My boyfriends son is now 5 years old and REFUSES to p**p on the potty. He pees, but no p**p. ?????

Question

I have tried the positive toy thing that still sits on the fridge as his reward for FINALLY going p**p. I bought him one toy that he has for his efforts for trying one day every hour on the hour. (that no longer works out) We share custody of him with his mother and she's had enough and sent him to us. He will p**p his pants and he has NO PROBLEM with cleaning his own mess! (We refuse to do it) He is starting school in two months! He's FIVE and has had five years to train for it! How are we going to get him to go p**p on the potty in only two months? Won't the school refuse to accept him if he is not potty trained at age 5? And now it's been 4 days today and, HE HASN'T POOPED AT ALL!!!???

Answer 1

DO NOT smack him or make him feel like he is in trouble, this can cause more problems for you. You might find he has a fear of sitting on the toilet or there might be a bigger problem there. Have you taken him to see a doctor about it? My nephew has a similar issue and he is now 8 (we are still working with him and he gets more "sucesses" in the toilet) at the start he refused to use the toilet and would just go in his pants. Try changing his "potty" ie get a softer one. The reward this is a great way, maybe try getting him a new toy when he does it and making a very big deal and making him feel very good about it. I dont think there is a quick fix for you though =(

Good luck.

Answer 2

I just went through this in December.  My 5 year old was totally content pooping his pants, but now is an expert pooper.  My pediatrician said that he was just too comfortable with the status quo, so I made him "uncomfortable".  I told him that at our house, everyone poops in the toilet, and until he could do that, he could stay in his room.  I took all of the fun toys out ahead of time.  He had a path from his room to the bathroom and that was all the farther he could go--no TV, no computer games etc.  It took 7 days (and a lot of stamina on my part!) but he finally pooped in the toilet.  Unfortunately, he thought that he only had to do it once, so the next day he pooped his pants.  Back in the room he went, for 3 more days.  Then it sunk in.  He has had less than 5 accidents in the last 6 months.  We never punished him or told him that he was in trouble, just that people that p**p their pants had to stay in their rooms.  I checked on him regularly, made sure that he had healthy food to eat (but no treats) and all of the other important stuff and it worked.  This was probably the hardest thing I have ever done, but the payoff has been worth it!

Answer 3

4 days and he hasn't pooped. this can't be helped by your child... i hope you know that?

your son is constipated, you should add more fruits and veggies and fiber to your son's diet.

make sure your son drinks plenty of water.

good luck with the rest

Answer 4

sounds like dad needs to add more fiber into the child's diet and get him a full physical at the pediatrician.  the child may also resent you in his life.  step away for awhile and enjoy and stress free life.

Answer 5

Okay, so I don't know how much info you want to give out, but what is the home life like??  We went through this with my son a few years back.  We were going through a divorce and remarriage.  I took the kids to counselling and asked the therapist what to do about him having accidents.  She said that this was one way for him to have control over his life.  No one could make him p**p in the toilet.  We gave him more things he had control over.  Like, what should we put on our menu for meals, and what fun activities we should do as a family.  This is a normal thing that needs to be addressed.  Don't worry too much, but do get help.  The comment about the medicine is a good one.  That was something that we would have had to do if he did not start going to the potty.  Every once in a while he will still have accidents, but it is only during stressful times.  We will talk to him about it and make sure that he can talk about what is going on.  

You are also doing great having him clean it up himself  This gives him possession of the problem and also makes him responsible for his actions.  I'm not sure but if maybe you could say he can go to school if he isn't having accidents.  If he is excited about school, this will be a great reward.

Good Luck and keep up the great work

Answer 6

OK I HAVE WENT THROUGH THIS PROBLEM MYSELF. WE HAVE A SON WHO IS 5 AND HE WENT TO PRESCHOOL WHEN HE WAS 4 AND THEN TURNED 5. HE HAD ALOT OF PROBLEMS p**p ON THE POTTY.HE WOULD SOMETIMES p**p ON THE POTTY AND THEN p**p IN HIS PANTS..I TALKED TO THE DR. SHE TOLD ME ABOUT SOME MEDICINE THAT STARTED WITH AN M I CANT THINK OF IT NOW BUT IT HAS A PINK LID AND YOU PUT IT IN THERE DRINK AND IT WILL MAKE THEM REGULAR POOPERS.. BUT FINALLY MY SON IN THIS PASSED TWO WEEKS HAS p**p ON THE POTTY EVERYDAY SOMETIMES TWICE A DAY..THE OTHER DAY MY HUSBAND TOLD HIM IF HE p**p 5 TIMES ON THE POTTY HE WOULD GET A ROCKET..

EVERYTIME HE PEES WE GIVE HIM TWO M &MS AND IF HE POOPS ON THE POTTY WE WILL GIVE HIM 10 M&MS AND IT HAS REALLY WORKED..SO THEN MY HUSBAND TOLD HIM IF HE POOPED ANOTHER 5 TIMES ON THE POTTY HE COULD GET AN ICECREAM SANDWICHS..SO TODAY HE GOT THAT...SO NOW MY SON GOES IF I p**p 6 TIMES ON THE POTTY CAN I GET A TRAIN? WE TOLD HIM YES..WHATEVER IT TAKES!!!

NOW I HAVE A SON 3 YRS OLD WHO  IS DOING ALOT BETTER!!! I GUESS IT IS JUST THE CHILD!!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU I HOPE THIS HELPS!!!!

Answer 7

Does he p**p in his pants or in a pull up?

My son had issues with that but was 3 1/2 and finally started going. He would never ever p**p in his pants but wanted a pull up. Took the pull ups away and made him sit on the toilet when I knew he had to go. He did not like it at all but after a few times he was fine with it.

Answer 8

smack him