My brother's wife cannot have children. Will his marriage work?

Question

My older brother really REALLY loves children. He just found out his newly wed wife couldn't have children. Needless to say, He was devastated.

Besides comforting him, I really don't know what to do to help. I suggest adoption, he said it was not an option. He said he felt cheated. (The woman knew her condition (her ovary has been removed) without informing him.)

Wondering what is the chance of this marriage can work out? Honest opinions please.

Answer 1

I don't think I could continue a marriage with someone who would lie to me about something that they knew was a goal for me. That was deceptive and even though she probably did it not to scare him off, it was wrong of her to wait and trap him in a marriage so he couldn't leave her. I'd rather someone be with me for who I am entirely, if you can't love me how I am, then move on. If this is something that he cannot live without, I wouldn't deny myself that. It'd be different if something happened during their relationship or marriage to prevent her from having children but she withheld the info. I wouldn't be able to trust her. He's just going to have to decide what's more important to him, sharing a life with her and trying (because you can get pregnant with one ovary), or finding an honest woman who care rear him the children he wants.

Answer 2

They could always adopt. There are so many children out there with out loving homes. You can get them when they are first born. Plus you get to take your pick on which one you think is cute. That would be good for them and a blessing for the baby!

Answer 3

It would not have been as big of a problem if she did not knowingly decieve him. That make the marriage built on false expectations. This is the primary concept why it will not work. Otherwise, I've been married for 8 years and need alternative routes to conceive. It dosen't bother my husband as much because he already have kids. Secondly, I didn't know of the problem at the time of marriage and Third, we have alternatives to my reproductive issues. Sorry, this is not the case for your brother. I would say he has a very rational reason for divorce, but think about the wife. She didn't remove her ovaries deliberately so she can't be faulted on that part. And I understand how it feels to want someone to accept you for you. If she would've admitted it, the she would've been judge for her health condition and that's not fair either. If he loves her more than life itself to marry her, he'll stay with her and work it out by other means like adoption or surrogate parents, it's going to take some compromising and sacrafice. Last, Although its your brother, be sure to not implement your feelings upon him, that's a very personal issue between him and his wife.

Answer 4

slim to none.  If she lied or ommitted the truth and he is feeling cheated an deceived and wants natural children of his own and she cannot give that to him than I don't see their marriage working.  If he wants his marriage to work than he would need to compromise and consider adoption.

Answer 5

of course the marriage can last if he really wants kids he'll adopt once he gets to no the child he wont feel like he's lost something but has gained something, garanteed. if the marriage doesn't last it probably won't be because of the fact that she cant conceve people love threw that all the time, but it will most likely be because she's already keeping secrets and the marriage has just started.  

Answer 6

Women have two ovary's, were both removed?  OR will it just be harder for her to conceive with just one ovary?

There is a BIG difference in being total sterile and just having a hard time conceiving! ! !

Answer 7

IF she knew this BEFORE they got married then she was wrong for not telling him before hand and he should divorce her.

Answer 8

Well Suzy, your brother and his hot new wife can adopt. How about it? The marriage can work if he loves her.  

Answer 9

Extremely hard and not at all are two different things.  Women can conceive a child with only one ovary.  It happens every day.  Do you know why she had her ovary removed?  Was it an ectopic pregnancy?  That is a very traumatic experience for someone.  She could be scared to have children.  Your brother needs to sit down and talk to her before he jumps to conclusions.

Btw...why wasn't this discussed before they got married

Answer 10

She really should have told him before they decided to have a future together but at the same time, what if she had not known she were infertile until after they got married?  They took vows, for better for worse, etc. so it's kind of selfish of him to at this point not want to be with her because of her health issues.  What is so wrong with adoption?  Or using his sperm with another woman?  Or if she still has one ovary left she has eggs.  Marriage is about more than biological babies.

Answer 11

Did she have both ovaries removed? Because I conceived 4 times with just one ovary.

I think the fact that she didn't tell him about her condition before they married was wrong, but again, she still has a chance of conceiving if she has one ovary that functions. But if she is staring off a marriage with lies then I'm guessing they don't have a lot of hope for the future.

Answer 12

why is adoption not an option? he doesn't want to give a kid a loving home?