My child mother would like for me to stop paying child and give up my parental rights

Question

because her husband is tring to adopt, how do I go about this

Answer 1

Well it would depend on if you want to give up your rights or not???  Can't answer the questions until we know this

Answer 2

Do you want any rights or not? Do you want your child to be adopted by her husband? What do you want and maybe we can help.

Answer 3

if you want your child, by all means, dont give them up! if it is her husband, than i would think they live together, correct? trying to adopt her makes no sense to me if they are together.. plus if they ever get divorced, that could cause more problems for the child.  

Answer 4

How old is this child?  Do you have visitation or an on-going relationship with the child?  Be aware that if you give up your parental rights, you are signing yourself out of the child's life and you will no longer be related to the child in any way, with no rights at all, and the rest of your family may be cut off along with you. If the child's mother and new father chose to do so, they could legally prevent you and any members of your family from ever seeing the child again because you will no longer be related.

Think about how you would explain your decision to your child if they tracked you down in 10 or 15 or 20 years and asked why you had given them up.  If you're motivated entirely by not wanting to pay support, I think that would sound pretty selfish, but if you really think this is the best thing for the child, you will need to sign paperwork for the courts saying you agree that the child's stepfather can adopt and you might have to testify in court.  That's all pretty easy, it's making the decision about what's best for the child that's tough.

Answer 5

what do you want to do? that info would help.

if you want to be a father in the childs life, then fight it and then actually make an effort to be there. go to all your allowed visits, have a room for you child at your home so it is your childs home too. attend your childs parties, school events, doctor visits. what im sayin is BE A DAD.

If you choose to fight it and become just a money doner, when your child actually has a man that wants to father your child, then you are just being selfish.

do whats in the best intrest of your child. If you dont want to be a father, its sucks for your child, but at least there is someone there that is willing to step up to the job.