My brother raped me and now his girlfriend is about to give birth to a baby girl, what should I do?

Question

Ok he molested me from the time I was 8 until I was 11. Then he shipped out and I guess he knocked up a girl. I hoped he was going to have a boy, but the sonogramme says its a girl. I am really scared to tell anyone, because nobody knows and I've kept it inside SO long. I think that no one will believe me and he will try to kill me, he promised that a long time ago. But I really don't want this innocent child to suffer like I have. What should I do? I am 19 and very scared. Horrified even. She is comming over today to show my parents the sonogramme and he will not be with her. They are broken up.

Answer 1

You should tell someone, I'm sure your family would protect you from him, and I dont see why they wouldn't believe you, your at an age where that is nothing to joke about.  This is really serious and if you really are scared, get a weapon for your safety.  I hope all goes well, God Bless you.

Answer 2

Tell your parents what happened to you, tell the person that is carrying his child what happened to you and to keep an eye on him. Most likely she will ask your brother and he will deny it because that's what they do. I honestly don't know of anything else you can do because it's been so long. You could try contacting the police but I'm not sure what they could do at this point.

Answer 3

If I were you I would tell are you willing to risk your life for you niece.  You don't want her to go through that.  If you tell they have people who will protect you.  Just tell people you were scared because of what he told you he would do.  It will be okay have strength...do it for her

Answer 4

do NOT tell them in one group. If they think that he is a golden child like you said more than likely they will reject the accusation and put you on trial. Go to your most trusted parent and tell him/her first, tell him/her that you are scared tell him/her everything. Women can be funny and his girlfriend may not want to believe the father of her child is a rapist/pedophile but once you tell your parents and they support you then the 3 of you together can tell the girlfriend. If they don't support you, then you will have to tell the girlfriend on your own.

Answer 5

I would say something about it just because ur niece could be at home when she comes  

Answer 6

pLEASE TELL HIS EX GIRLFRIEND AND YOUR PARENTS U R THINKING RIGHT...ABOUT NOTHING HAPPENING TO THE BABY..HE HAS NO RIGHT TO EVEN GET BY HER...I HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT SO MUCH..WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU HAPPENED TO ME WHEN I WAS AROUND THE AGE HE MOLESTED YOU..I TRIED TELLIN MY MOM BUT SHE DIDNT BELIEVE ME..I HAVE SO MUCH HATE FOR THAT F***** LOSER....YOUR PARENTS MIGHT UNDERSTAND..ITS SAD TO HEAR THAT...MY GOD BE WITH YOU WHEN YOU TELL THEM...I HATE THOSE PEOPLE THEY SHOULD ALL PROSECUTE THEM ALL

Answer 7

bring up the conversation, and say its because you care about the child. keeping it inside is wrong for everybody.

Answer 8

Your brother is a real jerk!!  The break up is the perfect opportunity to talk to the girl he knocked up.  Because it is another example of how heartless he is.  She will understand, what you went through, the most.

Since you live in England(I could tell by the way you spelled 'sonogramme'; I lived in London, during the late-1970's) I don't know if they have a law like we have in the U.S. that is called the 'Statute of Limitations' where, there is a specific time period after the crime, that you can still file charges.

I mentioned the 'Statute of Limitations' because, you said that you are 19yrs.-old and, it happened when you were 8-11yrs.-old.

Answer 9

Tell his girlfriend and your parents.

NOW.

Answer 10

if your question is true you need to contact the police.

your brother did it to  you he will do it to his daughter.

he is a pedophile and I'm sorry for what you went through

Answer 11

you poor thing! i am sure your parents will believe you. you must talk to someone about this!

Answer 12

Your going to be scared and nervous to tell them, but you have to think of that baby girl thats coming. Don't let her ever have to go through that. Just sit them all down, and tell them you have to tell them something thats going to shock them, and you've been scared to tell anyone. They will believe you if you have a serious conversation with that, there going to be upset and confused. But this is for the best, you have to do it, and you'll feel better knowing that they know, and that baby will be protected. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and I hope I helped :)

Answer 13

tell yr parents now. before they come. you will help a little girl instead of making her go through what you have gone though. they may not believe you but they may you will never know until you have told them.

e-mail me back and tell me how is goes.

i wish you the best

youll be in my prayers  

Answer 14

Sweetie, you know it's really likely that he's going to rape this baby. You really can't have that on your conscience, can you? I would go to the authorities, not family. Telling family about molestation can come out lots of different ways. What if they don't believe you? You don't want to lose your credibility before you do something that will really protect the baby. Lots of pedophiles threaten to kill the child they molest. He'll have a much harder time hurting the WOMAN you are now.I wish you all the best, and I'm sos sorry that you have to face this. I wish you strength to do the right thing, and I hope you get some counseling to help you feel better.

Answer 15

this guy sounds like a real punk.tell your parents and get a restraing order.ur a big girl now u can.move far away from him and get a big strong boyfriend lol im serious.u should've told some1 a long time ago

Answer 16

You should really tell your parents of your concern.

This is very serious, and if he does have a problem, you can't let that child suffer.

Answer 17

I'm so sorry for what you went through.

But you have to tell someone, you cant hold onto a dark secret like that for so long. Your brother should be punished for what he done to you. He's your brother and he done something so disgusting. By keeping this to yourself, you're letting him win

If your brother can rape you (his sister) then he can rape his own daughter! I'm pretty sure of it. He said hes gonna kill you? Yeah, right! He wont be able to do anything if your parents are there, will he? Your brother wont be at your house today when his ex will visit...just tell them then. Pleasee