My brother controls me.?

Question

It's true. Whenever he swears and I try and tell on him, he brings up that he will tell on my parents about when I drew in his 6th grade yearbook only on his picture as I remember. Right now, my door is locked to my room, the key is inside my room (I never locked my door) and I told my brother. He told me that he would keep my promise, only if I did 3 things for him. I had to be nice to him the whole week next week, I can't have any of my friends tease him, and I have to spend all of tomorrow without the computer. I haven't told him yes yet, but I don't know what to do from here.

Please help me!! I'm crying right now because my brother always controls me. My parents yell at him to not hit me and punch me, but he does anyway. I need answers really soon!! Please!! Thank you so much.

Answer 1

If you feel your brother controls you then it is because you let him do it.

Answer 2

Your parents need to do more than just yelling at him to stop hitting you, and you need to hit his @zz back. Who cares about what happened back in 6th grade, let him tell on you just to get it over with.

Next time he hits or punches you kick him in the nutts, seriously.

It doesn't matter his disability is no excuse for him to hit you.

I tell my kid if someone hits you, you hit them back, plain and simple.

Answer 3

I realize Aspergers syndrome individuals tend to be more obsessive/compulsive but your family seems to be making him excuses.

I would advise you to tell your extended family (aunts, uncles, grandparents) or talk to your teacher, principle, guidance counsellor at school. With him controlling you and your parents not doing anything about it is hurting you and teaching your brother that this behaviour is OK. If no one else does anything, you can call the child protective services in your area and let them know. They may be more able to get your parents to actually do something or they´ll be able to get you out of the house.

Answer 4

Your brother is not "controlling" you, he is blackmailing you.  You have, and will always have, the option to accept or deny his offer.  You can choose to accept his blackmail, or you can choose to refuse, and take the relatively minor consequences of the yearbook defacement.

First, remove the source of the blackmail.  If you wrote a bad word or picture, black it out.  Confess to your parents that you accidentally drew in his yearbook or you were upset when you did it but now you're sorry for it and want to make up for it.  Trust me, this isn't the end of the world, and a small punishment now is better than living under blackmail forever.

However, his demands are pretty reasonable.  You can live one day without the computer - just make plans to hang out with a friend at the friend's house tomorrow.  You should be nice to him, and have your friends be polite to him, all the time anyway, just as he should be polite and kind to you.  

make him a counteroffer - that you will be nice to him everyday as long as he doesn't hit or punch you.  If he hits you, you can be mean to him the rest of that day, and vice versa, but you both start fresh the next morning.

His disability is the reason, not the excuse - it explains why he does it, but it doesn't make it okay for him to do it.  Talk with your parents and tell him that his controlling and violent behavior is causing problems for you.

Answer 5

learn karate and stop crying.