My boyfriend won't have s*x with me?

Question

We both say we're ready, and we've come close before. We're going to be separated today because we're going to different schools, and i wanted to have s*x before i left because i see it as a way to show him how much i love him (it's kind of a trust thing, i wasn't ready for a very long time because of a rough past relationship). he doesn't see it as that meaningful, though, just something to do to have fun. however, the only times we've been able to get together have been when other people are home (but in bed sleeping), and he wants our first time to be when no one's home. I kind of understand, but at the same time, because of the meaning s*x holds for me, i feel like he's kind of shooting me down and rejecting me. is this the case, or am i being dumb? he said "I want the first time to be just us, so it's perfect, and after that anyone can be home, I don't care."

should I interpret this exactly as he's saying it, or as something more like he's not ready, or just doesn't want to with me?

Answer 1

Bravo for him in wanting to wait before having s*x.  You shouldn't be having s*x with him until you are married to each other.  s*x was originally intended, besides being the way to reproduce, as an expression of love between an adult married couple.  It wasn't supposed to be like a neighborhood dog running around mating with all the other dogs in heat.  Playboy and Hollywood have perverted what was supposed to be a beautiful thing to experience.

My wife and I have been married for over 30 years.  We both were virgins on our wedding night and have never regretted waiting until then to have s*x all these years later.  Do yourself a favor and save it for the honeymoon.  You will appreciate it forever.

Answer 2

The good thing about dudes is if they say something, they usually mean it. I'm sure he just wants everything to be perfect and private and special. Is that so wrong?

Answer 3

thats ridiculous. you shouldnt be having going away s*x. maybe he feels the same way, that rushing to have s*x before you leave isnt very meaningful. not having s*x is a stronger way to show that you love and trust him, because if youre relationship can last long distance without having to get physical, that shows its strong