My brother that was given up for adoption, how do I talk to him?

Question

My mom gave up my Brother for adoption when he was born, after that I only saw him twice. Now he found me on myspace hes a year younger than me and we have so much in common, its just hard for him to say I'm his real sister. I don't know how to talk to him about this, my mom couldn't afford to keep him and then the reason he's mad is because after she gave him up, she had my little sister but no one would adopt her because of her problems so my mom kept her and not him. When he was little he would try to always go home with us and we got along so well but now I can't help but get upset when he tells people that I'm just an acquaintance. I'm 16 and he's 15. I can't imagine how hard it is for him, but I don't think he understands that I couldn't change it. He got adopted by very wealthy people and we couldn't give him all the things that they do, I know that doesn't matter but me and my other siblings envy that while he envy's us and our closeness. Its so hard on all of us to see him unhappy because of the past.

Answer 1

Your should get together with him and talk to him...

Answer 2

wow thats a tough situation. you can talk to him just tell him that your mothers decision has nothing to do with you and him. you can still be close because you and him are brothers and sister. just tell him you love him and want to be close because he's still your brother. but just talk to him and tell him you and him has nothing to do with him and your mom. hope all goes well

Answer 3

Ig he asks you then just tell him the same thing you just wrote here.  You have to know he is hurting just like you.  You are very compassisionate abou that already.  He only considers you an acquantance because really you are just that to him.  He is probably really confused about the whole thing too.  Just keep being supportive to him and of him and talk to him as much as you can.  You can be freinds with him and keep up with him.  You will be glad that you did.  Now that you are a little older you can control the friendship you have with him.  He got taken away from you once just don't let him get taken away from you again.  

Answer 4

Wow. My heart goes out to you. Maybe you can tell him that what happened is between him and your mother has nothing to do with you and you want to stay in touch with him. I'm sorry but if this is the story that your mom told you, well it just don't add up. If your mom wanted to give your little sister up for adoption, then she would have been placed into foster care until she was adopted. I'm am sorry to say but the first thing that popped in my head was that maybe your mom got pregnant with your brother by another man besides your father and that's way she was not able to keep him. I don't know, I hope I'm wrong. That's just the first thing I thought of. Parents don't always tell their children the whole truth, if the truth would be painful. Again I am sorry that your are in the middle of the choices that your parents made. Just let your brother know that what happened and what ever happens you don't ever want to lose him again. Maybe when the two of you are adults and y'all will be able to find the answers y'all are looking for.

Good Luck