My cheating ex wants my help????

Question

Now i know this is dumb but since i am a girl im want to know y on earth would a guy tell you dat the only reason he cheated on u was because he feels like he will always have you and u wud never leave him (we have a baby due in a few days) and he says he needs helps and he recognizes that he has a problem that needs to be fixed and the way he says he can be fixed is if he sees that im with another guy because then he would want me back and he would not want to do anything to hurt me again... this doesnt make sense to me what does anybody else think... and if you have anything negative to say about me being stupid then dont because i am going through h**l rite now

Answer 1

He has what we men like to call a p***s. Do not get back with him, don't think "it's for the baby" because it's not! With a dad like that he's better off alone. Trust me!

Answer 2

He is not well upstairs.

Answer 3

your not the one who is stupid he is!  He sounds like a s*x addict. The fact that he wants you to be with another man is purely for his own amusement, it is the silliest thing I have ever heard. Please do not let yourself be manipulated by him any further. You have a baby that you have to think about now. He cheated on you because he knew you would not leave him? Your right it does not make sense at all. That suggests to me that you are a welcome mat that he is walking on and I hate to see any woman be being taken advantage of like that. He needs help...let him get it himself.  Then you can think about forgiving him for what he did, let him take responsibily for that instead of twisting it all around to suit him. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Tell him to go jump off the Tallahassee bridge! Been there done that, Thanks Layla

Answer 5

You're going through h**l? Please by all means forget about this guy and the whole weird situation. This guy obviously has some serious issues. He needs you to be with another guy in order to want you? WOW. he needs to see a psychologist as soon as possible.

As for you, don't let this get to your head. just ignore this guy. Go out with people from Earth instead.

Answer 6

Leave that alone. he doesn't want you but he doesn't want someone else to have you.  I see quite a few guys with this problem.  he knows you are a faithful woman and wouldn't cheat, that is why he cheated.  Some men view women as weak for that thing they got between their legs, he needs help, but what he wants you to do isn't gonna fix it, tell him to go see a professional.  Good luck with your baby.  

Answer 7

Wow, sorry by the way! Well, he thinks he can use you, that's a bad thing, if he thinks that you'll never leave, and he can do ne thing and you'll live with it, then he's wrong, move on!

Answer 8

Sounds like he cannot accept responsibility and has a very hard time making a commitment. He knows the fun and games will be over once the child is born and he would have to settle down and make a firm commitment to both you and the child. I don't know how old he is but he has a lot a maturing to do. It is a good thing you want to wash your hands of him but remember the child. He has a legal responsibility to help support the child don't let him get away without assisting you financially.

Bottom line , he is just not mature enough.  

Answer 9

Hi usually a guy's problem is when he cheats on his wife/girlfriend is that he feels insecure or scared, you said you were expecting right? He probally says he's ready but usually deep inside he's scared so he turned to someone else to escape the pregnancy, that's what happened to my mom and my baby sis is born, she's 3 months now my mom's ex husband doesn't even want to see the baby, that may be the problem; i'm sorry but congrats on the baby ^_^

Answer 10

It sounds like he just wants an excuse to make him feel better about what he has done. You will be having a baby in a few days and you don't need this kind of stress.... You will most likely not ever trust him again if you do decide to take him back, every time he goes out and doesn't come home when he says he does, you will sit an wonder who's he with, or what he is doing. Trust me you don't need that... Well, good luck with your baby...  

Answer 11

Err, good riddance to him.

You're right, it doesn't make sense, but then again, thats the way some people are.

If you took him back, could you trust him again? I think you're right, leave him be, he's not worth it.  

Answer 12

Girl your ex boyfriend is crazy why on earth dose he want to see you with another guy.

Answer 13

he is crazy and thinks you are dumb enough to fall for his cr*p, dont do it. have respect for yourself and your baby, by the way make sure he has to pay support for the baby, you didnt make it by yourself. good luck

Answer 14

forget about what is wrong with him focus on your life and what u want

thats amazing that he was mentally sane when he decided to leave u for another one now he realize he got a problem get the f****  out of here with that, better yourself in all aspects and move on by the way i hate stupid excuses.  

Answer 15

His problem is that he is a liar and a cheat. Everytime his mouth comes open, lies fall out. Nothing he ever has said nor will say in the future is the truth, he doesn't know what that is. If he's talking, he's lying.  

Answer 16

Sweety, I feel for you!  I am so sorry this is happening  to you especially while your PREGNANT!  How horrible for you!  What a jerk he is for telling you he will always have you!  He is pretty sure of himself isn't he?  Good for you for being strong and having "no intentions" of getting back with him.  He does not deserve you and he needs to grow up!  

Now about a remedy, you need to put YOU and YOUR baby first.  Sounds like your already trying to do that.  Don't waste any more time trying to figure him out.  Some men take MANY years to grow up.  (alright men, don't bash me on that one..lol) I have lived through this same thing and even married the guy that treated me this way!  He cheated on me over and over, I was young and naive.  Being older now I wonder why I hadn't kicked him to the curb long ago.  A man that truly loves you and deserves to be in your life will not hurt you in any way.  Sure you will have your arguements, but for him to tell you that he will always have you and for him to think he can cheat on you and you will be at the side lines waiting...NO WAY!  Your too good for that and you need to set him straight once and for all.  He is going to be in your life as your childs father and you will have that tie with him.  One day he will wake up and it may just be too late!  

Him admitting he has a problem is a good thing, they may be some hope for him.  I don't think this is something you can fix, especially when your baby is due.  Tell him he needs to get some counseling or maybe you know of someone that can talk to him.  

Take care Sweety!  I wish you the very best and Congratulations, your about to be a Mommy!