My brother in law is sleeping with his step sister!!?

Question

okay here i go.i think it started a few months ago.me and my fiance went half with his brother to buy a house and we got it.as soon as we were settled in his step sister would come over allot and hangout.no problem.but it started to where she slept over all the time.and she would sleep in her bros room.i seen them on the bed together one time.it really didn't phase me.i noticed that she would come and sleep over for no reason at all.no party was going on,no planned event.etc.etc.well i been telling my fiance that i think something is going on between them but he thought i was just crazy..so i went and did my investigation.i found condoms in his bros room one day and i counted them.a few days later i want back and checked because the sis has been sleeping over.well 2 condoms were missing.so i had found my evidence that they were sleeping together.his bro doesn't go no where and hes always been wit sis..its really uncomfortable and i don't like the fact that its happening across the hall from my room.they are disrespectful and don't care what the family will think.i know its his bros house too but sleeping with his sis is nasty.i need help on how to surface this situation.I'm not from here so i don't have family its just there family.who should we tell?them?his mom?dad?its a hard situation to tell to there face...i dont know???

Answer 1

They're not related so technically there is nothing wrong with it. It seems it is a consensual relationship between two adults. Since it seems you both own the house it's not like you can't tell him not to have s*x in it, unless you would be willing to comply to the same demand from him.

Really telling anyone would only cause unnecessary strain to the family. No need to cause any drama, right? The situation is probably difficult for them also.

Maybe you could imply that you know when alone with the brother and stepsister and that you would want more discretion when it comes to this for the sake of the baby...or something like that.

Truthfully I don't know much about your family situation so this is just what I might do in this situation.  

Answer 2

STEP SISTER  not sister, there both adults mind your business and quit snooping. your 2 nosey!!!

if u don't wanna b around it move. sounds like he'd get some privacy .

Answer 3

No you don't need the extra pressure and stress when your pregnant, it's not good for your baby at all.

It is nasty as they grew up together but it's not insest as they're not blood relative.

No you shouldn't move, again moving would be bad for the baby for a start also I'm assuming the baby is your fiances(Don't mean to be rude) and therefore you and your fiance should be together to experiance the first everything of your baby(If you have tomove out by yourself)! If they thought it was right they'd tell everyone so obvi they know that it isn't right.

I don't think you can bring it out into the open, maybe you can talk to either your brother in-law or the step-sister and just find out if your suspicions are right. But be careful when bringing it up because you'll cause conflict if your not careful and don't say something like "If you don't tell them then I will" because anything can happen! Your probably better off talking to the step sister as your both women. It's easier to talk to the same s*x than to talk to the opposite.

Hope I helped! =]

Charlotte x

Answer 4

Are they blood related?  By the way, I tink you should talk to them, even if they aren't.  How can you let that happen?  ask them to leave the house, if you must, but be prepared to pay up.  Here are some ideas.

- say that it isn't really working out for you

- say you need that room

- move out.

Don't present your suspicions, and definitely don't tell them you were snooping.  they are family, so they will tell the other people in the family sooner or later.  This is really difficult!  I hope you can solve it.  maybe talk it over with your husband/fiance some more.  Are they related?! the step sis and bro in law?!  I didn't quite catch it completely..i know you mentioned it..somewhere

Answer 5

They aren't blood related so theres nothing wrong with it, they might not even think of each other as siblings.

Answer 6

That is non of your business even if you guys live in the same house. It is...disgusting and I understand your nausea but that is two consenting adults and it's not like they are ACTUALLY sister and brother. You could say something but... I think that is treading in shark infested waters. Best bet is to talk it over with your fiance and leave it to his discretion.  

Answer 7

I know you might think its really nasty and such but there really shouldn't be a problem because they are not blood relatives.

Answer 8

If they're not blood relatives there's no problem and it shouldn't be nasty.

Answer 9

Well it does seem nasty only because they grew up together - but they technically aren't related so get over it - why don't you just ask them?