My brother is 20 years old, unemployed, single and not going to school.

Question

He is a creature of habit, he runs on a schedual. I just want him to grow up and either get a job, go to school or get a girlfriend at least. I've tried telling him to and it doesn't work. What should I do?

Answer 1

Unless your brother is living with you and you're covering all the bills, it shouldn't matter to you. If he's living with mom and she doesn't mind that he doesn't pay for anything then that's her problem. You can't force him to grow up, life will do that. If he was out on his own then he would have to get a job. Let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 2

It's not your place.  Let your mom deal with it.  She isn't doing him any favors by letting him be a sponge.  Learn by his example.  Make something of yourself.

Answer 3

Sometimes parents take favorites and no matter what that child is like they can do no wrong. My mother booted my sister and my brother out on their 18th birthday, i left before then but still, my 12 year old sister abuses her and runs the household but my mother says nothing. My little sister yells and screams and doesn't do chores, yet it was expected of us to clean the entire house spotless. You can talk your dad into booting him out of the house and making him learn to fend for himself. You can't go to your mom, it doesnt work. Good luck!!!!

Answer 4

give him an incentive- no job + no education = no future, especially the fact that he has neither one will decrease his chances of getting a girlfriend. unless he wants to live with his mommy up to the age of 40, none of that is going to happen unless he gets off his big fat butt and start doing something with his life. i hope this helps.

Answer 5

dude your brother's gonna be the next 40 year old virgin or something if he doesn't get a job. tell him his wasting his life.theres a lot of kids like 14 year olds who are trying to get a job but cant cuz they r too young. tell him his not helping anyone.tell your mom your bro cant always depend on her

Answer 6

I THINK U TRIED N IF MOM IS WILLING TO RAISE HIM THE REST OF HER LIFE LET HER! SHE WILL REGRET NOT MAKING HIM AT LEAST GET A JOB,,IF I WERE YOU IF YOUR OLD ENOUGH I WOULD MOVE OUT,,LET HIM HAVE MOMMY,,N LET MOMMY TAKE CARE OF HIM,,,PEACE

Answer 7

Your mom is right. You can't force anyone to anything. As mean as it may sound, you should just leave your brother alone. It's his life. He needs to fall in order to learn to pick himself back up.

Answer 8

Worry about your own life and let you mom handle him. I know you care about your brother; but you can't change him he has to want to change.  

Answer 9

He's an adult. If he's not going to do any of those things you think he should do and his mother doesn't have a problem with it, leave it alone. He's not your child. He's your brother. Leave him alone. Watch...sooner or later your mom is going to get tired of it and he'll change.