My brother hates me!!!?

Question

My parents have been divorced for ten years and seven years ago my mother remarried. She and my stepdad are sometimes verbally and physically abusive of me and my brother (who has mild autism and doesn't understand what they're doing is wrong).

So finally I decided to do something about it and went to live with my dad, although my brother is still going back and forth. My mom, for some reason, is trying to get me to come back, and her new strategy is apparently REVENGE. She's been telling my brother all this terrible stuff about me: that I'm a liar, violent, want to hurt/kill him, need to be locked up in a mental health facility, etc. and he believes them! I suppose it's just his autism making him gullible and easily brainwashed, but it HURTS!!!

Just this morning, my dad was going to work and he was leaving my brother and I home alone for an hour or two and my brother said my dad couldn't leave us alone together because I was dangerous and violent and he wouldn't be safe, and that he didn't love me anymore! He has no reason to think that! We've had our fights, as brothers and sisters do, but I love him more than anything in the entire world and I've tried my whole life to protect him and help him. I told him that and he said he hated me. How can I rebuild our relationship notwithstanding the fact that my mom has brainwashed him and his autism makes it so that he is extra-gullible to her?

Answer 1

You may want to talk to your dad about your concerns. See if he is willing to have your brother live with him as well. It does not seem like it is a safe or welcoming environment at your mother's house. You brother needs to be in a safe and secure environment as do you. If you explain to your dad your concerns for your brother I am sure he wants the same for his son.  

Answer 2

How sad!  :(

First, how did your dad handle things after your brother made this announcement?

As the other parent, he has a lot of influence over your brother and should be able to help undue quite a bit of the damage done by your mom.  

Answer 3

Let your Dad know what you suspect is happening and ask if he can arrange for some family counseling for you and your brother.  You will need to understand that with autism this distrust is sometimes normally occurring.