My boyfriend wants me to get rid of baby.?

Question

My boyfriend wanted a baby but then we decided it wasn't a good idea until everythings sorted with me ..good career ect He has a good career, hes much older than me. I'm 18 I found out im pregnant and he doesn't want me to have the baby. what shall i do? I'm a dancer and at college soon.

Answer 1

have the baby give it 2 your mom or auntie. If u don't u may regret it. At least this way u can always go back and get your baby. A baby is a beautiful thing from god and it may seem like a burden now but you'll see later that its a blessin so don't get 2 upset i'm sure that everything is going 2 work out and good luck

Answer 2

Do what you think is right, but my opinion is not to abort the baby.  Put it up for adoption!

Answer 3

Well he cant tell you to do anything its your body. If your guna take his feelings into consideration so should he and he doesnt have to leave his job because of it. If your heart is telling you to keep this baby then do it. Or at least give it up for adoption theres so many people who cant have children out there.

But dont be afraid of him leaving you and you killing your child because of that, i can imagine abortion being so hard to deal with. You both knew the consequences of having unprotected s*x so man up to your responsibilities and if he cant then you should.

Im doing it on my own @ 21 without my daughters father because he couldnt be a man about it and we are doing just fine. Good luck hun....

Answer 4

My granddaughter would love to be in your place, she wants a baby so, but its doubtful she can conceive. So many are like her who want a baby and can't have them. Listen don't have an abortion, it will be on your conscience the rest of your life. It wasn't good to get pg anyway in your situation of not being married and going to college etc. but now you are pg.  you will probably be in love with the baby even before it is born. Don't let the bf talk you into abortion. Hopefully once the baby is born you can work and still go to college. Will your parents or some relative help you now and also with baby sitting.

Answer 5

well do what your heart tells you to do, have you had a serious discussion with him about this? Do you want to keep the baby? I dont believe in abortion, but I feel a woman has the right to choose, but dont base your decision on its what he wants you to do

Answer 6

if he isnt ready than its best not to bring a child into a home where a parent is not ready. i say wait.

Answer 7

Have the baby! It's not fair to not even give the baby a chance at life because you two relized it was a mistake.

Talk to your boyfriend about it. If he can't accept it, it's his loss and you probably weren't meant to be together.

If you don't think you will be able to support the baby, try finding parents who can't have kids. Anything is better then killing him/her before their born.

Answer 8

Don't have an abortion unless it's what YOU want to do. If you do it for him you'll eventually resent him because of it and your relationship will fall apart anyway. You have to live with this decision for the rest of your life and it's going to be life-altering no matter what you decide. If in doubt, don't.

Answer 9

This is life changing no matter which road you take.   Think through the two choices and try to picture yourself in 25 or 30 years.    If you choose to abort, will you regret the decision?   Then will you resent your boyfriend for taking you into that decision?    If you choose to keep your baby, will it cause you and your boyfriend to split up?    Then will you resent your boyfriend for running out?

The two of you made a decision to have s*x and with that decision comes the risk you might become pregnant.    Grow up and accept the responsibility and the joy of parenthood.

Answer 10

You made a baby..and decided that "oh well i guess we dont want it and arent ready yet" so now ur gonna kill it?? stop being an idiot and think before you MAKE a baby...gosh people

Answer 11

Sweetheart he should of thought of that alot sooner. Have the baby...seek support within your fam and friends....and continue on with your studies and dancing (the PG13 kind I hope :) ) If he wont be supportive, take him to court. Trust me a lifetime of regret is not worth it and you will think of it EVERY DAY. You will not be able to SEE a child w/o crying. You can do it.

Answer 12

Me and my boyfriend had that problem when we had our son.

I was excited, and he wanted me to get an abortion.  It turned out that he was just scared though.  He almost had me convinced that it would be best to terminate it.  BUT The baby is in my body, and no one makes decisions about my body except for me.  The thought of terminating the pregnancy made the guilt too much to bare.  I wouldn't be able to live with my self if I had done it.  I was (and still am) perfectly healthy, and so was the baby, and being scared is not an adequate reason for such measures.

     Our son is 6 now.  a couple years ago, my boyfriend told me that he was glad I didn't listen to him, because his son is the best thing that he has accomplished in his life.  And he has been a great father, just as I thought he would be.  Now if I could just fix his marriage phobia we would be set. 9 yrs of complete patience is NOT getting squat LOL!!!

Answer 13

If he wants the best for you he wouldn't be telling you to abort the baby. He should know what trauma this will put you through. It is something you will never be able to get over. I would ask him how devoted he is to you because if he will not stay with you because you want to keep his baby then you shouldn't be with this guy!

Please, if you want to keep your baby then do! I can't begin to explain to you what joy a baby brings. There is no bigger miracle than that of life!

Answer 14

Your boyfriend wants you to get rid of your baby? Maybe your baby wants you to get rid or your boyfriend. You're right, you will regret aborting. You can still go to college and dance with a baby.

Answer 15

if he really wants the best for u telling u to get rid of the baby that's not the way show it he should support u instead    i hope u don't get rid of the baby because u will regretted

HOPE THIS HELPS

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 16

I dont believe in abortion, and if he wanted a baby before he'll probably ending loving it because even do this is not the best timefor him the baby is there and is yours you can still finish college may be not as soon as you'll like but you can do it and if he helps better

Answer 17

A person that cares about you and respects you wouldn't suggest an abortion, he would be getting down on one knee.

If you have already spoken about your want to keep the baby, then there is NO way to NOT be mean when suggesting abortion! You deserve better treatment!

Answer 18

what do you feel you should do? Because honestly, your the one that has to live with your decision either way. I would really think alot about this decision, it will effect you the rest of your life, long after the two of you either stay together or break up.

By the way, I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first and also a dancer. I had my little boy and continued my college education. I continued to dance after the baby was born too. I will be going into the nursing program this fall and I am pregnant with my second one right now. Children do not ruin your chances of success, they just make you strive even harder!!!

Answer 19

Kick him to the curb.  He obviously doesn't care what you want.  What's done is done.  It is up to you, but don't do it because he wants you to.  I got pregnant at 18 and thought about abortion too.  When I brought it up, he was all up for it.  He didn't care either way.  One guess where he is now.  I have my son.  He is now 5 and I don't regret having him.  I recently lost a baby and I now know that if I would have killed him, I would have regretted it for the rest of my life.  Many women juggle career, school, and motherhood.  I believe you can do it too.  I hope this helped.

Answer 20

Dont abort!

I would take a baby in a heartbeat to save it's life! You'e already pregnant, if he dosen't want it and yu do, maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship with him. If neither of you want the baby, ADOPTION!

Answer 21

It sounds like he's scared and selfish.  If he's much older than you and has a good career, why would he not be willing to care for you and his baby?  A lot of guys who are afraid of losing their girl will say they want a baby.  That pulls on the girl's heartstrings and she stays with him thinking he really loves her.  Not that that is what your boyfriend is doing, but is it a possibility?  I say keep the baby, no baby deserves to die.  And get rid of the boyfriend.  If he really loves you, he'll be willing to do whatever it takes to take care of you and your baby that he gave you.  He should be thrilled about the life that has been created by your shared love for each other, not telling you to become a murderer because you don't have a good enough job!  If in the end you decide you can't care for the baby, please put it up for adoption.  There are so many people who can't have babies that want desperately to adopt.  I wish you all the best, sweetie.

Answer 22

If you don't want the baby put it up for adoption but really people can still have a baby and get a career going.  My cousin has 1 son at home and is pregnant with another and she is a pediatric nurse now (just graduated) and my niece went through the same program during her third pregnancy and just graduated.  They have a career and their kids and do just fine.  You may have to take some time off yes later in your pregnancy but that will happen no matter how far into your career you are.

Answer 23

If he is a good and supportive bf, then he would support you in this. If you want it, keep it! It isnt up to him attt alll! He doesnt have to go 9 months with extra pounds or pop it out! Tell him he is an a$$ and sump him! Keep it! It is whats right!

Answer 24

I'm not going to tell you not to abort .I'm telling you not to murder your child Your baby already has a soul .and a  heart beat as well . Know mater what your b/f is telling you now .its to late you are pregnant and there is a wonderful  knew life growing within you .cherish it ,love it protect it .give it away to someone else if your unable to to these things for it .But I beg you dont kill your unborn child .it deserves a life .

Answer 25

do what u want to do.... and remember it does take 2 to tango so if u planned on not having a baby for a while then u both should have been more careful when it came to contraception...i dont think you'll get anyone on here telling what to do, this has to be your decision... and you have also got to take into consideration that u may not be with the father if u decide to keep this baby. good luck !

Answer 26

Well, it sounds like to me that you two already made the decision to have the baby, and now maybe he and maybe you are changing your minds.  It is always your choice what to do in your situation.  He is legally obligated to help pay for your medical and child support expenses.  If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, he cannot stop you.  However, if you do not want to go ahead with the pregnancy, you need to consult medical experts at a Planned Parenthood clinic in your state AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.  the sooner you get medical treatment the less invasive and extensive the medical treatment will need to be to terminate the pregnancy.  If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, you should talk with him and I hope that he continues to support you and to be a part of your life.  If he drops out of your life because your decision to continue with the pregnancy, then I suggest you develop a close support system of family and friends to help you through this time.  And then you can file a paternity and child support claim against him in your local state family court.   Good luck, I'm sure everything will work out and that you will be able to go to school part time with a child or otherwise make your life what you want it to be whether you have the child or not.

Answer 27

doO what yoOu feel iis riight_

Answer 28

Well, he can't FORCE you into anything, but you do need to take his feelings into consideration. Do you want the baby? If you decide not to keep it, please consider adoption. That baby didn't ask to be created, and doesn't deserve to die...

Answer 29

Don't abort the baby.  If you truly can't keep it, then put it up for adoption.  There are plenty of people who want babies.

Answer 30

Well sadly you are the only one that can decide that , I suppose it depends on how much you love him.

He really cant just decide he doesnt want the baby now its on its way , can you  live with someone that wants you to kill your own baby.

Is he ever going to want a baby , do you want a baby , if you do you will never forgive yourself if you do decide to terminate