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My brother seems to be too good to be true!?

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I am 26. Last year I found out that I have a half-brother on my father's side. (he found me and got in touch) He is same age as me. I've never met my father (grew up with mom and a wonderful step dad and never really tried to find my real dad or felt the need to)

I don't have any other siblings so when I found out I have a brother I was thrilled. When I first saw him it was as if we were never apart. He was so amazing, perfect in every way. He pretty much instantly moved to the city I live in and found a job here and we spend a lot of our time together.

But he has somehow become too attached to me. He is almost clingy. I know he had a very difficult childhood and a lot of physical abuse from our dad (he didn't tell me about it, but I found out) and at first I tought that has something to do with it.

He is at my place all the time, he sleeps over a lot and he ''took over'' my friends and my family.

He is very handsome and charming and smart and everybody adores him, especially my girlfriends. Even my mom and dad think he is the most amazing person ever and they invite him over every time I go visit. He is everywhere in my life.

He is great to me.

But his perfection freakes me out sometimes, he is almost robot-like.

I find him sometimes just sitting there in my living room in dark, not moving, doing nothing just staring at the wall. As soon as he notices me he smiles and he is mostly really adorable and really handsome and it is difficult not to smile back. Even if I don't really feel like it.

It kind of makes me think of him as some psycho ready to explode any minute.

He didn't give me any real reason to feel this way.

But he has taken over my whole life without me noticing it and I am not sure if I am jelaous that everybody is so infatuated by him (just like Iwas when we first met, I guess) or if I am having some 6th sense about him.

What would you do? I feel more and more uncomfortable.

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  1. Talk to your parents and friends about the you feel regarding your step-brother's behaviour, ask their opinion and then see what to to do next.

    Maybe then you can talk to him personally and ask him about the way he feels...

    I am sure its just that he is making up for what he lost in his childhood... so give him a chance...dont jugde him without getting to know him well enough first...


  2. 6th sense

    Gut feeling

    What ever it is use it don't wake up one day saying I wish I would have this or that. After bonding it's time to say I'm 26 got places to go people to meet things to do. See you next Wed. for dinner at La Char love ya gotta go.

  3. You need to listen to your female intuition. If it is telling you that something is not right, you are probably correct.  He sounds to me like he may be seeking approval from everyone around him and trying to make up for his miserable childhood.

    If you feel like he may "explode", even if he hasnt done anything specific to make you feel that way, you need to put some space between yall.  I know that if I were in that situation, I would much rather over-react than under-react and end up in a bad situation.

    I wish you the best of luck.

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