My brother may be too good to be true?

Question

I am 26. Last year I found out that I have a half-brother on my father's side. (he found me and got in touch) He is same age as me. I've never met my father (grew up with mom and a wonderful step dad and never really tried to find my real dad or felt the need to)

I don't have any other siblings so when I found out I have a brother I was thrilled. When I first saw him it was as if we were never apart. He was so amazing, perfect in every way. He pretty much instantly moved to the city I live in and found a job here and we spend a lot of our time together.

But he has somehow become too attached to me. He is almost clingy. I know he had a very difficult childhood and a lot of physical abuse from our dad and at first I tought that has something to do with it.

He is at my place all the time, he sleeps over a lot and he ''took over'' my friends and my family.

He is very handsome and charming and smart and everybody adores him, especially my girlfriends. Even my mom and dad think he is the most amazing person ever and they invite him over every time I go visit. He is everywhere in my life.

He is great to me.

But his perfection freakes me out sometimes, he is almost robot-like.

I find him sometimes just sitting there in my living room in dark, not moving, doing nothing just staring at the wall. As soon as he notices me he smiles and he is mostly really adorable and really handsome and it is difficult not to smile back. Even if I don't really feel like it.

It kind of makes me think of him as some psycho ready to explode any minute.

He didn't give me any real reason to feel this way.

But he has taken over my whole life without me noticing it and I am not sure if I am jelaous that everybody is so infatuated by him (just like I was when we first met, I guess) or if I am having some 6th sense about him.

What would you do? I feel more and more uncomfortable.

Answer 1

He need prof,help i think kind of he is abuse and confuse child.your mom and step dad nice people tell them.i am sure they can handel easily.you feel uncomfortable,because he is different than you,but trying like is normal like you.he is suffering some kind of emonational drama.talk to your mom,help him.you good person.

Answer 2

yeah he sounds really creepy change your locks get a new cell number and talk to your friends and family privately about everything tell them the same things you just wrote. they love you and i guarantee their loyalties will be with you

Answer 3

don't let him come over to your house so much and start spending time apart from him.

that sitting in the dark staring at the wall thing is worrisome.

It could only be very innocent in that he's lonely and doesn't have any other family or if he does see if you can meet his family.  If he won't introduce you to them that should be a red flag for you.

even though you share dna  with this guy, he's a stranger.  Trust your instincts and start limiting your time spent with him.

Answer 4

Wow.

Well I would try to busy myself with other things, take my mind off of it...

Spend some alone time, sometimes go out with friends when he is doing something else.

I don't know enough about him to say whether I think he's a psycho.

Give it some time and see how things go...

Good luck!

Answer 5

Instead of cutting him out of your life, talk to him. He's probably messed up from the abuse he received as a child, and he must be thrilled to have you as a sibling. The perfection thing must be due to his abuse and he could think that if he does something wrong, he'll be completely alone. Help him by talking to him and posssibly getting him to visit a psychiatrist. I really do hope things work out.