My child has been exposed to adult p**n!?

Question

what do i do. i have tried so hard to protect her from this kind of things! what should i do now? do i talk to her about it and if so what in the world do i say. it was totally accidental. she saw it at my grandparents house. how do i fix it or take it back?? who knows how many times she has seen it or what she has seen now. i feel like now she has no chance at a normal childhood anymore. helllllllllllllp!!!!

Answer 1

It was bound to happen eventually.

You basically just have to deal with it and just tell her that it's wrong at her age.

How old is she? That would be helpful information...

Answer 2

How old is she?

She will be allright, just explain that its a part of this world, and some peolple choose to do/look at p**n, but you and her aren't those type of people.

Trust me if you make it out to be a big issue it will be a big issue.  Dont worry she isn't damaged goods, and she isnt lost forever now.

I might also suggest that you dont make p**n to taboo (dont get me wrong I dont mean show her more or anything) if it is something that is horrible and forbidden it will only make her more curious, and perhaps lie/sneak because she knows she shouldnt.

You sound like a good/ concerned parrent and im sure she is being brought up just fine.

Oh, and dont be so hard on the Grandparrents, im sure it was accidental, and p**n is a huge part of society. You cant protect your daughter from it!!!  Just teach her what to do when she encounters it.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I know this is the last thing you want to hear, but it won't scar her for life. I saw a calender with naked me on it when I was four and I thought it was really weird, but I didn't think much of it.

I would talk to her about it though incase she has any questions. You need to make it clear that ONLY grown ups who love each other should do that kind of stuff.

Answer 4

uhhh...talk to your grandparents. and wow...idk what else to say.

Answer 5

Well, duh, she will have a normal childhood. How old is she? If she already knows about s*x and stuff, then it really doesn't matter. If she doesn't know, you should probably explain it to her.

Answer 6

I wouldn't be to alarmed honestly I mean how old is she? 13 or so? You have to specify her age it really all depends. The scary part is that alot of young kids are exposed and just of course don't tell there parents but yeah have a talk with her don't make her feel uncomfortable and don't make her seem like did anything wrong besides shes probably young and curious. so just say hey p**n is all over the world but they don't get any respect for it and people who watch don't have a life and joke with her in a sense

Answer 7

Ok well every child teenager whatever eventuallu sees p**n at least once in their life.

Answer 8

What age is she?

Answer 9

How old are your grandparents?  How old is your daughter?  Your grandparents should know better than to let a young girl see anything like that.  Also, how did you find out about it?  I would stop her from going for a little while and try to explain to her that what she has seen is not appropriate for young children (without making too much fuss about it).  It is normal that children will be inquisitive about s*x but to see that, it is not acceptable.

Answer 10

seeing adult material wont prevent your child having a normal childhood. he or she might ask some difficult questions but if there still children they probably wont understand what it is, or if there at the age where they know what it is, well they were going to see that kind of thing sooner or later, it was justs sooner in your case.

Answer 11

first of all how old is your child? if she is young then she probably does not even have a clue about what she saw, so therefore don't make a big deal out of it. if she is p*****n then i can almost bet she has a clue of what is going on.

Answer 12

How old is she? When my son was three, he popped a video in and lo and behold... it was something dirty. I got it out of there pretty quickly, and he really only saw about 10 seconds of it. He doesn't even recall having seen it (he's 8 now). If she's a little older, just explain that some people like to watch stuff with naked people in it, but it's only meant for grownups to watch and she shouldn't be watching it because it will give her the wrong idea about what people are suppose to do with each other.

Answer 13

um how old is the child cause if shes in high school or even year 6 its bound to happen

kids these days all have mobile phone where they can quickly and easily distributes pornography in the school ground

you can easily block the child on the internet from seeing p**n with free programs (search Google)

also make sure she goes to be before 8.30 or at least tv of because thats when most of these shows come on

Answer 14

p**n is disgusting and it is NOT allowed in my house and I think it is disturbing that your grandparents have it.  I would be seriously angry.

Answer 15

how old is your child?  if she is 3 or younger, chances are she doesn't even remember what she saw, nevermind understand it.  if she's older or you just need some piece of mind, talk to her about it without going into specifics.  this in no way is going to ruin her childhood.

Answer 16

How old is she and how was it accidental?

Depending on how old she is it prolly won't have a negative

impact.

I would sit down with her and ask her exactly what she saw and explain to her that it is something that adults do...in a nicer way of course.

If she is too young she may have forgotten about it, if you

ask her and she doesn't remember...don't push it. If she

remembers and has questions she will probably bring it back up.

Make sure her grandparents get parental blocks on those

channels or any others you don't want her to see.

Answer 17

Well unfortunately a lot of kids are accidentally exposed to adult material sometimes.  Parents will try to hide their Playboy magazines, p**n videos, stuff like that but kids who are smart will often find these things (I was one of those kids and it didn't mess me up)!

I wouldn't let it stress you too much.  Just *calmly* let your daughter know that what she saw is for grown ups only and it is wrong for her to see that kind of thing at her age.  Also *calmly* let her know that you were hurt when you found out she saw it.  If she knows you were hurt that might also convince her it was wrong.

Answer 18

All depends on how old she is??  Seeing p**n doesn't mean her 'normal' childhood is not possible.  If she is a teenager or close to that age, I am surprised she hasn't seen it or some form of it already.  If she is very young, she may not have a full understanding of what she saw.  open conversation is the best.  children are resiliant, they can handle much more of real life issues than we give them credit for.  Consider children who accidentally walk in on their parents in the moment...that is fairly common, doesn't ruin their innocent years.

Answer 19

ok first calm down... deep breath. My son stumbled upon it at a very young age i believe 5... he remembers seeing it. the best thing to do is sit down with them and depending on the age have a talk. I just had the s*x talk with my son who is 9 because he was curious from just watching a movie like transformers.

Their life is not ruined, it is just uneducated.

Answer 20

well some poeple say that children don't understand these thing well honestly they do as I was a child I knew what s*x etc was because I was sexually abused by my cousins, now I'm normal married have one daughter, well someone suggested it's not good for her age well I think p**n isn't good at any age, it might not have much impact on your daughter well I would say don't talk to her about it she might feel embarrased or the feeling of being pusshy,

let her learn on her own pace,

try not to send her to grandparents if thats what they watch,

Good Luck!

Answer 21

She's seen some p**n once, by accident, and now she has no chance at a normal childhood??!!!

You're massively overreacting. Don't make such a fuss about it and she probably won't even remember it in a week or so. Most kids who are young enough to need protecting think pictures of adults doing "adult things" are icky anyway.

Answer 22

How old is she? Does she already know about s*x? If not now is probaby the time to explain it to her. And then tell her that some people like to look at pictures to of it sometimes. Unless she's been looking at a lot of depraved stuff, I'd say she'll recover.

Answer 23

Accidental?  Yeah right.  Sounds like the child was snooping where she didn't belong, or your grandparents have been forcing her to watch it.  Or your daughter has been allowed on the internet unsupervised.  Better keep a better eye on your child and begin supervising her.

Answer 24

calm down. i started looking at p**n when i was in 3rd grade and im normal. im married and in the military. i have quite a normal life. she will be fine.

Answer 25

Your grandparents house!!!

Did she see a box?

Did she put the movie in and watch it?

Did she walk in on her great-grandparents while they were watching it?

It all depends on how she saw it. Just naked pictures on a cover, is not the worse things, your grandparents watching and acting out things is.

Personally I wouldn't say anything unless she does, I'm no psychologist, I just have very well adjusted kids.

If MJ still has a childhood, so can she.

Answer 26

Kids see this stuff.  It's only going to be a big deal if you make it one.  Take your cues from your child, and keep your answers brief and age appropriate.

I saw my parents watching a p**n flick when I was three or four.  I wasn't traumatized for life.

Answer 27

One: ask her grand parents to watch her more closely so that this doesn't happen again.

Two: This will not ruin her entire childhood! For the most part she probably didn't understand most of what happened in the movie and it won't sit too heavily on her mind, It might make her more curious about that sort of thing. Explain to her it's something adults do and give her a mild but honest version of the birds and the bees.

Good luck.