My child doesn't like a teacher?

Question

My daughter is 4 and in preschool. There is a new teacher that isn't even her teacher, but he does relieve her teacher for lunch on occasion. She fears people she doesn't know. I know that is the problem that she doesn't know him well. I put her in preschool so that next yr going to kinder it won't be quite a shock. She took to school better then I thought she would, though there was some trouble in the beginning. I know my daughter is normal. I know it is good for her to be reserved and be weary of those she doesn't know well, but just the same there will be people that she has to talk to. There has to be a way to work through this that is not harmful to her. I know I shouldn't push her to talk to him, but she will have to face that fear eventually. I know she is young, but she can't drop out of school in prek. Parents, are there any ideas to get her over this? How can I help her get through this. She says "I don't like him b/c I don't know him. I will talk to him when I get bigger"

Answer 1

HI! ASK YOUR LITTLE ONE TO DRAW A PICTURE OF WHAT SHE LIKES MOST AT SCHOOL AND WHAT SHE DISLIKES.GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

just keep remindering her that she only has to spend a small amount of time with this teacher for lunch and just to eat her lunch and sit with her friends and before she knows it the lunch period will be over and her regular teacher will be there. She doesn't have to talk to him unless he asks her a question just be polite and sit quietly and not draw attention to herself. Also tell her that schools are very , very careful to hire teachers that like children and are their friend and wouldn't be there if the school board didin't think they met their high standards. He is there to protect her and make sure she is ok and no one hurts her kind of like a police man. You will have to be firm on this one because it is going to face you all thru school, she doeesn't have to like him just respect him for his position and the fact that he is an adult placed there to watch over all the children so they are protected. If you don't make a big deal over it she will let it go eventually and not even think about it.

Answer 3

I think you should talk to the teachers and explain your child's feelings because she may be afraid to do so. This may open the teacher's eyes and he might be more willing to make a effort to give this child a little more attention to get to know your child. Also talk to the director and insist that there is consistantcy in your daughter's room

Answer 4

That is 1 reason why she is in pre school. It is up to you and the teacher to get her over this...

Answer 5

I would talk to the teacher and see if he wouldn't mind trying befriend her. I have 3 girls and they warm up to (especially men ) with time. I don't ever push it.

Answer 6

As a male that occasionally substitutes at different preschools, I also get those kids that are afraid of me at first. In time they get used to me and we all get along and have fun together. Just give your daughter time. There are times when the kids that were afraid of me at first, can't wait to see me again.

Answer 7

I would talk to the regular teacher. Explain the issue and that you know that it is nothing the other teacher is doing wrong. Suggest that perhaps the relief teacher could come in and do a short activity with the kids with the regular teacher so that she could become more comfortable with the new teacher. It doesn't have to be anything big, it could be coming in to read a special book or sing a silly song... chances are this would help all of the kids feel more comfortable and not just your daughter.

Answer 8

Sounds as if your child just needs a bit more time to adjust to changes.  I'm not sure if she has other male influences around her so this could be quite alarming if not.  On the other hand some teachers and children just dont gel.  Give her more time to get used to him and it could probably help if u had a talk to the teacher to see what u thought of him also.... Is he easy to talk to, cheerful, etc.... children can sense these things about a person and become unsettled........