My brother doesn't listen to me! Please help!

Question

My younger brother is almost 11 but he's dyslexic and has ADHD and has behavioural problems, the reason he can't stay home alone nor can he read. I have to basically babysit him everyday all day. I don't think it's fair but my mom doesn't want to pay for a babysitter, so she looks at me to do it. He doesn't ever listen to me and he refuses to behave. He teases my dogs and than calls my mom to get me in trouble when I don't do anything. He's uncontrollable. What can I do to to get him to listen to me and behave while I am watching him. He almost 11 years old and I can't put him in time out or ANYTHING! Please someone help me! My mom leaves in 2 hours and I need a solution and I there are several times when I have to get the mail or take a shower or clean up my bedroom or be somewhere when I can not be supervising him. What can I do at all these times and what should I do? Please help!!!! Thank you so much and please don't report me, I really need help.

Thanks!

~Lexi~

Answer 1

my brother was the same way so me and my big bro would find ways of disciplining him without getting blamed, setting up ways for him to get his own a ss kicked like tricking him into starting a fight with someone who wont take his bull, he got beat up a lot before he found out we had the power and we used secret threats from then on in. pretty evil, but effective. By the way bribery only makes him spoiled, his special needs teachers did it and now he always responds "what's in it for me?"

Answer 2

You shouldn't be the one to have to deal with this. I think you should refuse to do it.  

Answer 3

Does he take any medication for his ADHD? His Dyslexia shouldn't be a problem for him listening to you it should just affect his reading and writing skills. I know this because my dad is Dyslexic and he can't read for $hit. And his writing is horrible, i have sometimes had to write emails out for him because he mixes the letters up and he can't type very fast. Another thing you could try doing is getting him do things that are active to a point that he is very tired and just doesn't have the energy to mentally fight back. Also don't feed him anything with sugar. No pop most cereals he probably shouldn't have or candy bars. Don't let him sit in front of the tv all day either he will just turn into another fat kid in America. Assuming your on the East Coast Somewhere. Bribes work for people for a while but you can't let him getting used to getting what he wants if he doesn't earn them you have to be prepared to punish him. I know because i have two younger brothers that i have to watch all the time they are ages 10, and 7.  

Answer 4

what about go and buy him somethin...and say if hes good tell him u will give him stuff when he deserves it ... try and play somethin with him too

Answer 5

Your mom should not be leaving you with a brother that has behavioral problems!!!!!!  What is she thinking.??  I would have a talk with her and tell her this. Thats this situation has got to change. That you can not handle it anymore. That is not fair that your mom is leaving this up to you. I agree that she should get a babysitter.

Answer 6

i have the same problem with my little sister.

there are a lot of things i do to "control" her. positive reward works well (aka bribery) but some times even that dosn`t work.

he probably wont's attention and i my self suffer from ADHD AND Dyslexia. trust me its h**l. try and play a physical games with him. like soccer.

also treasure hunts are a good way to get him out of your head. give him a clue and make him think about it but don`t make it to hard. you can get pretty cool stuff for treasure hunts for 50c at a discount store

or string riddles, a game were you right a some riddles on pieces of paper to were the next piece of paper is and on that one were the next one is......... and have some thing  at the end (i use this alot when i baby sit my 5 cousins)

computer games work well as well. try www.egg2.com it will keep him occupied for hours.

ask him what he wont's to do!! and say if i play that for 15 mins will you leave me allows for 15 mins?

and DONT ignore him. it will just make him worse

good luck