My cat dosen't like me as much as i want him to what do i do?

Question

my cat is a year old now and i got him just for me because my mom has a cat already but my cat likes my mom more than me and now i'm with out a cat . he wont come near me unless i pick him up but even then hes trying to get away -left out :'(

Answer 1

we have a cat, her name is nakita, about 1 1/2 years ago we had to treat for ear mites and she got scared and i was the one handling her and she was very standoffish when i would come in the room i couldnt even touch her shed see me and run now with talking to her and giving her treats she lets me pet her a little and getting her confidence back that im not going to hurt her she is a lovely siamese. try letting him come to you and not push yourself onto him.  

Answer 2

cats like the ones that dont like them, my mom hates cats and they love her to death, its like humans, if you stay aloof and mysterious, they will find you the most fascinating thing in the world and will soon fall in love, picking them up without permission usually ruins that relationship, try not to ok?

Answer 3

try playing with your cat in a smaller room with the door closed. try a ball that you roll or catnip or a crumpled piece of paper. try giving it treats, and if your cat is like mine she likes when she gets to eat everyday so YOU feed her not your mom. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

he is set ...give him to your mom and get another one..they live for 25 years...are you ready for that?

Answer 5

You'll have to be patient with him.  Try to be the one who feeds him and plays with him.  Get some toys like shoelaces, feathers on a stick, or some other interactive toy so you can be a part of his play time.

It took me a lot of effort to get a stray girl to come into our house but it's my boyfriend who she prefers.  On the other hand, he found a 5 week old kitten and saved him and the kitten is afraid of him and loves me.  

Cats tend to pick the person they own.  Sometimes it's because that person seems aloof, sometimes it's because that's the person who's nicest to them... Try to figure out what your cat wants and do what you can to get him to prefer you.  good luck!

Answer 6

mayb without noticing ur hurting the cat... be more gentile when going to pick up the cat, pet her gentile and let her get close and comfortable with you

Answer 7

Your cat is not a "possession" like the television in your room or the Ipod you wag around.  It's a living creature with a mind of its own that has reasons for its behavior, it's a cat.  You are trying too hard to force yourself on it.  Seriously, if you wanted something you could control you should have gotten a dog.  Cats don't belong to any one person.  Cats belong to themselves, and love you on their terms.

If you really want to develop a relationship with this cat (not "your" cat or my moms cat) then stop trying to force yourself on it, relax, let it come to you and when it does don't try to smother it with over whelming love and attention.  Be aloof and a little stand offish.  Pet it and talk to it.  You'll probably find that this cat will eventually enjoy your company and rest beside you on your bed, or on the sofa.

But if it never does, then just love it for the wonderful feline that it is.

Answer 8

Gently scratch his head. but dont go out of your way just in passing. then move on. don't pick him up but sit near him and ignore him. Be resolute that you can win this game. in a month or so if not sooner the cat will come to you when your sitting. give him a gentle but affectionate  petting if the cat wants to leave let him never hold them against there will. but have rules like staying off the counter and keeping there butt out of your face when your laying down. get a stick / feather toy and play with the cat. keep you mom away from the toy, make that your game. You will own this cat in 3 months tops

Answer 9

cats are just weird. don't take it personal.

maybe try giving it treats? animals usually respond to food.

Answer 10

cats go where the food is, mom must give better food.

feed meat as a treat. just dont tell mom.