My brother is kind of weird?

Question

He just goes straight to his room when he comes home. he is isolated from our family. He is 14 years old and likes to collect shoes and is just weird. He always looks tired int he morning when we get up to go to school. He has a I dont give a c**p attitude towards everybody but expects for everyone to let him do what he wants. He adopts a lot of the ways his friends do or like. Like skateboardin, grew his hair out long, he is just weird and isolated from his family. He has a shelf next to hid bed and it lookslike he has some graffiti on it. He spelled his name, and I guess his friend spelled his name. Look like hEIROGLYPHICS. I think he is doing drugs or something but anyways, he has a couple of spray cans in his room on his bed shelf and on the side of his bed,kinda tucked away in a little area next to the graffiti shelf. He also has spray marks on the shelf from the spray cans. They are cans of spray for hair, the colorful hair spray cans you can paint your hair with. I am wondering if he is sniffing this stuff or what since he has a lot of that graffitied shelf spray painted with it. What do you think, and how does this high stuff work with aerosol?

Answer 1

He is your brother and you are in the same family.

try to talk to your mother or father about this. ( and if they don't listen talk with your grandparents or ask his friends what he do with him)

Answer 2

Dealing with teenagers is tricky. Respect his privacy, but let him know that you have interest in him and that you love him.  A good way to  start up a conversation would be to show interest in the art work/graffiti on his shelf and ask him about it, then lead the conversation into the spray cans, don't be afraid to sound dumb, because if you don't know something that he does, ask him for an explanation and keep the conversation going.  Build his trust in you and maybe eventually work your way to trying to get him involved with family things.  One thing about conversations is that the level of intimacy is often set by the first speaker.  If you disclose something that demonstrates that you trust and respect to your brother, he may feel like you deserve his trust and respect in return and maybe reveal some of the secrets you've been wondering about. Be sure to talk to your parents about it and voice your concerns to them.  My older brother was very similar to your brother, we always gave him support and let him know that if he needed us we were here for him and that if he wanted something to be a secret it would always remain a secret, unless of course it caused harm or was illegal, but you get the picture.  I hope I helped, good luck.  

Answer 3

Other than being a typical teenager-He might be doing other stuff. Talk to your mom and dad about your concerns -You could save his brain cells or his life someday-Even if he gets pissed at you he'll know you care. Your not a nark if your his sister -he already expects you to be a tattle tell =Right?? It comes with the sibling rights. Follow your heart and listen to it.=Don't ever second guess what you know is right.  

Answer 4

He sounds totally normal to me. Well, I know the "I don't give a c**p" attitude is definitely normal for all teenagers, and he'll eventually grow out of it. Also, the long hair and skateboard is a trend going on with teens right now. Long and curly from the hats they wear. For the skateboarding, it seems like a totally normal interest he's taken up and enjoys with his friends. As for the spray cans.....I'm not entirely sure, but everyone has their own interests. I don't see why he should be allowed spray cans in his room, they can be really messy and can be hazardous to your health...So, all in all, he sounds pretty normal for his age. Don't worry, after a while, he'll grow out of it and find new interests.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

he's fourteen. he's sort of going through a phase. wanting to be like his friends. about the drugs and getting high, i don't really know much about. but ask him if he is. assure him that you wont tell anyone and that you just want him to stop if he is doing it.  

Answer 6

He's a fourteen year old guy,

leave him alone!

He needs to be away from his family,

i dotn know anyone who dosent hate their family as of now,

and im 14 too.

Answer 7

maybe hes depressed?