My child is 5 years old, we just realized what her initials spell...now what?

Question

first of all, please save jokes and rude comments for someone else. before i tell here what it is, let me say this, she is our 3rd child, she actually has 2 middle names but they are hyphenated, so when she or other people write her initials, they leave off the 2nd middle name. we never wrote her name or saw her initials, in fact, we didnt decide on her name until after she was born because we just couldnt decide.

i finally realized it months when i picked her up from pre-school and her teacher had written her initials on a craft she had made. i saw the initials and froze. then got in my car and cried.

i can't reveal her name but her initials are H.I.V.

example-hillary imogene vega. (not her real name, but the first letters are the same)

her real name is super pretty and she is a beautiful girl.

this may sound superstitious but i have heard that certain aspects of a persons name can determine their destiny.

i feel so bad i cant describe it.

Answer 1

I'm not sure about this but, I think she can change her name at 18?

Answer 2

since when do people use all 3 initials? I dont think I have ever use mine really. There is nothing you can do to change it now unless you want to go to the courts and get it changed

Answer 3

don't feel bad. i rarely include my middle name in anything. just go by h. v. for now until she's old enough to decide what she wants to do, but other than that- what's the big deal? no one goes around with their initials including alllll their middle names showing. she'll end up getting married and changing it anyways...

Answer 4

Oh my, how couldnt you realise before?

I dont believe that her initials will decide her fate, maybe you should leave off her second middle name or even re-arrange them its thats possible?

Answer 5

calm dOown ii understand yoour fear butt she's oOk.

iits just a coicidance!

Answer 6

Ahahaha.

Its fine lady. Your daughters destiny is not going to be AIDS ridden just because of her initials.

Im sure that shes a very wonderful and beautiful little girl, and peoples middle names are not used that often anyways.

If it really really bothers you you can change her name before she is old enough to figure it out.

Answer 7

dont worry about it just explain to her when she is older. if u hate it that bad then u can always change it! i hope this helps.

O by the way i have 2 fully black cats and i would break glass anyday of the week @ anytime. so i hope this helps.

Answer 8

There are a couple of things you can do short of legally changing her whole name.

First, you could change her middle name, possibly by dropping the "I" part and just using the second middle name instead.

Also, whenever possible, use only the first and last name, and when the middle initial is required, just use the second one.

Otherwise, use her entire name, and don't drop the second middle name.  

Keep in mind that once she is grown and married, her last initial will change anyway.  If you don't call attention to it, and don't write it that way, it will not likely be a big deal.

However, if you are that upset about it, then legally change her name--do it now while she is young before there are lots of documents such as school transcripts that you would have to change.  I think in most states name changes can be done for just a couple of hundred dollars.

Answer 9

Since she has a hyphenated middle name, just use the name that does not result in the unfortunate initial from now on.  Drop the other name.

Answer 10

Just stop using the hyphen, giving her 4 initials.

Answer 11

try changing her middle name if you think its that big of a deal. or just add another before it so it takes the 'I's place. but if you love her name too much.. then i dont know what to tell except sorry you didnt realize it was spelled like that. to me it isn't really that bad. but of course, ima good person (:

Answer 12

dont make it an issue and she wont ever worry about it!

My sisters childs initials are J.O.KE ...ha ha

we all have little things like this in life, it won't be a problem if you dont mention it or react to it...

humor is often a good way to get over something, when the time is right.

I never have to initial things fully! really her initials are HV. your not usually asked to put a middle initial on something.

Answer 13

Her initials will change when she gets married.  I wouldn't worry.

Answer 14

I know how you feel, when my husband and I finally decided on a name for or daughter the initals were A.S.S. so that was a no go, i was so disapointed:( If you are just noticing it now, Im sure It wont cause problems;) and no, it wont be her destiny:)

Answer 15

I feel so bad!

I wouldn't worry to much because maybe you could start calling her by a nickname thats really cute and that she would like:)

Answer 16

geez..... well maybe you can change it legally, you know by court?  cause... yeah.

Answer 17

I have a friend who's initials are STD.  He turned out fine.  I wouldn't worry about that.  Just be more aware of it before choosing a name for your next child.  If you are that worried you can change your child's name, but to me that is very dramatic.

Answer 18

Awww, I'm sorry!

Ya know what? As for other people even realizing thats her initials, its pretty low.

My sons initials spell out ZOR.  I've told many people that and they are like. We never would have guessed.  

As for changing her destiny.  I would not be worried about that at all !  Relax, if you can.  I'm sure its really playing on your mind right now though.

Is there a short form for the middle name you can go by?  Isabelle.... Belle?

Answer 19

change her name.....

Answer 20

Perhaps you could do a legal name change. Nothing drastic though, just add a silent letter to the beginning of one of her names. If that won't work, you could just change her middle name all together.

Answer 21

Dont worry about it

What i would do is just use her first name and last name, and forget about middle names, because nobody really uses middle names anymore

but dont worry, teach her to writ her initials HV, and nobody will take that much notice of it

Answer 22

You could change her middle name, or just don't use the middle name.  Most people don't use their middle name, anyway.

Answer 23

it is perfectly ok. its not like you did it on purpose. the same thing happend to my mom when she named me. if it really is bothering you, i believe that you can go to court to change her name. just switch her middle names around so instead of the i being her middle name it is something else. dont let it bother you and explain to her when she is older if you decide not to change it. people joke with me all the time about it. i just dont let it bother me. hope i helped, and i know you will make the right choice!

Answer 24

If she has two middle names, just substitute the other name. My mother hated her given name, but liked her middle name, so she just reversed them. Never had any problems with it.

Or, hyphenate the "I" name with her first, and use the 2nd middle name, as the actual middle name.

And, please drop the superstition. A person's name (like in terms of numerology) does not determine one's destiny.

p.s. HIV is not caused by "sleeping around". It is part of the lenti-virus family, and is a disease of the immune system, not a STD. It shows up in some people who have many partners sometimes, because their sexual activity compromises their immune system (ie blood + f***s + digestive tract)

Answer 25

awe, well i can imagine what your feeling, dont worry. one thing i have to say is, that if people learn to accept her and her name they wont have  PROBLEM. SURE , there might be some people a lot of people maybe who might look down upon the fact, but its okay. your daughter is destiend to be someone in the world, and if she grows up to become sucessul no one wil care about her name. i mean get to know the person dont judge by their name,

<3 best of luck!

Answer 26

Have you thought about giving her a nickname? There must be a lovely nickname that will draw the attention away from her initials.

The only other thing I can say, is this: children can and will be cruel. It can strengthen your daughter's character. Whether it's a name, a child's height, weight or something else, they will go through some teasing. It's a part of growing up and building up our defenses. It's wise that you've thought it about this. Tell your daughter she is loved and valued and no matter what others think or say, she is valued. In time, for better or worse, she'll face the knocks of life, but you'll always be right behind her giving her advice and hugs.

Answer 27

suck it up, the only way shes getting H.I.V is if she goes around sleeping with a bunch of guys

Answer 28

A person's destiny is determined by so many things.  Just because her initials are HIV does not mean she will get HIV.  Maybe she will find a cure for it.  You could start writing both middle initials for the hyphenated name.  Write them on anything you send to school and have her state her name as such, so teachers know you use all the letters.  There are a lot of strippers named Chastity I bet.