My boyfriend wants a baby within the next year or so.I'm 20,and would love 1?

Question

The only thing is that I'm planning to go to university which is a 2 year course. The course is really hard to get on to and people try for years trying to get onto it. so I don't know if i should wait. or to have a baby now. There is never a right time i cant keep waiting for a right time. What Would you suggest?

Answer 1

I suggest you wait, you are trying to build a foundation for yourself. He says he wants a baby well he should take your feelings into account or try to birth one. You have plenty of time to have a family Go out and see that world then start a family.

Answer 2

I don't know what the right answer is, but I can guarantee that everyone who comments on this will tell you to wait. It always seems safer to stall on big decisions (especially when you're looking at a relationship from the outside), and with the idea in our society that childbirth means "no more fun", it's not surprising that people who plan out having children have them at the last possible moment.

I think you should carefully consider the changes that your life will take with a baby and make a decision that weighs the benefits of having a child against the restrictions in freedom without giving unfair gravity to either side.

Just to blow apart my earlier point and give advice, if having a baby now will interfere with making a better life for the baby, I recommend waiting.

Answer 3

You need to wait until you are ready.

Answer 4

i'd suggest that you wait. it seems lik a really important course and u don't want to complicate things with a baby. don't get me wrong, babies are wonderful, but u need to wait. u need an education which leads to a good job which leads to u beiing able to take care of your baby well enough (as in money). plus ur yung. u may not b ready to sacrifie your life just yet for a baby. i'd say wait until ur life is settled.

Answer 5

Go get your education!!!!!!!! I can't emphasize that enough!!!! True love waits, if your man is in it for the long haul, then what's waiting for 2 years.

I'm just curious as to why HE would want one so soon, most blokes I know would run a mile just at the thought, maybe there are other issues going here, like he's scared of losing you and so (in some wierd logic) thinks a baby will tie you to him? I don't know your relationship, but I'm only 6 yrs older and I still don't feel ready...but hey that's just this guy's opinion...

Dru.

Answer 6

How old is your boyfriend? If he's the same age, then what is his rush? You guys are SO young. I'm 23 and I can't imagine having a kid right now (and not even because I don't have a boyfriend/husband right now) You have so much discovering to do in life. You've barely begun to live in the real world, adding another human life would just complicate things. Get your lives in order first, live a little. I'm not saying that when you have a baby your life is over, but it will change forever.