shouldnt have told u that he should just love you the way you are

but on the other hand it is very important to stay healthy

and if he doesnt believe you

work out in front of him

ask him to go on a run with you

get him involved so he knows your trying

its a lot harder for girls to lose weight

i understand ..but you really need to stay healthy so you dont get sick or anything

lovelovelove

Audrey

=)

Answer 6

that sucks! wow, a little shallow on his part, but wow...if that were me, I would kick him to the curb! He should love you the way that you are in spite of the fact that maybe you did gain weight.

however, if you really love this guy and he is good to you, maybe the 2 of you could work out together? but, if he loses his love for you over 25 pounds, this guy is not worth it.  

Answer 7

Lose the weight!  You wouldn't want someone to let themselves go when they're with you, right (and trust me, I'm sure he's gained weight too).  I gained 30 lbs in my first year with my bf and it pissed me off, so I declared war.  I have a personal trainer now and at least I feel like I'm doing something about it.  Yes, you're beautiful and yes you deserve the best, but why let yourself and your health go?

Answer 8

thats never cool for a guy to tell his girlfriend to loose weight! u should talk this with him.. if he really loves you, he should love you the way u are

Answer 9

Drop him.  Live to your standards, not his.  It will be something else he doesn't like next.  Get out and find someone appreciative to your beauty.  Kick him in the butt and say "bye loser!"