My boyfriends says i am being too defensive and rude. what should i do?

Question

i told my boyfriend. they are some guys at the mall asked for my mobile number. so i answer "CANNOT". then those guys say i being too mean. so i went to tell my boyfriend about this. he told me as a girl i ma being too mean cause i should like "sorry, cannot" better then just CANNOT.

*sigh. i am speechless. do u think i am right or my boyfriend? i thought is normal for girls to reject straightly with a "cannot" or "no".

and also, my boyfriends say i am having too much self esteem as in he says am too defensive of myself. well. cause his friends say i went out with guys through internet. they say its cheap to do that. well. but to me i don`t see there`s anything wrong going out with guys through internet. so i spend the whole hour argue this with my boyfriend. den he said ok. i am just too defensive. urghhhhh. what should i do?

Answer 1

People internet date all the time so that should not be a problem. And why would you give some random dude your number especially if you have a bf what's the big difference between Sorry and cannot. Same **** different words. He needs to get over it and that's good you have confidence its better then feeling sorry for yourself. Good Luck  

Answer 2

your boyfriend is controlling....of you are a secure person you shouldn't waste your time over analyzing whatever strangers might think about you...if you continue doing that you"ll go nuts.

I think you shouldn't second guess yourself, if your boyfriend is telling you how you should be... it is very possible he will always do that. If you allow that he will control, and brake you down as a person.

don't question yourself ever. don't let anyone tell you what to do as there is always another reason behind it.

Trust some who has been there.  

Answer 3

well I'm a guy and can tell you that the other dudes are being ******* and so is your boyfriend. you just told hem you cant its no big deal.