My child's father does not accept my current boyfriend..what can I do?

Question

My daughter is 12 and me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years ..no we do not live together or anything..He r father constantly tells my how my current boyfriend can nt make me happy..Even though I am telling him I am happy..I don't know what to do ..I want me and him to remain friends (he got a girlfriend), but I want him to accept my boyfriend, what can I do ?

Answer 1

YOU do not need to do anything. You don't need to prove to NO ONE that your bf is good for you. And he should have no say in whether or not your bf is good or not. If he really is a great friend, then he should know to only give you advice, and not be judgemental about your issues. He may be judgemental because he might be a bit jealous, which is quite immature. Just do your thing and don't care too much about what your ex thinks about your current bf.

Answer 2

Stay with your boyfriend since he obviously makes you hhappy if you have been with him for 3 years. Does he respect you and your daughter? Does your daugther like him? Then don't worry about it.

Tell her dad that he moved on and you did too. If he is not willing to shut his mouth when it comes to your boyrfiend he will not be welcomed to talk about anything other than your daughter.

At her age you don't have to be "friends" with her dad - obviously it didn't work between you two so try to make the line very clear to him.  

Answer 3

apparently he's not mature enough to be friends with you. ask him to lay off and accept your BF and be adults about the situation for your daughter. if he cant do that then u should just be friendly acquaintances with your ex, limit your interactions and focus on your current relationship and your daughter.

good luck.

Answer 4

Be patient? I suspect that he may get bored of saying it as time passes and you stop reacting to his comments. It may be that he feels that you "protesteth too much" when he makes such comments. Some people just cannot believe what is in front of their eyes and do not accept what others say at face value. Some people just cannot have their opinion changed, even when the evidence before them shows they are completely wrong. So all I can suggest is ignore it and don't let him get to you.

Hope that helps

Answer 5

Sounds like you got a control freak as an ex and you need to stop giving so much information up to him. Your happiness is your business not his. The only business he (ex) should be concerned with is the child's happiness.

Lisa

Answer 6

You can't expect the father to fully accept your boyfriend.  His actions are his own.  Your only duty is to your daughter who loves you BOTH.

Keep the relationship friendly but your love life should be of no concern to him...he has a gf anyway.

Be honest and be true to your daughter.  She's the one who will remember how it all went down.

Answer 7

s**y Love, it takes times sometimes but hopefully eventually he will act maturely and begin to accept this new man into your and his daughters lives.  He obviously doesn't think that this guy is good enough for either of you, whether he wants you or not, and is still trying to control you in some ways.  But you need to inform him that you are all grown up now and can and will make your own life decisions.  Let him know also that his daughter and this new fella get along great and not to poison her against this fella.  Best of luck.

Answer 8

It sounds like he has a little bit of a jealousy issue... It also sounds like he is more worried about what relationship you're in and not his own. Honestly, it shouldn't matter if he says things about your current boyfriend because you aren't together anymore. He moved on and is with another girl so he should allow you to do the same. Unless there is a parenting issue with your daughter or something that she needs, he should stay out of your corn flakes...Sit him down and tell him that you guys need to be great parents for your daughter and nothing else and dont worry about his approval of your new bf...afterall, he had that chance with you and lost it so he shouldn't have any say about who you see unless it concerns the daughter.

Answer 9

Wave your magic wand and MAKE him accept your b/f.

Hon the fact is ,he is not going to.Quit trying to make him.

When he brings up your b/f tell him to change the subject,you are not changing your mind.

Tell him he has a g/f he has moved on and you have also.

Tell him he can either be friends or use this as a way to make things hard  for your daughter and everyone involved.

Answer 10

ok how can he be concern with anything other than the welfare of that child..That is ludicrous