My children do not want to see thier father ?

Question

my son has never wanted to go there for visitation, but he has been fofrced for teh past two and a half years, every second weekend. he says he gets knuckled, pinched, twists his ear, pulls him down the stairs by his leg and my ex says this doesnt happen and there is no bruises.

last visitation my ex shoved me away when i tried to kiss my daughter goodnight, shoved my common law partner and told us to get teh **** out of his house and beat it and get lost even tho we were just there ddropping the kids off. he blocked my daughter from getting to me when she was crying from witnessing this event and wouldnt put her down when i said i was taking them home.

this was an abusive relationship i came from, ive never denied him access and now this conflict is escalating in front of the children and i spoke to a lawyer today and he basically said i cant do anything...that my concerns arent enough to ask for supervised visits...am i out in left field or should i continue looking for a new lawyer?

my daughter is now afraid to visit her father, she says she doesnt want to go, i want to get them in to see a child psychologist and seh says she just wants to stay home. she says she is afraid and when i ask why she is afraid she cannot come home. she gets very upset when i say do you want to go to daddy's house? she says no and gets all upset and now she says she doesnt want to talk about it anymore because i said to her, i wnot keep asking you, you just let me know how you feel, she doesnt even want to phone him.

do i just suck it up or do i have a right to be concerned and continue on with my quest for supervision?

Answer 1

I would get a new lawyer for sure.

If you haven't already, start documenting everything your children say.  Keep a log.  See if there is an advocacy group in your area that can help you get counseling for your children and legal advice.

I am so sorry this is happening, there is an online group called mamasource where women help other women...

Maybe your daughter can draw a picture about how she feels, sometimes children express themselves that way.

My heartfelt best wishes to you and your children.

Answer 2

you DEFIANTLY need to keep trying to get supervision,or maby no visitation.if your kids dislike him that much their not making it up,so i would maby see about getting a new lawyer or directly to a judge,but dont let this go on to your kids,stand up for justice

Answer 3

abuse centers, counseling and get the proper documentation take it to court see if you can get anger management for him and supervised visitation do it under the pretense of acting in the best interests of the children . but you need official documentation .