My brother wants me to die... my life is ruined because of him!?

Question

i am your typical teen... normal school, normal parents, normal friends, etc. except for my older brother. i am 13 he is 15. he treats me so badly, like im not even human. i understand theres a point brothers can tease u up 2, but he goes way over that point. if i dont do something, he threatens me. he always yells at me if i don't do something right. he treats me like a slave, "get me water", "make me a sandwich", "make my bed or ill tell dad about the boy u like", etc. he throws things at me, punches me, yells. he also curses at me the entire time. he uses the b-word, f-word, everything. he says im a loser. he bashes me into walls sometimes. just now, i was at home alone. i wanted to take a shower, so i turned on the shower. then about 2 min into my shower as i was done shampooing my hair, he starts banging on the door, yelling "I JUST GOT HOME FROM SOCCER PRACTICE GET OUT U B----, ILL TELL MOM AND DAD U ASKED FOR A GUYS # ON FACEBOOK U UGLY A-- FREAK!!" then i got out, threw on my shirt and shorts, and ran outta there. he screamed at me, "have sum common sense, if i get back from practice, wait til i get to shower first" and then i said "i got in b4 u got home, i had no clue what time u were coming either" and he said "well f--- u too bad ugly freak" and then he hit me and i ran to my room and cried. if he makes a mess, he makes me clean it up and he says "do it right blahblahblah" and im like "well u made it how shud i kno to clean it up?" and he says "you'll be good 4 nothing when u grow up so who gives a s---" and my parents just yell at him there like "ok leave lauren alone" and hes like fine and they do nothing else please dont suggest therapy my bro hits me ruins my life even if i try to sit and do hw from school hes mean please please help i dont feel my life should be like this its not fair im crying please help

Answer 1

You need to talk to your parents about him, and stop doing everything he tells you.  He's not going to stop unless you stand up to him.  Who cares if he tells that you wanted a boy's phone #? I'm guessing your parents will think it's a bigger deal that he's treating you like this.

Answer 2

I wouldn't put up with that.. with the example you gave with the shower... I would have finished my shower and let him bang on the door. If he broke it down, then that would be on him. Maybe keep your phone with you, and if he gets physical, call the police. Believe me, if you end up with the police at your house both he and your parents will think twice before dismissing your complaints.

It sounds like he needs a reality check. If he is 15, and thinks he can treat you like that, how will he treat his girlfriends after they get to a point where the relationship is a norm and the fairy tale stuff is over? He definitely has a problem with his temper, what will happen when he gets old enough to go to bars? If he keeps this up, he will get his a$$ kicked real good...

I hope things get  better

Answer 3

I know this is going to sound mean, but call the cops on him. He keeps doing that, he could end up killing u!!!

Answer 4

That really does suck. Look you really need to talk to your parents about this. And you shouldn't be scared if your brother tells your parents bad things about you, it can't be that bad. Your parents will understand because believe it or not they were teenagers once and they know what goes on. So just tell your brother that he has no right to treat you this way. He has to respect u after all you are family. And tell him that you're not scared if he tells your parents about things that you're embarrassed from because he sees that you're scared so he black mails you. show him that you don't care and everything will work out you need a life don't let him ruin it goodluck I hope I helped.

Answer 5

ooh h***s no. he doin' too much.

let him blackmail you. don't respond to it. it's like when someone teases you but you don't play along, they feel awkward. you should probably tell someone like a teacher & your friends or something. try having your friends talk to your parents or something. maybe he's jealous of you. my sister is mean to me too >:O. & she has told me to die before too. just live your life. ignore him & his "needs". don't backtalk & don't listen to him.  

Answer 6

get a bat and beat the p**s out of him

Answer 7

thats so horrible! u need to talk to ur parents about this! dont stand up to him while u r alone tho bc he may rlly hurt u. u need to tell ur parents to settle this and that it wont hellp just saying stop. u also need to pray about it! trust God! He will pull u through!

good luck! and talk to ur parents!

Answer 8

Print off this whole page dear....and leave it where your mom and dad can see it..... that little chit...i wish he was closer he wouldnt bother you any more.....Tell your dad that I said enuff is enuff...to handle this now...instead of a year down the road when he has to get up in the middle of the night to go down to the dam police station.

Answer 9

wtf??? my brother used to do that to me ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!! and now he is turning 15 and is swearing at my mom punching her and all 2! and she's just like **** off! and he just goes hangs with his friends! he even like smokes! maruana and stuff. he's like it makes my friends and i happy. anyways you should just be nice to him but not do what he says and be like what ever! and just act like it doesnt bother you! i did that and now my brother is soooo nice!

Answer 10

sounds like you are a push over

lift weights build muscle beat him up

Answer 11

i would be like 'dont make me tell the girl u like that u have herpes' i would also put iching powder in all his pants and underwear. i would get flakey c**p and put it in his hair. and when u get him a drink, spit in it.

Answer 12

Darlin  The fastest solution to your problem is to put your brother in check

  No yelling No screaming just tell him that you are done letting him run you down. then every chance you get make him look bad in front of his friends and family when you are all home together in the same room and no one is paying attention yell at him telling him to stop, ask if he needs to pee or something ,tell him to quit asking you to touch him there. then while his head is still ringing trying to figure out what your talking about tell your parents he threatens you all the time because at this point they don't know what to think anything will soak in. Later in private you tell your brother that you have weapons too and its time for truce talks.

Answer 13

1. You could sit down and have a talk to your parents, look them in the eyes and say "things need to change". And make sure they know it is serious.

2. You could talk to the guidance counseler at your school, they always help.

3. Beat your brother to your parents and tell them if you did anything, because then he won't have anything on you.

4. You could go to the police station and just ask to live with relatives until he is out of the house.

5. You could sit down and talk to him about it and if he has any common sense whatsoever he'll realize how big of an *** he is being.

6. Get revenge on him. You probably can't do much with him there, but while he is gone at soccer, ruin everything of his until he realizes what the **** he has done.

Answer 14

Tell your parents everything and call the police of your town if they don't take care of the situation.  Call the police to get him arrested and taken away.  Also ask your parents to take you to Kung-Fu or Karate training so you can beat the **** out of this immature bully before he becomes a nuisance of society, or even get himself killed by the others.  Make sure your parents take good care of him first.

Answer 15

Wow.  Talk to you're parents, there's really nothing you can do, I'm sorry to say, unless your parents do something about him.  It's absolutely NOT okay for him to treat you like that, and he shouldn't think that it's alright either.  Don't listen to him, he sounds like a jerk, you NEED to talk to your parents and let them in on what he's doing to you.

Answer 16

you should tell your parents how you feel AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT US GIRLS ARE NOT SLAVES WE ARE NOT MENT TO BE PUSHED AROUND YES WE WOULD BE MADE TO CLEAN UP AFTER PEOPLE BUT NO!!!!! NO NO DO NOT LET YOUR BROTHER TAKE CONTROLL OF YOUR LIFE (if you let him hurt you though and like send you to the hospital or something then he will be in big trouble ha ha ha!!) MY BRO IS 16 AND I'M 13 AND HE MAY BE MEAN BUT I DO NT LET HIM BOSS ME AROUND LIKE A PACK MULE!!! I SASS HIM BACK  AND IF HE HURTS ME I CRY HARD HE FEEL SORRY AND GETS GROUNDED!! LOL MWAAA ok sorry i have moments but just DONT LET HIM HAVE THE CONTROL!!!!!!

someone please answer mine its been up there for 1 day and no one has answered it yet!!  

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Answer 17

this is serious i think you need to call the cops

before he makes you lose a tooth

Answer 18

i feel really bad for u. have u tried talking to ur parents about this when ur brothers not home? also stop doing things for him. give him the SILENT treatment. dont say one word to him for a whole week. if u can do that, he'll start to get mad at u, then ignore u, and then finally treat u better. i hope ur situation will clear out.  

Answer 19

You both need a counselor.  Tell your parents to get you one.

Besides your brother sounds like he has nothing on you -- who cares if he tells your parents you like a boy?

Answer 20

He sounds like a funny guy, lol the things he says are quite funny and I'm pretty sure he's joking. Maybe next time he asks you to make him a sandwich and your home alone walk around the corner with a baseball bat in your hands and a goalie mask on (I recommend sportmask or maybe an ollie? Itechs highest model might be dece).

Answer 21

Hi Lauren,

I know how hard it is to get out of a situation like that because I've been there and it only stopped when my brother moved out. My parents always took his side and refused to take me seriously and I let it go on for years. Don't let him scar your mind - do something. Please be brave enough to talk to someone. If you can't talk to someone face to face please call Childline the next time you are home alone. Their number is 0800 1111. You can tell them anything and it will be completely confidential. They can act on your behalf but only if you want them to and if you give your permission. Please phone them - don't let this continue. They are trained and can advise you on what to do better than any of us could. Even if you don't want them to take any action just call them to talk and they can advise you on how to cope and deal with this bully.  Your obviously online so check out their website if your not sure. www.childline.org.uk. Take care of yourself.

Answer 22

Take to someone at your school about this and they will get this matter resolved. If he comes close to you take something and laid him out.

Answer 23

seriously if he is always hitting you, you should call the cops on him. he's not a parent to have the right to hit you..

Answer 24

two words

.

.

grit.ball

show him the pain you recieve,

make him nice hot grits,HOT grits make sure

hes comfy

then throw the hot grits

on him

and while he's scremaing

take a pan and swing :)

dump swing,dump swing

grit ball :)

lmao

Answer 25

secretly videotape one of the mean things he does to you and show it to your mom

Answer 26

stinkss

Answer 27

Talk to someone who actually cares about u,

Like a trusted teacher or an Aunt or something,

If that don't work,

KICK HIM IN THE BALLS AND TURN THE COLD TAP ON WHEN HE PUSHED U OUT THE SHOWER

Or,

Eat a Sneaker and GET SOME NUTS!!! (joking of course)

Answer 28

your brother is abusing you. sit down and talk to your parents. Counseling might be needed. This is a serious matter. he needs help!

if your parents don't listen, maybe a grandparent, aunt, pastor, school counselor. don't stop until you get help!  Can you live with grand-mom, or auntie? child protective services might need to be involved. take a  look at this web site for help. God Bless you sweetie.

http://www.westchestergov.com/ptk/FAQs/H...

Answer 29

wow hes horrible. id never hit my sis like that. put a camera in the living room so ur parents can see. if its not possible tell a teacher or the police. if they see ur bruised they have to help u. do u know y hes doing it? maybe someone is treating him bad. but in any case he shouldnt hit u like that. get help

Answer 30

OK that is totally unacceptable. You need to call the police next time I'm serious. He is abusive. He needs to be thrown in juvy. If he hits you its aussult. And yes, I think he needs therapy. And I think you should get some counseling to because you've been through a lot and it will effect you in the future. I was molested and its still effecting me so I know.

Answer 31

ummm...hello we are giving you options here!!! so stop being mean and complaining and calling people freaks. if you want people to help you shut your big mouth!!!! GOSHH!