My boyfriend wants another 3some?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years and have two girls. He recently started asking me for a 3some with another guy. Weve done it in the past before we had kids and now i feel that we have passed that stage in our life. I have told him this and his response is that its a turn on to him to watch me with another guy. He sometimes also wants me to meet a random guy and have s*x with him and then tell him about it. Should I go through with it or just keep putting it off? Or does this mean he doesnt love me?

Answer 1

Point Blank....DON'T DO IT AGAIN!  I've been there and it is nothing but pure problems.  That is one reason me and my ex-husband are not married anymore.  If you still want him then don't.  Your man is crazy or bi-sexual.  It seems that if u continue to do it, he's like ur pimp or something.

Answer 2

Don't do it...if you don't feel comfortable.  I would personally never fo a 3 some because it would not turn me on.  I am a "one-man" only type of woman.  Explain to your man that you just want to love him...if he can't respect that, then maybe you need to get some counseling.

Would watching p**n or something help him with his need to watch "others" having s*x...you could watch p**n together.  My husband and I have done that...it is a turn-on.

Answer 3

Wow. If you don't want to have s*x with another guy, you don't have to. You should talk to him about this and tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel.

Personally, I don't think that sharing my partner with someone else would ever be okay with me - he is mine and if I ever saw him putting his thing in another chick, I'd claw her eyes out and then break up with him. But maybe I'm just not the threesome type.. thank god my fiance also shares this perspective.

One thing you could try, as a middle ground, could be to role-play. Maybe he could pretend to be a "random guy" and "pick you up" somewhere, he could wear different clothes, style his hair different, and you could even do the same so it feels like you're different people. Then just happen to meet up somewhere and have an exciting experience with him pretending you are different people. He may like this idea if you refuse to have s*x with another man.

Another suggestion may be to have him pretend to be another man and put mirrors around you so he sees "another man" having s*x with you, while it is in fact him. If he can get into that mindset, he may get really turned on by it. If not, then maybe just pretend you did have some secret rendezvous with a random guy and give him the dirty talk he wants, you don't necessarily have to do it. If he's getting turned on by it, that's what he wants.

And as for him loving you, he probably loves you even though he has a desire to see you with another man. In my experience, men would be jealous to see that, so maybe it is a good sign that he feels you are comfortable enough and really dedicated to him not to run off with someone else even if you had s*x with them.

Good luck, communication is key!

Answer 4

First off, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  It is simply a turn on for him.  However, he needs to respect your feelings in this.  If it is no longer a turn on for you then he needs to respect that.  You shouldn't do anything you don't want to.

Answer 5

dont let him push you into diong it if your not comfortable ,..... one thing that you can do when you guys are doing your buisness tell him a story of what he wants to hear...... just try it ..... it might work

good luck

Answer 6

Yeah, it is time to cut the strings.  He is gonna owe you some good child support.  He is diggin it with guys, and whatever you do, do not become his s*x surrogate.  that is just wrong.  

Answer 7

It just means it is a kinky thing he likes.  If you don't want to do it, don't do it.

Doing it even though he wants you to kind of makes one a ****.