My cousin's husband is a drug dealer......

Question

at least according to her mother. I know this sounds like a soap opera but I don't know who to call. Supposedly my 29 yr old cousin (Jane) husband deals and distributes drugs. He goes into California to pick them up and them sells them in Oregon. Jane has a 2 yr old son with another on the way and her mother is wondering if she should call the authorities and if so which authorities. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

It does sound like a soap opera - if her mother is the only source of info, it might just be a manifestation of her dislike for the guy.  Unless those accusations can be backed up by facts, than there is nothing to report to anybody.  if there are some facts (even if not completely substantiating the offense, the cousin could got to the police station that covers the area where she lives - in NYC, the police maintain narcotics enforcement divisions that conduct intelligence operations on narcotics trafficking - there probably is a counterpart for this in Oregon.  With enough credible information, they can set things up to look deeper.

29 years old sounds pretty mature - she should confront him herself.

Answer 2

why dont the mother call she knows more about it than you do ,you just know hear say witch is 0

Answer 3

Tough call. Her daughter might resent her for a long time if she rats out her husband. Better to confront her with her fears, let the daughter make her own conclusions. If she does not see that that is an unhealthy environment to raise kids, then she can leave an anonymous tip. Most PD's and Sherriff’s offices have a drug (Narcotics) squad. They usually have a tip line and/or an email address that is set up through an anonymous server. Leave credible information. His name, Date of birth, car information. Next time he leaves try to find out when he'll return. Give them a lot of details and they can get warrants or even will wait for him to come home and pull him over. They bring a drug dog out and it's over. However, the mother should be prepared for lots of things to happen. The cops may seize her vehicles, her house - Anything he bought with drug money. Even if he has a regular job, the police have numerous ways to track the sales of expensive items. They will seize it all. It will all come crashing down. However, what is worse? Having those kids grow up in a drug dealer’s home or having a hard time recovering but providing them with a life away from that atmosphere.

Keep in mind the daughter, you cousin, may never leave the man either. Love is blind and some men/women see any spouse, even a drug dealer, as better then no spouse at all. I've seen it happen a lot. You need to be steady in this and have a long term plan; For you, her, her mom and the kids.

Answer 4

Who to call?  Why don't you call her and tell her to pack her kid and LEAVE before he takes her down with him if it IS true!  If it is true and she knows about it she's just as guilty of it in my opinion as he is.  I wouldn't go calling the cops about something you hear third person and turn it into a huge family quarrel which may be nothing.

Cops are Cops it doesn't matter "who" you call to report something, normally the local level suffices.    

Answer 5

I would say that the kids are in danger.  If this guy is on drugs or even associated with them, then he is hanging with the wrong people.  If they are not in danger by him, then his business associates are not the best crowd of people.  

I would call the local police dept non emergency number and ask them who to contact.

Best of luck with this situation.  You are in a tough spot.

Answer 6

since it is about the childs well being i believe that you would call child protective services, i believe you can do this without giving your name.

Answer 7

mine your d@mn business.  there business is non of yours. thats how people get hurt by snooping around in other people affairs.

i'm not condoning or protecting dude, but let the police do there jobs

Answer 8

Your cousin's mother told you that her husband is a drug dealer. That is her mother's words. What you need to do first is ask your cousin is it true. If she says yes then you need to convince her to move away from her husband for the child'ss safety. Your cousin may know about it and likes the money from what her husband is doing. If she doesn't want to do anything about it then for the child I would get in touch with the DEA and give them the name of the husband and let them know that he runs across state with these drugs. I would give a description of the car he drives and everything and I would let them know that you are doing this for the child because the child don't need to be around such things. See what the DEA can do first before you get child services involved. This can be solved without your cousin losing her child.

Answer 9

She shouldn't call the authorities, unless it gets too out of hand. They should try to talk to him about it and getting sent to prison is a lot worse than what could happen due to his drug-dealing.

I'm dating a drug-dealer.

Answer 10

have Jane's mother call her police departments narcotics unit and turn in an anonymous tip

Answer 11

ohh boy, first make sure it is true, if it is convince him to stop, if he does not stop, tell jane to take the kid and move out, he could get dangerous!

Answer 12

You could call your local DEA...he's crossing state lines & that is considered a federal offense

Answer 13

No I think you and she should stay out of it -- what if these are just horrible rumors? What if thats not the truth? Do you and her Mom just want to see that child in foster care? Maybe her Mom wants him to herself?

Stay out of it unless she comes to you for help.