My boyfriend wants to have s*x with me but there is a problem he is 18 and i am 13! please help wat do i do?

Question

help!!!

Answer 1

That is considered RAPE!! If he wants to that badley and you dont want to then let him decide if he wants it that bad to break up with you , then so be it... if he doesnt care then thats good .... tell him that you are not ready and if he is okay with it that is fantastic ... but i would nt do it with him just beacause of the major age difference ... .

Answer 2

If you are 13, then why the h**l are u dating an 18yr old????? Clearly he wants your body not u, so get away from him. He'll end up in jail anway!

Answer 3

if u want have s*x do it 13 sounds a little young i was 15 my first time it was fun but nithing special she was 18 ppl mature differently if u want to have s*x dont lsiten to all these jack asses telling u waht to do in the end ur only one who really decide have fun dont get pregnant and dont be pressured

GOOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

You should not be dating him. Period. You're a child, whether you want to believe it or not. He is an adult, and if you have s*x with him, that is considered rape and he could go to jail. He's obviously just a scum, if he's trying to get 13 year olds to have s*x with him.

You need to break up with him now! Actually, don't break up with him. Get your parents into it. This situation isn't safe, and you know that or you wouldn't have asked. Tell your parents that you are in danger and need to be kept away from this guy. He may seem harmless, but he is not!!

Answer 5

Please break up with him. You are WAY too young to be going out with an 18 y. old guy. Think about it, what if there are consequences after you give in to him, are you willing to be responsible and do the right thing?

Answer 6

Well that was pretty much expected. If he isn't waiting for marriage normal couples have s*x after the first month or two.

Youre way too young to be dating someone almost or already out of HS. Why? Because this is when it hits the "adult" portion of dating. Eighteen-year-old boys are going to want to mess around a little bit. And it should not be with a 13-year-old girl.

You do not know what is normal in a relationship and what is not. How is he asking for it? How long have you been dating? What is he like in general. Youre way too young to notice warning signs and atleast have a semi good idea of what he wants from you. When you are older you will be able to make a mature choice about s*x and know who is not going to leave you after. Yes, people leave, but when you are older you have a better chance of understanding who may not leave and use you.

Answer 7

I remember those years. I dated an 18 year old man when I was in 8th grade. The difference was, I thought he was in high school. Later I found out he was a lier. He wanted to have s*x with me. He eventually started trying to get me to have s*x. But my dad stopped the relationship. I am fortunate he did. Older guys are very convincing.

Another story:

I was just a year older than you when I met my kids father. He was older than me. I was head over heels in love with him and ended up pregnant.

I then had to grow up and take on responsibility. I had to take care of a baby while all my friends were having fun. I was home being a mother. I could hardly ever go anywhere except school. I had to bring the baby everywhere I went. I then would enter into the long journey of struggling.

My kids and I have been poor, broke, lived in a crappy one bedroom apartment because I couldn't afford a bigger one. I have struggle years without receiving child support payments from their dad because he could not keep a job.  

Now my daughter and son are teens. They understand how hard it is to be a parent because they saw how hard I struggled to raise them on my own.

What I taught my daughter was to come to me before she decides she is ready to date so that we can have a talk. Boys have tried to get her to have s*x with them. She has turned them down. She has said that she wants to wait. Hopefully she continues to wait until she is grown and in a loving relationship.

These are the things I talked to my daughter about to get her to understand if she is ready for a big step like that:

Can you financially support a family if you were to accidentally get pregnant?

Are you mature enough to handle having a child or face the consequences of contracting and STD?

Are you emotionally ready for a relationship, can you work things out to an agreement with your significant other without having dumb arguments and walking out on each other?

Do you love each other unconditionally? When I say unconditionally, I really mean it. Unconditional would be the same love a parent gives a child.

Are you prepared to accept heart break if the other person leaves you?

Is the other person willing to commit to you for a life time? Are you ready for marriage?

If person is not ready and able to marry you and support a family then you probably should not be having s*x. I only say this to avoid heartache.

Right now, just enjoy your teen years. Be with your friends. Don't worry about if everyone else "seems" to be having s*x. Just enjoy your life, try your best in school and eventually figure out what you want to do when you have entered into the stage of life called adulthood. Go to prom, go to homecoming, find out what you like to do and discover who you are. The teen years are a time of discovery. While I don't regret my children, they are wonderful people, I do regret that I have put them through a lifestyle of poverty for years. We went through 5 years straight of being poor. After that I got a college degree. Then we went 2 years again after I lost a job during the 9/11 world trade center attacks.

While I am not going to tell you what to do. I ask you to think about how anything you do could possibly affect your life or the lives of anyone you love.

With this said, I feel that teens always need an adult or big sister to understand them and hear them out. Not everyone has that.  

Most adults will tell you what not to do. I will tell you what you may want to consider the consequences.

I won't talk about your older age boyfriend and his intentions. You already know the consequences of the age difference and how they could affect you two.

Everyone has expressed their concerns about the status of him possibly going to prison. Prison definately is a horrible place.

I know you care for him so this is a tough call. I want you to think about this. If the consequences could be harmful to either one of you are they worth the risk?

I wish you the best.

Answer 8

number one..why are you dating an ADULT?  its illegal and you need to dump him. after you dump him turn him in for being a pedophile.

Answer 9

wow seriously? you break up the the child molestor for starters. date someone your own age.....when your old enough

Answer 10

you have got to realize that if he's 18 and you're 13, no matter how cool he seems, there is something wrong with him. if he can't get a girl even close to his own age, then there is something wrong with him. too many girls are preyed upon by guys like him.  

Answer 11

break up with him. that's illegal. you can't date an 18 year old!  

Answer 12

Easy, say no, break up, and call the police. Why are you even dating him? That's sick, morally wrong, and illegal.

Answer 13

well is illegal for an 18 year old to date a 13 year old, and apparently he is not very smart either because he can go to jail if anyone report it, and he won't take no for an answer, so just get away from him, if he doesn't leave you alone tell your parents and they would take care of it

Answer 14

call nbc datelined and after that call the police and tell then to talk to ur bf and see what he said after that..it's call rape not s*x with a 13yrs girl and if u do it he's going to dump u because he can go to jail and he knows that

Answer 15

rapeeeeeeeeee

Answer 16

...you don't?

although i don't like your age difference, if he won't take no for an answer, GET AWAY FROM HIM. he doesn't love you. just your body.

Answer 17

thats sick!

please leave this man immediately.

you are not of age to be having s*x and this creep is obviously a pedofile...

saying no is definately the best answer but that could lead to problems (him getting angry etc...)

try and stay away from him. even if he is a good person he will end up hurting you because of the age difference and you not being ready for thing like this.

please think about it and dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with.

good luck

Answer 18

I think you should just consult your parents the guy is a perv get away from him  that could lead him into raping you or even killing you so you should break up with him.

Answer 19

He is not your boyfriend...he is a CHILD MOLESTOR!

Answer 20

what? this can't be real...

come on isn't it a bit sick when a guy can't get a girl his own age so he picks up girls 5 YEARS YOUNGER than him

isn't it funny to think that when he was 5 you didn't exist?

break up with him and call him a pedophile, cause sorry to say but it sounds like...

Answer 21

Dont sleep with him,for God's sake whats wrong with you girls!?Couldn't you like make a decision of your own?I just turned 14 and if my boyfriend who is 18 or 19 whatever would ask me to sleep with him I WOULDN'T!

Nock some sense into your head.He may be a player,he will wait if he really loves you and will leave you if he doesn't,he may be just playing around.You may get pregnant and get loads of disgusting STD's.Couldn't you just wait for marriage?Hmm?It ain't that hard,it'll be special to loose you V to someone you really and truly love,not any other BOYFRIEND no matter how much you love him.

Hope I helped,I must have been rude sometimes but then,had to make you realize.

Answer 22

tell him no and break up with him there is no reason an 18 yr old should want to be with a 13yr old sorry to say that but it is just wrong.  

Answer 23

hey im 14 and i kinda get what ur saying. i met this guy in italy over the summer who was 19 and i made out with him and it was so great he was perfect bc since he was older he knew what to do and stuff. but like also it wasnt serious i met him onse lol. but you wouldnt want ur boyfriend to get into trouble if anyone found out would you? but just do what u think is right. bc right now ur hormones our proble going off the wall right now or his is, so u should either brake up or have a long talk with him. but my personal opinion would just to end it now bc it could get very confusing you know excpexially if parents got involved and stuff. so just tell him u wanna be friends then maby be single have fun with ur friends flirt, you know what us teens do best. but dont make these years harder then they have to be!

hope things work out,

Answer 24

Sounds like you're not interested, and you know it's illegal.  Here's a novel thought- say "No".

Answer 25

I was 11 going out with an 17 years old I had s*x with him when I was 13 and we are still together I got married when I turn 18 and he was 24 now I am 21 and he is 27 we have 2 kids I don't regret anything I really love him and my kids I found true love. if you want to have s*x it is your decision no body else if you think your ready then go on head just use protection. he could go to jail just don't tell nobody that you had s*x with him good luck=)

Answer 26

if you're not comfortable with it..dont do it!! plain and simple!! don't do it just to make him happy..if he loves you he will want to wait until you're comfortable with it. If he isn't willing to wait then he doesn't really love you. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything. If you are feeling pressured it won't be enjoyable for you. Obviously you're not comfortable with it so don't do it! Plus i think that's statutory rape if he's 18 or over and you're still a minor!

Answer 27

Dump his **** now! Im 14 and my boyfriend is 18, but we are both waiting till we're married for s*x. If this guy is asking you for it, s*x is all he wants you for. He doesn't care about you he's just a perv.

Also he can go to jail for rape, if you too have s*x, even if you are willing, because according to law, you are a child and he is an adult. Until you are 16 if you have s*x with anyone over 18 that person can be charged with rape.

Whis guy is just using you. Get ride of him fast.

good luck and god bless

Answer 28

tell him "no" he could GO TO JAIL FOR THAT. its a form of rape, even if you do tell him yes. but say no, not matter if you're on the pill or use a condom or BOTH it doesnt matter, there is ALWAYS a chace you could get pregnant. i'd bet he'd run off if you did. sorry if thats rude, but im not saying its a lie.

Answer 29

okay... first of all thats wiiicked messed up. and illegal. and just nasty. seriously. and dont even say " i dont wanna break up with him i love him" cuz ur 13. you like dont even know what love is. i bet he just loves ur vag. sorry im being a you know what. but thats gross. what if he rapes you....

Answer 30

ok, big problem here, that is the five year difference between your ages. you should not even be dating someone that old, when your that young, what you should be doing is breaking up with this loser, and find someone your age, because wat if you get pregnant? you shouldnt even be in a relationship that sexual at your age, i mean kissing and what not is fine, but if hes 18 im pretty sure thats illegal.

so get rid of him, and move on to someone your age, who wont pressure you or anything.

Answer 31

1. Of course he wants to have s*x, he's a guy with raging hormones.

2.  You ask for help on what to do...there isnt many choices.  Do it or dont.  I reccomend DONT.

3.  An 18 year old shouldlnt have much in common with a 13 year old.  If he does there should be some concern about his maturity.

4.  If someone really cares about you then they would be looking out for your best interest.  Not trying to get you to do something that is risky in so many ways.

5.  Grow up and realize that what you want isnt always good for you.  He is gonna break your heart, I guarentee it.  DONT have s*x with him.