My boyfriend wants to have a baby.?

Question

And he doesn't have a job. I work and have benefits, he does not want to talk about this. He gets very angry when I say, I would be better off as a single mother. Is this mean to say?

Answer 1

He needs to get a job so he can support his family before he even thinks about starting  one.Does he think you will continue working through the whole pregnancy & after you have given birth?Money doesn't grow on trees.You are not mean by saying that he needs to realise he is the man of the house there for he should provide.

Answer 2

If you love him, tell him to get a job and then a marriage license!!  Premarital s*x is not the thing to do. As far as a "single mom", it is tough trying to work and take care of a child, but it can be done. I myself have done that.... It ain't easy. Goood luck, dear.

Answer 3

Buy him a cabbage patch doll if he wants a baby. Honey, you will be a single mommy if you have his baby.  He will probably not take any responsibility once you have it.  He will be out the door a minute after you tell him you are pregnant.    He doesn't have a job?  Nice!

Answer 4

kind of lol

how about telling him you want to have a kid when your financial needs are settled

if he wants a kid he will understand so the kid can have a comfortable (or at least semi) life

Answer 5

It is inconsiderate of him to want to make you an unwed mother.

Answer 6

Does he have other good qualities?

Maybe he would be good as a stay-at-home-dad?

That's something you need to figure out, though, because if he's a lazy *** than I say dump him.  He wouldn't be a good at-home dad if he's lazy.

Answer 7

Open your eyes.  He is looking for a sugar mama that will support him and by having his baby you will be stuck for a while until the next sugar mama comes along.  It is time to get rid of this free loader and fast.   Being a single mom is not the way to go.   Been there done that and it is not fun.  Wait until the right person comes along to bring a child in to this world not just because you can.  Good luck.

Answer 8

He sounds like the type of person who will go for sole custody when you inevitably split just for the child support payments and a bigger welfare check......  clearly you see the writing on that wall already if you think you would be better off as a single mother. He is trying to latch on to you. The very fact that he won't talk about it means its true.

Answer 9

no, it's not mean. it would be as though you had two kids!

Answer 10

That is most definitely not a mean thing to say.  Any responsible man would not want to bring a child into this world unless he could provide for it.  Yes, you may work, but you may not be able to work throughout your entire pregnancy (some people get put on bed rest at some point, etc.) and what about after you have the baby and are not able to work for a certain period of time?  Not to mention the fact that he could simply decide to up and leave after you get pregnant, leaving you to raise the child on your own anyway.  I would not have a child with this man (I am using this word lightly) until he HAS A JOB and you have a ring on your finger.  Buy him a house plant.