My boyfriend wants me to ride him?!?

Question

Hello.

Im 14 year old guy with a boyfriend.

We have been going out for a while and he has been taking me to parties and out to lunch and i really am getting along great with him.

He is extremely sexual at times hes always touching me even if i dont want him too and he always asks for head.

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i've never done anything else.

Now my boyfriend told me "he wants me to ride him"

Im scared, what does this mean.

Why am i not as ready as this then he is?!

HALP!

Answer 1

That's way too nasty for me dude

Answer 2

Alright, I'm going to answer all of your questions first, then give some of my advice.  =)  When he says he wants you to ride him, he means anal s*x.  He wants you to receive the anal s*x.  The reason for you not being ready is that you are still very young.  I mean, at 14 you don't even know all of these sexual terms yet, so there's nothing wrong with you.  Plus, since you guys are so young you are probably unsure of your feelings for him.  Are they strong enough to do all these things he wants?  It's okay to say no to that.  You don't need to be ready for everything yet.

    As for snowballing, that basically means you swap each other's s***n from mouth to mouth.  Kind of like kissing with, um, sperm involved.

   Now for my advice: first of all, make sure he is disease free. He seems to know a lot about sexual things, and that's a risk you don't want to take at 14.  So always use protection if you are unsure of your partner's STD status.  Also, don't do anything you aren't ready for.  When he touches you and you don't want him to, tell him that.  He has no right to get head from you whenever he feels like it.  If you want to do those things with him, then go for it.  If you want to give it some more time, that's good, too.

   The important thing is that you are not uncomfortable with your actions.

Good night!  =)

Answer 3

Tell him you're uncomfortable with all these things and be honest with him. What are these things he's asking you to do??? If you can't be honest with him, then you must not feel comfortable around him. And if you don't even feel comfortable enough to verbally open up, why are you even sucking him off?

One step at a time. Don't forget to keep a standard. If he's ready to do stuff and he's pressuring you to follow him at his faster pace, you don't have to do it. Take YOUR time. If he can't deal with that, he doesn't meet your standards.

Answer 4

anal s*x

bl0wjob

suck (well duh)

Answer 5

HE WILL GIVE YOU AIDS  

Answer 6

remember no glove no love.  

Answer 7

If your boyfriend is pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, DON'T DO IT. be a strong woman and stand up for yourself. you don't need him.

kick his butt to the curb and tell him to find some other ho

Answer 8

I don't know what snowballing is, I've never even heard of it, and I am fairly vanilla.

However -- I had my first b/f at 13 -- and by 14 we were doing everything sexual  you can imagine, every time we had the opportunity.  

If your s*x drive is seriously different from his -- and neither of you is willing to compromise, you may want to consider separating.  

On the other hand -- I have to absolutely disagree with several of the puritans above me.  For example -- the person who says that oral s*x endangers you for Herpes -- ONLY IF YOUR PARTNER IS INFECTED.  If you two are monogamous and were virgins when you started there is NO RISK AT ALL of sexually transmitted diseases as long as you stay monogamous.  So don't buy the fear route that some of my fellow answerers feel falsely obligated to feed you -- its disgusting and false.

Kind thoughts,

Hermes

Answer 9

Put a saddle on him and ride that bad boy.

Answer 10

he wants to be your b!t6h dontcha know! he wants u inside him !

Answer 11

You are too young for this c**p

and you need to leave this loser alone

he is using you you silly boy

Answer 12

You should not do anything that you don't want to do.  If you're not ready, you're not ready.  Don't rush it.  I'd think that if your boyfriend really cared about you and knew how you felt he wouldn't force you or talk you into doing anything that you don't want to do.

Answer 13

It means that he wants you to get on top of him and start twerkin' it.

Answer 14

You say you are a 14 year old guy? with a boyfriend - is that right?

Riding him has to do with intercourse as far as I'm aware. Do you realize the cost to you even 'giving head'? - oral herpes is one - and with intercourse (anal or vaginal) there is the real risk of hepatitis; HIV, gonorrhea and if you are a girl - pregnancy is another risk - Get more information - better to get it now than to be sitting in the county health department getting an education after compromising one's health and peace of mind - if you believe your friendship/companionship are worth something, then keep your standards high and don't compromise them for anyone. Guys are thinking with their 'small' heads - proven by the fact "he is always touching me "even if I don't want him to and he always asks for head'.

Your person and your needs are being discounted and down right ignored (read the last line above again). Get involved in sports/volunteering/youth groups and meet someone who will respect you - this guy does not and most will not if you don't respect yourself first. Taking you to "parties" by the way can be another way to get you into states of being or situations where he can take advantage of you.

Move on and let him find some other body to 'ride' - he will either way as 'it is all about him' - don't let him tell you differently. Sounds like he was a victim of molestation in that alot of victims become perpetrators and 'cross other people's boundaries' and violate them. You are in high risk territory - run the other way!

Answer 15

Um, I'd say get a new guy. I'm guessing he's older than you &

He's probably so much more romantically/sexually mature than you.

I'm fourteen too, so I guess I kind of know these things? LOL.