My brother is always mean to me help?

Question

I am a younger sibling by 5 years. And I have an older brother that's 14. And when he calls me names, and i cry or he hits me nobody gets in trouble, but when i hit him, then i get in trouble. I need advice to make him stop anyone ? Thanks

Answer 1

Well it seems like he is definately the favorite. I went through this when I was younger. I'm sorry to say there is nothing you can do. This is very normal for children. Just sit down and talk to your parents. If they don't do anything then you need to go to an outside authority if it is serious abuse. But its probably just sibling rivalry. It will grow old eventually.

Answer 2

how old are you? i dont think u should be in this site

try telling your mom how you feel and what he does to you.

and if he does it again, kick him where it hurts

Answer 3

You poor thing and I am very sorry that this is happening to you.  Your home should be a place where you should feel safe and respected and not have to deal with bullies.  

I was wondering if your brother was get picked on at school.  Sometimes when a boy feels constant threat, they take it out on someone smaller and vulnerable.  Don't get me wrong, not all of them take this route, some actually realize the cruelty of it and decide not to repeat the same behavior.  

I think that you should talk to your parents and let them be aware that this no longer a simple case of siblings fighting, but that his behavior is really affecting you.  If you are a girl, you can also say to them that is not right that a boy is constantly hitting a girl.

You can talk to your brother and just ask him what have you done to make him treat you that way and that you had hoped to have a closer relationship with him.  You can also remind him that he is your older brother and older brothers are supposed to protect the younger sibling and not constantly hit them and humiliate them.  

You as well are going to have to refrain from hitting him.  Do not respond to his name calling with violence.  If he hits you, I know that you have the right to defend yourself, but only for that reason.  I hope you are able to reason with him so you can have a better relationship with your brother.  Good luck!!

Answer 4

oh my goodness i had the same problem at the same age you have to ignore the names remember sticks and stones and break my bones but words will never hurt me and you can't be afraid to hit him when he hits you when you start hitting him back it shows you're getting aggressive of the situation he's hitting you because he knows your not going to hit back so when you hit back he will stop you need to use a meterial item  not just your hand because it won't be hard enough and plus he can't hit you if you have a material item like something that is metal that is wide so that you can hit him but when he tries to hit you you just put that up and if he tries to hit you he'll hurt himself because he will be hitting the metal meterial

Answer 5

me and my younger brother used to fight like that. its normal. you grow out of it. just try to be more mature about things.