My boyfriend wants to smoke, But i don't want him too...?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. He has told me he smoke 20! Yes 20 in one night. im talking ciggerettes. Now, He is spending more time with his cousins ( Where he smoked the 20 ) Rather than me.

Im seeing him tommorow, is there anything i can tell him to try and get him to stop?

Plus i would want to have a child with him, and if he continues to smoke this badly it could effect out future...

what should i say?

Answer 1

You can tell him how you feel about smoking but really it is his choice if he smokes or not.  

Answer 2

Tell him he'll stink of cigarettes and for me that is the greatest turn-off of all time.

You could add to that the cost of them and also the effect on your health.

To smoke when the health risks have been known for over 50 years is just plain crazy.

Answer 3

Hi this is really difficult situation and I have been in the same as you, once someone starts to smoke it takes over there life and where they can smoke at is where they will be which is why he will be at his cousins more, once they start its hard to get them to stop they dont know what it is doing to there bodies, and the way there behave you will tell the change in him and then you might not like the person he has become, I would just tell him unless he stops you dont want to go out with him.  this is wht I did with my hubby, we werent married, then I was really angry as he knows what smoking does to people he has seen people die because of smoking loved ones that he has lost and I was so angry and so upset, He then was lieing to me that he stopped and im not thick I could smell it I said if you want to keep me then stop.

We then even split up and he still didnt care he had is cigarettes and didnt want me, that how it takes hold of people, we are still together and married now, I know he proabaly still smokes as Im not stupid but still I told him when he is dying of a somking related illness due to somking then I wont be at his bedside, I know it sounds hard but still, its true. If I catch him I will rip his head off. lol

Also if you he smoke you will be breathing in his smoke etc and then if you have a family they will think its ok to smoke etc, so it best not to even start smoking, people say its his chioce, and its also your choice as well to live with someone who stinks 24/7

Answer 4

You have no control over what someone else does.

But you can encourage him not to smoke.

Sounds like he is doing something at the cousins  

Answer 5

So you've decided for him that he should stop smoking and also you've decided for him that you want a child with him, wheres his say in all this?  Don't ever put constraints on a bloke the last you'll see of him is his back as he walks out the door.

Answer 6

" Tell him its a turn off when he comes home smelling like an ashtray."first of all L A U R E N, that was a good simile, second of all he can just put perfume on, and third of all you're right on freedom.

Naw i'm sure he smokes a 20 sack not 20 cigarrettes. you are just replacing the nouns aren't cha yea i know. well you can't really tell em what to do.

Answer 7

If he values you and possibly your future children he will stop now.If not, you have a very unhealthy person who can only get worse, I would not bring a child into the world in this type of scenario. It is not fair but the child at a serious health risk

Answer 8

nothink i think you should let him smoke if he want to let him  

Answer 9

Boycott s*x with him

Answer 10

0ffer a choice.

f**s or you.

Answer 11

I just quit smoking 2 weerks ago and I am telling you that is impossible to black mail, treat or any thing else if someone doesn't want to stop the smoke! is the person decision! otherwise he will do it on your back! do you prefer lies or absences? sorry...

at least try to let him know how bad is and how much bothers you!

good luck!

Answer 12

Just say you care about him, and love him, and don't want him to affect his health by smoking.

Also. Tell him its a turn off when he comes home smelling like an ashtray.

However, you can't tell him what to do.. He's capable of his own decisions.

Like I smoke, but my boyfriend doesn't, however, he doesn't mind one bit :] he knows not to moan about it cause its my choice.

Answer 13

Tell him ... Don't waste money to buy cigarettes .... Smoking cigarettes may cause cancer.

If you are taking his second hand smoke, it maybe harmful to your health  too.

If he loves you, he must stop smoking.

I think he loves his cigarettes and his cousin more than you. Dump him!

Answer 14

I understand your concern but quite honestly, there probably is not much you can SAY that will change his behavior.  Let him know its not somemthing that is not okay with you and that you may have to re-think a serious future with him.  If that dosent stop him from the 20 then consider it a blessing that this happened BEFORE you get married or have kids.  Again, there just isnt much you can do...if you nag and harp, he will just begin hiding it from you.

Answer 15

If you do plan to have a baby, then just explain to him the bad health effects it would have on you and the child.

Just remember that smoking cigarettes is an addiction, which can be very difficult for people to give up.

  

Answer 16

Warn Him If He Doesnt Stop Your Leaving

Answer 17

The kid is only 20 and you already plan to have a child with him haha what? I doubt he is really that addicted but is just to young to notice

Answer 18

if he,s at age, you can,t stop him, he,s his own boss. if you keep nagging at him, he will continue. just talk to him and tell him how you feel, but don,t jump down his throat.