My boyfriend wants to get a tattoo with his last name, what should i do?

Question

I don't like tattoo's on people, I just don't see the point on it. However, my boyfriend wants to get his last name tattooed on his arm. I don't know what to do, he really wants his last name just because his dad and his brothers have it. However, I see no point. He says he has to "represent" his last name and wear it with pride lol but I really don't know and I don't see the point on having it, should I let him?? we've been going out for 2 yrs and 2 months and we are moving in together in a few weeks...so what are your opinions??? If I say yes he'll get it, if I say no he won't ... he really loves me and so do I so I don't want him regretting it later.

Answer 1

it's his choice not yours!

Answer 2

well, would it affect your relationship if he did it? or do you really have something against tattoos? if not, and its not that big a deal, let him do what he wants!  

Answer 3

i think a tattoo with his last name wont hurt.. just dont make it too big. i dont like tattoos either, but if he thinks its something he needs to get, especially since his dad and bro have it, you should let him. his last name is better than a dragon or something right? and he'll feel better about it and im sure he'll never regret it, its something that runs in the family. and it will make him happier!

let him do it!

Answer 4

don't do it.

wat if u break up??

Answer 5

My boyfriend has his last name across his whole back and shoulders.  See the difference here is I love tattoos so it doesn't bother me at all.  His own name is better then something he is going to regret.  If it really upsets you then be honest but I don't see the problem as long as he has thought long and hard about it and has it done tastefully.  I have tattoos and although I would maybe do them differently then I did, I do not regret a single one.  My boyfriend got one however that he hates and is going to cover up.  It seems like they change with age so make sure it is something that he will like when he is a father someday...

Answer 6

If you've told him you don't like tatoos, then the rest is up to him.

If it's a big deal to you - then maybe you should be looking elsewhere.

Answer 7

Names and tattoos are rarely a good idea, but there are a few exceptions and I think getting his last name tattooed on his arm is not that big of a deal.  The fact that his dad and his brothers have it does say something, and to him it really would be pride and show commitment to his family and name.  This sounds important to him, and all you have going for you is not seeing the point.  He does, and that is what matters.  In a relationship you have to pick your battles, and I just do not see this as being one you should fight over.

Answer 8

I really don't see what the big deal is.  It is not like he is saying he wants to get a whole sleeve done or that he wants YOU to get his name tattooed on YOU.  Obviously it is something that he wants to do, and it probably means a lot to him since it is a family thing.  Suck it up and give your support in his decision in whatever he decides.  It is his decision...not yours.

Answer 9

Should you let him? He's not 5 years old, and you aren't his mom. If he wants a tatoo, he's going to get one. Just because you don't see the significance doesn't make it unimportant. You probably do all kinds of c**p that he doesn't understand and thinks is dumb, but I bet you do it anyway.

Answer 10

It's only his decision, not yours.  You should love him no matter what.  It's obviously something special to him, and somewhat of a family tradition.

Answer 11

I think you should let him if he really wants it, it might be something that he brings up later on all the time.

Answer 12

it's kinda crappy that he leaves the decision up to you

I'm in a somewhat similar situation

my girlfriend of 5 years doesn't like the idea of me getting a leg sleeve

and while it's something I have wanted and been planning for a long time, I'd never get it knowing that she wasn't happy with it.

she's warming to the idea (I'm not pushing)

who knows, maybe you'll warm to the idea

it is kind of cool (to me) that his family is close enough to share that 'tradition'

but really, if he loves you, it would be really selfish of him to get it knowing you don't like it.

Answer 13

I think you should be wondering why you feel you'd have to 'let' him get it. its his body- grow up and let him do as he pleases to it. you should be proud that he takes such pride in his family and shares that kind of bond with his father and brother.even if you hate it- remember its not your body- and you have little right to question what your feller does to his own body.

if he regrets it latter in life, which i doubt, thats up to him- he can have it covered up or something. it wont be for you to deal with. its not for you to decide

My partner of over 6 years has a pink mohalk, my only opioion is on the splashes of pink dye on the bathroom door. yet he has no tattoos or peicings and i am covered. he would never have one but respects my right to decorate my self as i please as i respect he will do to his hair what ever he pleases- and we both take each other to see our parents looking as we do, because its even less of their buisness!

Answer 14

mmmmm... if he really wants it i think u should let him have it :)..

cuz its kinda selfish not 2 let him have it cuz u dont like it .. right?  

Answer 15

well if he really wants it he should get it....but he should not get it that big since you dont want him 2

Answer 16

I'm totally hung up on the "should I let him" part of your question.  It's his body, not yours.  If he wants a tattoo then that's his business.  Would you ask permission to wear lipstick or get a haircut?

Let him do what he wants to do.  It's a tattoo, he's not committing a crime, he'll be the same sweet guy he is now.  

Answer 17

i would let him get it.

if it bothers you that much then it wont work out. its his desision, not yours.

i hope it all works out in the end..

<3

Answer 18

I don't think it is your place to tell your boyfriend what he can or cannot do to his body.

It's your hangups and you have to get over them.

Answer 19

stop being so closed minded, its his body, not to mention guys hate controlling girls. You need to learn your place, and its not to tell him what to do!!!!!

Answer 20

Whether you like it or not, the choice is going to be completely up to him. There is no "letting him" involved. I agree with the fact that names are a little cliche, but if it's what he really wants to do, he will get it no matter what you say.  

Answer 21

try to confince him how bad it is!!!

and if he does get one make it really small

PS: this is something he'll have 4 the rest of hes life

Answer 22

All you can do is explain how strongly you feel and why. If he ignores, that it's a sign of his ability to be considerate.

Answer 23

Honestly, I find it quite pathetic that you must LET him get the tattoo.  With all due respect, it is HIS body and a tattoo affects you in NO WAY.  If my brother and father got a tattoo with our last name, I would not hesitate to man up and do it myself.  Support what your boyfriend wants, especially because his siblings/parents might really want him to get it and you don't want to form a rift.

Support him, it doesn't affect you!  

Answer 24

Let him be a man and make his own decisions.  If I were him I wouldn't do it, but then again I don't see anything wrong with it either and I doubt he'll ever regret it (unless you force him to take your last name when you're married-ha!).  In any case, don't weigh in on it and try not to make a big deal about it... it won't make him a better or worse boyfriend to you.

Answer 25

just let him know how u feel. but gotta let him do what he wants

Answer 26

I think you should let him do it if it is what he wants. The thing is that his last name will be his last name. It is who he is, so as long as the design of it is what he wants then he shouldn't regret it. However, just because his dad and brothers have it really isn't always the reason. As long as he wants it he should have it. If you love him, then you should love him for who he is, not what's on his body.

Answer 27

Okay, so I personally think that if he wants it, he should be able to get it.  I mean the way things sound, it seems like it's kind off like a family thing, like a tradition.  Just because you don't see significance of it, doesn't mean that it's not important to him.  If really feel strongly about this, then maybe you should discuss him getting it somewhere a little less visible than his arm.  Of course, you should talk to him and discuss if it really will be all that important to him, of if he just wants it because, explain that you don't want him regretting getting it or not getting it.  Really I think taking away his choice by strictly telling him that he can not get it, would put a bit of a strain on the relationship, especially if he really and truly wants to get it.  Just talk to him about it.