My brother's gf wants me to adopt her baby when it is born..how do we do this?

Question

help?

Answer 1

I went through something the same with my sister, but the reason she was doing it was because me and my partner lost our little girl and are having trouble trying to have another one. She told us if we didn't have it she would have an abortion. Social services told us all kinds of different things like in the UK its now not legal to adopt a baby from a family member and if they do allow it its very difficult as adoption the birth parents don't really see the child afterwards. We also looked at foster care stuff like that anyway to make it happen basically, but then when social services spoke to us then advised us against the idea saying that doing this would mess her other 2 kids heads up and me and my sister in the long run would fall out about it. But we all said we was going through with it still until she got to 20 weeks pregnant and she seen the scan and felt him move then it all changed social services was right within the family its more difficult. If 1 thing changes you and your brother may fall out. Yes they are very young and what you want to do is 1 of the kindest things a person can do but try and get your brothers gf to see sense will she be able to watch you bring her child up acting as a mom she might say yes now but she is only a kid herself it might do more harm then good. If she is giving the baby up 100% and will only give him/her up to you get legal advise i think they will tell you to go for legal guardianship then when the child has been living with you for 3-4 years permanently you can apply for something else, but they also told us that from day 1 the child wil have to no who her/his birth parents are. But you also cant do anything till after the baby is born because the mother might change her mind still, but the way i don't think they are using you i think they are both scared teenages and are not sure what to do, maybe talking to a counsellor. Some teenages raise children and are able to go to college and stuff it will be hard but at least its an opion plus they knew what they was dong and should take responsibility's for there actions.Good luck with everything and i hope everything works out for the best. To me that would be them bringing the baby up they will regret missing everything they miss of the babys life. Try searching google for legal advice or phone up some family solicitors/social services

Answer 2

Find a lawyer that specializes in family law. S/he will tell you how to proceed. If the parents are both minors, you may need their parents consent. I'm not sure about that tho.

I would also reccomend some counseling for the bio parents to make sure thisis what they want to do so that you don't end up with an adoption gone wrong and a family feud.

Answer 3

"they are teenagers and wouldnt be able to give their baby as good as a home as I could"

WRONG!

Answer 4

wtf??? thats sad

Answer 5

I would suggest you tell your brother to grow up and be a man. If he's old enough to be getting girls pregnant than he's old enough to be a dad. There are more  ways to help out your brother than by taking away his girlfriends baby.  Where are the parents and why aren't they helping them out to get started.  Tell his gf to keep the baby and take your brother to court if he refuses to help support the baby.

Answer 6

I think you folks should all go to family counseling before the baby is born.  MAKE SURE you disclose everything and that you all are in agreement. You will have to think about if the natural mom Still wants contact etc... A professional can help you out Then if you decide that's what you all really want contact and open adoption agency who can advise you of ALL the legal ramifications and rights of Both sets of parents.

Good Luck and best wishes!

Answer 7

You'll need to hire an adoption lawyer.

Answer 8

go to your local town hall, and head to the probate court, they will have you fill out termination of parental rights, and have them sign the baby over to you.

Answer 9

" they are teenagers and wouldnt be able to give their baby as good as a home as I could" This statement is really unfair to your brother and his girlfriend. I am assuming you are saying you can give the baby more material things because based on you screen name, you already have your hands full with a newborn.

Just because they are so young does not automatically mean they will be bad parents. Many teenagers raise very well adjusted children. She is young, scared and very hormonal. Why don't you back off until she has the baby. I am willing to bet she will change her mind.