My bro-in-law's fiancee is fake...maybe??help!!?

Question

my bro-in-law's fiancee is younger than me by a couple of years.iam a 27 yr old woman and she is 25.she keeps talking me to the way a person talks to elders..ie,she does not call me by my name and she keeps saying"your older and elder than me and so iam treating you with so much respect!"..i mean she keeps saying iam older and elder on and off!! i smell something fishy.what's up with that..

Answer 1

remind her that she is only 2 years younger and it bothers her when she talks to you that way.  I think shes either a huge fake or just trying too hard.  I would be slightly bothered if someone kept talking to me like I was 60 too.

Answer 2

try n show her that being 25 and 27 is not much of a difference and why don't u hang out wid her a little more so that u both can know each other better.....maybe once she feels Ur warmth n friendliness she wont try n intimidate you....

Answer 3

pick and choose your battles.  Let it be "her stuff".  I'm sure your energy could be focued in places other than her.  Let it go, no biggie!

Answer 4

just beacuse she keeps telling u that ur older n respects u (a lil more than usual) doesnt necessarily make her fake or a bad person...shez just trying to be nice to u..may be someone guided her n told her that this way she cud gain ur support in the family..just the way ur apprehensive about her she might be about u n ur family give her time...plus when ur bro-in law is fine n happy u shudnt really bother...gud luc!!

Answer 5

LOL? is she crazy? your only a couple years older then her xP try to ask her why are you calling me and respecting me like an elder? IM ONLY 2 YEARS OLDER THEN YOU. tell her that if it bothers you

Answer 6

It sounds like she is trying to earn your respect. Maybe you should try to sit down with her and get to know her a little before you start judging her.

Answer 7

Honey it's better to talk to you with respect than to be rude to you. If she is fake, give her enough rope and she'll hang herself. I hope it turns out that she is just a genuinely nice person. Please give her a chance. She could be your NBF(next best friend).

Answer 8

I'm sure that your brother-in-law can take care of himself, it's not really any of your business.

Answer 9

Let me guess. She calls you Ms. so-and-so?  Tell her to stop the c**p.  I suspect that she is just trying to put you in your place somehow.

Answer 10

who is marrying her, is it you?

Answer 11

well maybe she was raised differently or maybe shes jsut being a pain.  Just dont let it bother you!

Answer 12

Don't worry about it, as long as she's not hurting your BIL. It sounds like the two of you have a major personality clash, but that has nothing to do with their relationship. If she is the age that she says she is, you ARE her elder, and maybe she has a hang-up about that. The next time she goes on about age, just ask her why she's so hung up on a couple of years!

Answer 13

That's Indians for you, even if their siblings are a year older, the give them more respect. It's nonsense really, because respect is earned, not just given because of your age...

Answer 14

She's intimidated by you because you're already in the family and is trying to respect you to have a friend in the family. Just take her out or go out with her once so she can see you as a friend not a scary sister-in-law.

Good luck