My child may be being sexually molested at school?

Question

When my son started kindergarten in Sept we had an issue with a boy in his class asking to see my sons p***s and asked my son if he could touch it and kiss it. I spoke with the teacher and principal about this who suspended the child and spoke to his mother. I felt confidient that the situation was handled. Well this weekend my son shared with me that he is in a "secret club". I asked him about the club and he says that it is the same boy doing the same things. I need advice on how to handle the situation now. I am feed up with this and I am very angry and upset.

Answer 1

Thats really quite scary.

First off I think you should praise your son for confiding in you.

Call the principal AND the teacher straight after that. Tell them what he has said, and hopefully try to get your son to tell you the other boys as well. Once you've done that, don't send him to school until this problem has been fixed.

The Principal & teacher will probably have to talk to all the kids & parents involved, to get a grasp on things. He will probably suspend or even expell the boy this time.

Maybe even the polive & child protection agencys will be involved, i'm not sure.

But good luck (:

Answer 2

The school needs to be reported to the school board. Suspending the child may stop the problem for the length of the suspension but it in no way addresses the fact that that child was sexually abused in the first place. And the school should know this, it is pretty basic stuff. The suspended child needs to be examined by a therapist because he is definitely a victim of sexual abuse, no child knows about kissing a p***s, etc so that needs to be taken care of, and second, the child needs to be removed from the school until he has been treated otherwise this will continue; sending him home for a day or two is putting a bandaid on a hemorrhage.

Whenever a child shows an inordinate preoccupation with s*x and sexual activities, esp to the extent this one does, there is a serious and deeper issue here, and again, the problem will continue until the child's mother gets her head out of the clouds and gets him the help he so desperately needs, sounds like she is in denial now. But the school needs to suspend him until he has been treated.

Answer 3

2 things have broke down here.

1st- anyone who is involved with the care of children are mandatory reporters for Child Protective Services. This includes daycares, schools, home daycares , etc

The school should have already reported this when it came up the first time.

2-You must now call C.P.S. and report the whole incident to protect your child and others. The boy who is doing this is a victim as well. Don't hate him, help him by turning this in to C.P.S. I would let the school know how pissed I was AFTER I talk to C.P.S.!! They dropped the ball, and they are responsible for the well being and safety of your precious boy. Get him any therapy that he needs to put this behind him while he's young.

Answer 4

The first thing you need to realize is that in a child that young (the other boy) he IS being molested.  Do not be angry with him.  He is acting out on something that is being done to him.  The first call should be to your Child Protective Agency or Social Srevices.  If it's possible to get the names of the other kids in the "club" I'd make a call to their parents as well.  The school's principal needs to get involved and if his actions are not satisfactory, the school board is your next step.  I am so sorry that this has happened to your family.  I would also reccommend you and your son see a counselor and doctor to rule out any serious damage.  Good luck to you.

Answer 5

this needs to be brought to the attention of social workers and child protection agency. so, you need to talk to some-one like that. never mind the teachers they arent trained to handle this situation.

your son is great for confinding in you. u should be happy he did cuz some kids done tell they parents. so well done to your brave son.

now....RING now and get this sorted b4 your child is badly abused and needs therpy.

goodluck

Answer 6

That's sick! You should definitely talk to the school staff and it's probably time to get the police involved. And, if you feel you should do so, don't take your son back to school on Tuesday. Call that boy's mom too.

Answer 7

Call the police...

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear this. It is disturbing. You should remove him from that environment until the situation is remedied and you have seen proof of this. I understand you are upset and I think you should be. You are your child's advocate so he relies on you to protect him. Get him out of there, go to the school, involve the authorities if the school does not take your concerns seriously. Other kids are probably being abused too and that is very very wrong. I'm so sorry. Please make this known to the school so that other parents are aware.

Answer 9

how can this be going on and the teachers never hear or see anything?  This is such a delicate situation - you are dealing with such young kids and by calling Social Services   - you better be 100% certain that this is exactly whats going on because he will immediately be removed from his parents home.   If you know for certain he is the only one acting like this, meet with his mother along with the principal and discuss with her whats happening etc and come up with a solution.  To be fair, include his parents...if they are not receptive and things dont change in the short term than take more drastic measures.  I just dont think you want to pull such a serious trigger yet -

Answer 10

either have your son taken out of the school.or get that kid out of the school.one of them has to go.

Answer 11

i know of a boy that my best friends mom worked with... (actually she worked with his mom) and he tried to get a 1 year old little girl to put her mouth on his p***s, and she told his mom, and the boy wasnt allowed to be around other children anymore, id tell social services... and his school, then it should be taken care of.

Answer 12

Report this to the police right now.

Answer 13

why are you on Yahoo and not talking to the police????

Answer 14

get off the computer and go to the police...also this other boy..he may also be molested..b/c where would he be getting all this from...is its you both children intrest that you speek up...and loud...i would make a huge deal of this..and warn the other parents of this b/c maybe it not just your boy maybe is others and thay havent spoke up about it like yours...and i wouldent send my child back until this is resolved

Answer 15

Call the teacher and the principal again asap.

Do NOT send your son to school until this other boy is in a special program away from your son.

You have every right to be angry.

Answer 16

File charges and a restraining order!

Answer 17

Call the teacher

Say you want something done and if nothing gets done switch schools.

Answer 18

Time to get the local Police and Social Services involved. that boy in his class is more than likely a victim too, being molested by someone at home, and he is acting out what he has gone through on your son, and others at the school. that little boy at school learned this from somewhere and that is were it needs to be stopped!!

ALL the children involved need to be protected at this point.

Answer 19

straight back to the teacher and principal. This child needs councelling. And I think they need to find out why he is so obssessed. Playing "doctors and nurses" is a normal part of childhood but usually once discovered and told not to they stop. The fact that he has continued is not a good sign

Answer 20

sue the freaking school and the kids parents , get that bad kid taken away and evaluated.

Answer 21

What I would want to know is who the h*ll is watching these kids at school?? How are they able to have this "secret club" especially knowing the issues that have already surfaced in the past? The school should be keeping a closer eye on them and I wouldn't send him back until they gave me a d*mn good explanation. As far as that boy- I understand that a lot of kids are curious about their privates- "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" if you will, but kissing it? That's odd. I hate to jump to conclusions and say the boy is being molested because that's such a serious allegation but it is suspicious. He could have just walked in on his parents engaging in a s*x act too though and be copying it. Or he could have learned it from another kid in the school and not even be the original culprit. Or god forbid a school employee is involved and that's why this was able to happen... Either way the school is responsible for keeping your son safe and they have no excuse not to have prevented this. It sounds like they have some serious supervision problems. Kindergartners should not even be left alone enough at school for something like this to happen. I would be irate and would go there first thing tommorrow morning for a conference with the principal on the spot.

Answer 22

You gave the school a chance to protect your child and guess what they didn't. CALL THE POLICE CALL SOCIAL SERVICES.

DO NOT SEND YOUR CHILD BACK TO SCHOOL UNTIL THE OTHER CHILD IS GONE.

Answer 23

call the principal, the boy's mother, and the police right away.

dont send your son back until he is far away from the boy.

Answer 24

Call the principal and have a meeting set up with s/he, the teacher, and the other students parents.  This needs to be stopped immediately!!  If you get nowhere, call Social Services and/or the police.  No child should have to endure this in school.

It sounds to me like the child doing this has been molested himself.  If he knows that it meant to be kept secret, then he knows it not acceptable.

You might want to consider counseling for your child as well.  They need to talk this one out with a professional so it doesn't come back to haunt him later in life.

Best of luck to you!!

Answer 25

Victims often become abusers.  This child sounds like he's displaying signs of abuse and it needs to be investigated.  I would definitely talk to the school again and make a call to social services.  Your son probably isn't the only victim here.

Answer 26

time to call the popo