My boyfriend wont have s*x with me?

Question

We both say we're ready, and we've come close before. We're going to be separated today because we're going to different schools, and i wanted to have s*x before i left because i see it as a way to show him how much i love him (it's kind of a trust thing, i wasn't ready for a very long time because of a rough past relationship). he doesn't see it as that meaningful, though, just something to do to have fun. however, the only times we've been able to get together have been when other people are home (but in bed sleeping), and he wants our first time to be when no one's home. I kind of understand, but at the same time, because of the meaning s*x holds for me, i feel like he's kind of shooting me down and rejecting me. is this the case, or am i being dumb? he said "I want the first time to be just us, so it's perfect, and after that anyone can be home, I don't care."

should I interpret this exactly as he's saying it, or as something more like he's not ready, or just doesn't want to with me?

Answer 1

HE must be g*y. I'd do you in a second.

Answer 2

You should interpret it just he's saying it. He obviously does want your first time to be "special" and the fact there are people asleep in the house at the same time definately won't make it that. He's not shooting you down, he's just waiting for the right time. The right time is definately NOT when there are other people in the house...I mean c'mon, what if someone walked in? That would be a horrible first time wouldn't it?

Answer 3

Just because you have s*x doesn't mean your relationship will last forever. Good luck.

Answer 4

Slow your roll down and appreciate that you have a boyfriend thats respectful of you. Whats wrong with how he wants to do things. Theres other ways to let someone know you love them besides spreading your legs. Keep your legs crossed if you can and appreciate that he loves and respects you.

Answer 5

I wouldn't take it as he's rejecting you. He just wants it to be special. I think it rather sweet. The first time obviously mean a lot to him, so you should respect that, and just let things happen when it happens.

Answer 6

They are both really good points and If he says he's ready maybe he's just making sure that is what he wants to do. I'm sure he does love you but would you wanna be having s*x with a girl in her fathers house? I don't know about you but my dad would kill him. I'm really sorry to say that he may not be as ready as he's saying and your lucky to have a guy who says that s*x isn't the entire relationship. Many guys wait for the s*x and then dump her. If he's holding out from you that just means he doesnt' want to insult you. If you love him you can wait until he's 100% ready. Good Luck

Answer 7

Having s*x to show him that you love him just before you both go off to different schools may be something that you regret.  Maybe he's thinking about this logically....which is insanely rare for a guy...but possible.  Also, very hard to enjoy s*x with the fear of someone waking up and getting caught red handed...although some people do get kicks from that...it's impossible to relax and focus on the moment.

Answer 8

He is probably waiting till he is older & finds a " good~girl " .

Answer 9

........... cant say anything iam too small for this

Answer 10

You gotta lotta rotten answers.  Ignore those insensitive boneheads...especially "the crusher".

Interpret it EXACTLY as he is saying it.  It is nice to have your first time alone with no possibility of an interruption.  Also he might be anxious with other people nearby.

Answer 11

are you sure he's a guy?

Answer 12

I think that he just doesn't want to get caught!

Answer 13

OK...DR. LUV SAYS:

i think that you are reading into this just a tad to much. the man loves you and he has every right to want you guy's first time to be special. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I promise you this if you wait until both of you are able, you will enjoy it much more. Think about this, what if you decided to have s*x while others are at home, and during the process your door opens and there is someone standing in the door way looking at you two. If its a parent then you know its not going to be good at all. If you guy's love is as true as you say it is, s*x is only a mere milestone that can wait until the right time to cross. That doesnt mean you cant show him how much you love him before you part ways. If its love, it will be there waiting patiently. Love is kind, patient, slow to anger, cmpassionate and understanding. So try to understand where he is coming from. He  just wants the first time to be a romantic and passionfelt journey that just the two of you exist in. Thats a good quality for a guy to have, most  guys i know, wouldnt care if the Pope was in the house. So show him your trust, your honor, your respect and all of your love. (I should be getting paid for this S***)

Answer 14

That guy ain't right!!!!! Be careful!!! he might be a mass murderer in the making.

Answer 15

his such a stupid to say not with that thing

lol...

i thing he tried to dump you...sorry girl

Answer 16

hes not ready and you should be so lucky to have someone respect you enough to want it to be special and not just a wham bam thank you mam

Answer 17

you need to look at him eye to eye and then start getting near each other and more closer then do a big s*x kiss.

Answer 18

... u check if hes strait? cuz any dude hu rejects morning s*x is either not interested or g*y. or just ******* crazy. or, he might be a rly soft guy and means what he sed. its impossible to tell rly, so all u can do is wait and c if he dumps u or does hav s*x with u. if u feel u cant wait, just TALK TO HIM. tell him y ur feeling rejected, all that. if he does love you like he ses he dos hel totally understand and u better make sure u take a pill

Answer 19

Take it exactly as he is saying it. He wants to wait until you are alone.

Answer 20

Uhm....hmmm that's tricky, because at first I would say he really just wants it to be perfect, but I've never heard of a guy turning down s*x....especially with a virgin, yeah I would say he's being honest when he's talking about the first time being perfect because otherwise he would have already had s*x with you and not cared if someone was home because hey, he's having s*x.

Answer 21

Darlin', he WANTS you. . .just not LONG TERM!  So WHY? would you give-up something so "cherished" as s*x with someone who is so flippant about it?!

You sound way-y-y-y-y too young, so I vote "thumbs down" on the whole idea altogether until YOU GROW UP!

Answer 22

he is right.  may be ur thinking in wrong way just trust on ur love which u both have for eachother, if u guys have really true love between u then distance dose not matter......

Answer 23

Maybe he just wants the best for you. If he doesn't see it as meaningful, then you need to show him what you mean, most people tend to think of it as a fun thrill. If he wants it to be when others arn't around,then your probably in for something big.

He probably means he does want to do it, but when nobody is around to hold you back, so as he sayed 'so its perfect'.