My brother admitted to my mistake?

Question

Our parents are really strict and esp our dad and he never forgives anything, like if we do something wrong, we get punished, that's it. (they are good parents in every other way so please don't say anything bad about them)

Well, I've done something really bad (long story, but I had some friends over and we used my dad's liquor which I filled up with water later so nobody noticed...my dad doesn't really drink and this was like 2 months ago and he only noticed three days ago) Dad got really mad because on top of that him and mom were hosting a dinner the night he noticed so this was like doubly bad.

I was really afraid to admit it esp. that this is considered really really bad, so my dad said that he knows it is one of us so he will punish us both if it need be. So my brother decided to take the blame and I didn't protest.

Dad decided that this was a really big offense and decided that my brother will get 50 strokes with a belt every second night for 10 night and 10 strokes with a cane every night when he doesn't get the belt.(he gets the belt on his back and the cane on his backside)

He doesn't get grounded because dad always thinks that the physical punishment is so much more effective on boys, so he is sort of used to getting it.

But this is really severe and I feel bad for letting him take the blame although he told me it's no big deal and it is better than me being grounded for like two months as this will all be over in 10 days.

I feel so guilty it is killing me, although this isn't the first time he took the punishment for me, but it is the most severe one.

I can't tell my parents that it was me now because we would both be punished for lying.

I really need to do something wonderful for my brother now and show him how sorry I am and how much I appreciate him doing this for me.

(BTW - he is 16, I am 15)

Answer 1

Your dad is abusing his power over you and your brother, his methods of discipline are outdated and illegal.

I'm sorry that this may upset you but being hit is unacceptable! I'm sure your father loves you both but he can't carry on treating you both like this!

You could get taken into care if the authorities found out-that's how bad his behaviour is!

Good luck and I hope it works out ok!

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Answer 2

you did the crime so now do the time,don,t let your brother deal with the consequences that you deserve, your brother seems to love you very much to know what to get from your dad just so you don't get grounded,just tell the truth,even to your mum, you don,t deserve a brother like the one you've got if you will let him cope it all.

Answer 3

A belt or a cane is considered child abuse and your father should be reported if he goes through with this type of punishment. You should step up to the plate and admit the truth. You should not let others take the fall for your mistakes even if they claim it is no big deal. If you let your brother take this sort of punishment for you then you do not care as much for him as what you claim. Letting someone take this sort of punishment for something you did is selfish.

Answer 4

what a spoiled and selfish little brat you are. You deserve the beatings that your brother is getting. you need to tell someone about this. I will let Yahoo know and maybe they can somehow track who you are and where you live so the authorities can be notified.

Answer 5

I am 56 years old and have never had any one make such a big sacrifice for me or any one I know, and to get back to what you could give your brother is beyond me he is a hero he must love you so much, your father on the other hand is to strict and spiteful this is capital punishment and should not be allowed its child abuse and even if you love your father its still wrong for your brother to take such pain for some thing so menial I'm sorry for you and your brother he sounds like a real hero and a brother to be so so proud of if he were my son he would get praise for his love for his sister    

Answer 6

first off you shouldnt havent have even tryed his liquor your only 15! I think maybe your letting your brother take the blame for you way to much your getting away with everything because of him and in turn your going to keep doing stuff like this because you will keep getting away with it and in turn when you grow up you are going to try to break other rules ones that will get you in big trouble I have been a police officer for the past 6 years and I see this kind of stuff every day kids s******g up their lives because of reasons like this so I know you said that you cant tell them now they will punish you both and that might sound bad to you but its not you both need to learn to take whats coming later in life your brother is not going to be there to take the blame for you and I'm sure he is not going to when you break the law and have to deal with the cops and not only your parents so you need to confess rather you both get punished or not but I also dont like the way your parents are punishing your brother as a kid I have gotten punished like this because my dad was a drunk and was drunk all the time sometimes he would hit me for no reason at all I still have marks on my back from this and knowing my dad did this does not help I dont blame my dad for this because he was drunk and thats just the way he was me and him dont talk anymore and your brother is going to feel the same way about your dad if you dont do something and I'm sure you dont what your brother to hate him because of you so tell them you did it rather you and him are punished or not lying is not a good thing to do and you should be punished for this but not the way he is punishing you but the only way to make you feel better about this is to tell them you did it I also think you should tell someone about this because I dont think your parents should be hitting you or your brother no matter what the reason is

good luck and I hope everything turns out ok for you both

Answer 7

Nothing against you parents, but this punishment is a little on the severe side. I am in no position to judge anyone you understand so I won't do that. As far as something wonderful for your brother, stand up and be responsible for you actions. Apoligize for your failure to do so before and I guess take your punishment. You made a serious error in judgement and you need to fix it before it grows and gets out of hand.

Answer 8

That kind of severe beating is ridiculous!  You should go to the authorities, but I don't think you will, since you seem rather protective of your parents.  I don't know what else to tell you.  

Answer 9

The only right thing you can do is go to your dad and confess. Your dad is cruel and abusive, and your mother is sick for allowing this kinda c**p to go on in her household.  (Ooops, didn't mean to say anything bad about your parents........NOT!)  You could call Child Protective Services first, then confess to your dad.  You have a really nice brother, though.

Answer 10

Instead of being nice to your brother, why dont you just do the mature thing and own up to your mistake?  your the one that deserves what your brother is getting!

Answer 11

I am sorry to hear your problem but you need to fess up and suffer the consequences.You have a great brother to take the blame and should feel very proud of him.The strap is NOT acceptable and I dont know how close you are to either parent but u need to let them know that physical punishment will not be tolerated.Your brother is learning NOT how to be a man by taking this but how to be a bully and manipulate people thru physical abuse.Do the right thing and fess up and if u both get grounded so be it.It was a lesson well learrned I hope,and you are a good person....if u werent this wouldnt be bothering you so much.I know u luv mum and dad but physical abuse is no good and if he doesnt listen you need to confide in an adult.Dont worry they will not take you from your parents,more than likely he be made to attend a parenting class where he learns how to dole out punishment more effectively.Good Luck...I just saw your add-on.He CAN NOT abuse him that way and if u luv him you will talk to dad or a trusted adult

Answer 12

That's child abuse. Being a strict parent is one thing, but physically abusing them so severely is another. I think you should just tell your parents so that your brother don't have to end up in so many bruises.

Answer 13

That's child abuse. I suggest that you call someone to take you out of that house. Your never aloud to hit your kids. I bet your dad leaves marks, which can scar if severe enough. You two need to call the cops or something. Do that for your brother.