My cat is very mad at me

Question

I have had a very upsetting week. Over a week ago i adopted a kitten (10 wks old). I brought it home and at first my cat (over a year old) hissed and cried. then she graduated to socializing with the kitten but swatting it and aggressively play fighting with it. but all this time (past 8 days) my cat has shown me no love and anger. she blatantly doesn't acknowledge me or play like we used to. she doesn't talk to me anymore either. nothing. kaput. i have been very hurt by this action. yet, i don't want to give up the kitten, i have grown to love it too, and they do get along b/c to date they are curled up together on a chair. so why doesn't my cat get over her anger towards me?

Answer 1

I don't think the cat is angry.  It seems like she is very happy with the new cat/new playmate.  Maybe if you try to play with the older cat one-on-one with the new kitten in another room, the older cat would be more responsive.  Also, use treats ;)

Answer 2

Your cat is mad at you. If you have had her for a year  and suddenly you bring another cat into the family. She can't understand it. Now that there is a new cat she must reorder the pecking order she may think you are at the bottom and therefore she needs too show agression and anger towards you because you are now the bottom of the pile and she needs to assert herself. Give her time and she will eventually go back to normal.

Answer 3

Give her some time. Bringing a new cat home into her environment is a big deal.

Answer 4

OK, it's only been eight days that this has been happening.  So you need to be patient.  I know it hurts to have somebody you love suddenly reject you -- but you have to realize that one of the most stressful things to a cat is suddenly having to deal with a new cat.  With all that stress, your cat just doesn't have as much emotional energy to devote to you right now, since all her emotional energy is being used up by trying to get used to the new kitten.  I'm almost sure that with some more time, things will get back to normal.  If you're really concerned, though, you can contact a vet or an animal behaviorist.  Since I don't know where you live, I don't know how accessible animal behaviorists are to you, but maybe you could find one online???  Even a lot of vets can help -- many of them don't just deal with medical problems, but can help with behavioral issues, too.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

She's not mad at you, she's just happy with her new friend.

When I moved up from one cat to two the two kitties preferred each other over me but it was really cute watching them nap, groom, and play together.  As the kitten got older the playing decreased some and both cats became friendlier with me but still were very close with each other too.  Your kitty will be close with you again and so will the kitten.  Just give them time and keep on taking good care of them.  

Answer 6

my cat is angry with me also. i brought in an older cat and she started sleeping in a other room. it has ben all most a month and she is coming around now. It will not be the same but it will take adjustment on there part.

Answer 7

Your cat isn't mad at you, she just doesn't "need" you anymore.  She has a new playmate to play with.  After I got my second cat my first definitely didn't hang out with me nearly as much as he did before.  

Don't get rid of your kitten.  

oh and BTW if like ten people are telling you your cat isn't mad at you maybe because its really not.

Answer 8

She really isn't mad at you. Mad cats are vengeful little so-and-sos. When we had our cat and she was angry at us she would poo and pee under our beds. She just replaced you with the new one when it comes to playing.

Answer 9

i don't think that the cat is really mad at you it just has another cat to play and cuddle and talk with. before all that she had was you. but she will come back to playing and all that with you as long as you still show attention to it.