My brother is a player and he is luckier with girls than i'm, should i be like him?

Question

Hello.

So we are two brothers, we are very alike, some people think we are twins, we are in our early 20's... i'm the older brother, there's a 2 age difference between us.

My brother is very lucky with girls, he has several girls at the same time, he has had s*x many times with many girls throughout his short life, s*x with no love, that's sick for me

Me on the other hand ..... i'm nothing like my brother, for example i don't want s*x til i get married, of course my brother makes fun of me because of this. I'm a failer with girls. My brother tells me i should be like him, i don't know what do to. I believe in absurd values such as honesty, faithfulness, sincerity, i don't know why, but i belive strongly in such values... my brother on the other hand doesn't belive in those values, and trust me, girls are crazy about him. I have a good brother and he wants to help meto change my personality... don't know what to do, i want to be like him but i don't want to give up my principles

Answer 1

Stand firm bro...your brother should aspire to be more like you. Trust me, I've had YEARS of womanizing or being a "player" and at the end of it all is emptiness and loneliness. It's true that at this age, alot of people are only looking for the "quick" thing, or instant gratification. Long term though, it's extremely damaging to emotional growth, maturity and true happiness. The reality is, your brother is seeking to fill a void that can only be filled with God, and he's filling it with self-centeredness and self-gratification. I'm sure he has a very skewed perception of women and the value they truly have...Stay on course man. I wish I had stuck to my values like you are at that age. You'll save yourself alot of potential misery in the end, not to mention STD's, pregnancy and some of the psychotic women who you could make yourself vulnerable to...God Bless!

It's great getting a "thumbs down" for principles...very nice

Answer 2

you sound like a sore loser to me. early 20's? dont kid yourself. i bet you're more like early 40's and dreading it

Answer 3

His life is definitely more fun than yours. Also, you guys are young. have fun now, worry about marriage and a family a little later. This is still your choice though. You can stick by your principles if you wish.

Answer 4

Your brother is a loser, first because he calls you a "failure", as if he has the right to judge you, and secondly because he uses women like toilet paper. I'd rather date someone like you. Ignore him; you're fine.

Answer 5

Your brother favours quantity over quality; you obviously don't. If you act like him, you'll get plenty of action, but the chances of finding a girl who wants to marry you are slim at best.

Answer 6

It looks like you want to give up your values just to please your brother.

I know you love your brother, and we sometimes want to please our loved ones...but do you think you would be truly happy if you gave up those values? All what having s*x with girls you don't love is going to make you feel empty, and girls that are looking for marriage may not trust you after finding out that you were dating 6 girls at the same time.

It's up to you.

If you want to be like your brother, maybe you can compromise somewhat in the sense that you can go to more parties or be more social.

Remember, going out on dates with plenty of girls doesn't mean you have to have s*x with them.  Going on a date can mean just two people getting to know each other and enjoying people's company

You don't have to deceive girls, play them or have s*x with them like your brother does.

Also, maybe your brother is making fun of you so he can feel that what he's doing is okay.  He wants you to be like him, so he can feel justified in what he's doing.

Maybe your brother is worried that others will see you as the "moral one", while they think of him as being immoral.

Answer 7

Your brother will wind up "settling down" merely because he is tired and wornout, with an unattractive and frompy woman.  You on the other hand, have more chances of "settling" with a bubbly, hot babe because you bring freshness into a relationship and there is plenty of time to explore.  Your brother is living fast and therefore will burnout faster.

Answer 8

Well, the only thing you can do is bide your time till eventualy he gets an STD, which he will, then you can unleash a lifetime of std related mocking, to the which he has never experienced before

Don't compromise your beleifs because your brother makes fun of you, next time he says something, tell him to shut up and punch him in the stomach

Answer 9

A lot of people are not going to like what I'm about to say. But its the TRUTH. Brace yourself....

If you want to rise HIGH and have lots of success in any area of life..... then you WILL have to be more like your brother.

If you want to be honest and all that other stuff. That's good.... just don't expect to rise very high. You will live a life of mediocrity at best.