My brother abuses me, please help?

Question

He's turning 17 and i'm turning 15.

He constantly pushes me, just like an hour ago. I'm sitting here, typing this in tears. He abuses me mentally and physically.

He punched me in the arm just a while ago. I told him to get out of the room because he throwd all my summer assignment on the floor then laid down on the bed. When he got up, i wet to pick up my stuff then he pushed me down. I yelled at him then he punched me.

It's constantly like this.

It makes me feel like i just want to kill both him and myself. I always have thoughts and imaginations about me killing myself.

I'm sitting here, holding a can of hairspray for when he comes to me.

I don't know what to do.

My parents are NO help at all.

I just told my mom about what happened and she acts like it's my fault, saying oh you're always the catcher, ignore him.

They see me cring and do nothing! it hurts so much

The only thing keeping me from killing myself is the thought of being punished by God.

please help

I also am transferring school and going to his. I'll have to go to school and home with him. I hate him.

He has no heart

Answer 1

hey, i think ur gna get a lot of people sayin brothers do this.

i have a younger brother and sister, they'r a little younger then urself. my sister is gna be 12 and my brother is 10, they constantly argue and bicker over little things and sometimes hit each other, but iv made sure that either of them comes to me first when theres a problem and they both know i care for them both. they make each other cry sometimes.

but babe if its gettin so bad, u really need to sit down and speak to ur parents. if they are oblivious to what ur going through. just do this.

next time he hits u...tell them and show them if he hurts u.

tel them if theyr not going to do anything to control him, then ur goin to ring the police.

n then do tht. u dont need to have such thgts at ur age. if ur goin to hav to be around with him longer cuz ur at skool together, u really need to sort the problem.

dont suffer in silence. just go ahead and ring the police or look on the internet for helplines u can call...

i think it might be under domestic abuse...not sure. but just google it and see wht comes up.

good luck.  

Answer 2

I am serious! Get a lock and something that defends you like a bat or something that would scared outta **** from him!!!!!! And tell your grandmother or aunts or teacher! Trust me!!!! If he did it again! CALL THE POLICE!

Answer 3

well tell ur mom that ur thinking of killing urself.and if she stills don't care talk to a teacher.

Answer 4

tell your parents or someone you trust.. dont let him get away with it... can you move in with a trusted family member? get the h**l out...... you are worth something and its a shame for you to feel like you want to kill yourself over an idiot........  

Answer 5

brothers are like that sometimes...but hes taken it too far!!! you should talk to him seriously. tell him how you feel. Hes hurting you really bad. And we both know that he cares about you.

Answer 6

I feel really sorry for you. I dont know how it feels but maby u should tell someone in your school like a counselor or teacher. If that doesnt work tell someone imprtant in your life that will belive you and trust you some one who will do something a bout it.Dont kill yourself its not worth it.Abusing is illegal and shouldnt even exist.have faith you'll survive bad luck will turn into good luck sooner or later.

Answer 7

brothers will b brothers

Answer 8

GET SOME HELP!!!! TELL A TEACHER OR SOMETHING!!!!

Answer 9

When you get to school in a few weeks, go to the guidance counselor and tell him/her that you want to kill yourself because that is the only way you can get away from your brother.  As long as you are serious and willing to spend some time in a hospital and possibly a foster home, it will get you out of the situation.  However, you may find that the foster home is worse.

Other than that, you have two options.  Continue to be his punching bag until one of you moves out or fight back.  Ask your parents if you can study martial arts.  It is very effective.  

Put a lock on your door so that he cannot come in unless you let him in.  Be sure to get your parents permission first or you could get into more trouble.

Kick him in the groin anytime he comes near you.  It won't take him long to learn to leave you alone.

Do weight training to make you stronger so you will be able to fight him.  If you can't get weights, you can make some with milk jugs and water or dirt.

Answer 10

Well, i think that you should report him because if he is abusing you physically, and hitting you so hard that he leaves bruises and refuses to stop when you tell him than you should report him. He can do this to someone else sucha s his girlfriend and you d really want to feel guilty for not speaking up when you had the chance. Before you report him, take  self-defense class. Don't let him push you around and whatever you do, DO NOT kill yourself or him for that matter. Also, ask God  for strength and pray to him daily and read the bible. At school remain as far away from your brother as possible.

Answer 11

my brothers were the same way. you have to fight fire with fire. kick him below the belt. dont kill yourself. ive been down that road. if he does anything at school get him suspended. spred rumors about him at school. dont take his abuse. worse comes to worse call the cops. then your parents might get the point.

Answer 12

Your brother has no right to do that.  If your parents are no help, got to the police or Child Protective Services.  If you are technologically literate, set up a hidden camera in your room.  That way if the police ask if you have proof, (and you don' have any bruises) show them the video.  Regardless of what you do, you need to get help.

Answer 13

I am so sorry that you have to go through this with your brother.

It sounds like you're at the point where you should talk to another family member about what's going on and the possibility of moving in with them for the next three years or secretly take martial arts lessons so that you can kick the s**t out of him like he deserves.

Answer 14

I don't know how you could summon the strength to put up with his abuse.  I don't know how you are going to summon the strength to take this problem to him and straighten this out, but you are going to have to try.  He is going to have to learn to honor Your person and space.

Sounds like he is having problems of his own too.  Maybe he wants to talk about it too.  This may sound really retarded but, maybe he is trying to reach out to you and is having a hard time finding the words.  One thing I do know is he is really troubled.  But You are not a punching bag.  

Please talk to your counselor at school or put away that notion that killing yourself is a solution.  It isn't.  I don't picture you as a quitter, I picture you as someone who wants to live, breath and have their space and to find their way in this world.  You only have the sum of your high school years left, then you can make your own road..

Answer 15

okay, people r going to say brothers are just like that, but i have never heard of it to this extent.  i think that u should tell an aunt, granparent, uncle or godparent.   or if u want to wait, tell someone at school.   if you go to a summer camp right now, try to tell a counsoler that u know or trust.     good luck!

Answer 16

I am so sorry for you!  You must really be hurting.  This cannot continue to go on.  You need to find someone who can help you with this.  Do you have an Aunt or other close family member you can go to?  Perhaps a trusted Pastor counselor or teacher.

But you do need someone in your corner.  The fact that he has more physical strength & no consequences means it will not go away.

You are wise to keep something to deter him at your side.

Perhaps there may be a shelter for teens in your area, like Covenant House that you could call and speak to.  They may have a place for you to stay if things get too bad.

It amazes me that your parents are of no help.  Not only does this hurt you, but this is how your brother is going to treat other women in the future.  Your family needs help.

Please please PLEASE do not think about suicide.  You are so young & have so much potential.  Make your life into something great for yourself and for those that you love.  Find someone to help you get this abuse to stop so that you can live to the fullest.

I dont have all the answers, but I hope this helps.

Always remember: In God's Eyes, you're special.

Good luck, I will pray for you.

Answer 17

Pepper spray - and don't be afraid to use it! Use it once, then always keep it with you.  

Answer 18

Tell someone!!!! If your parents wont listen then go to a teacher, counselor, adult friend anyone who will listen. This has to stop, and if that doesnt work do call the cops its called tough love. Dont wait for him to throw you in the hospital.

p.s suicide is NEVER the answer! I felt like that alot when my parents first started thier divorce.

i hope i helped

Answer 19

if your parents refuse to stop him from hitting you, call the police next time!!!

Answer 20

If your parents are not willing to listen to you, you may want to consider calling the police on him at least once.  If he's punching you, that's assault and battery and you could press charges.  

You need someone to talk to who can listen with an understanding ear and give you some practical advice.  Call 800-999-9999.  This is a hot line for Covenant House where they specialize in helping kids who are having difficulties at home.  A counselor there will be better able to help you decide how to handle this.

Answer 21

youre  parents do not realise how this is upsetting you.

you have to make them realise - i suggest you go to a school counciller or a teacher - and tell them you want to kill yourself over it. Then they will get all scared and you will be the centre of attention because that person will have to sit them down and explain to them what you told them.

try it hon. what do you have to lose?? you want it to stop, dont you?

or next time he does it, go somewhere where your parents can hear you - and start to cry. dont stop for a few hours and make yourself really, really emotional so they get a bit scared.

alternatively, next time he harrasses you, run out the door and disapear for a few days. YOUR PARENTS HAVE TO REALISE HOW MUCH THIS HURTS YOU

because right now they dont.