My cousin copies me in everything i do?

Question

I hate her for it thats for sure. But seriously. It used to just be minor things like nail color or brand of shoe but its now everything i do! She is ditching her preppy style for my emocore one which i switched to so i could be alone. She is possibly starting guitar lessons and only ever showed interest in the instument until after i started learning, she writes poetry and songs and started after she found out i did, she has her hair cut like mine now too. She is trying to draw anime, and started that only after i told her that i drew anime stuff. She follows me around like a puppy and never says a word to anyone but me unless it is about some "hot guy" she spotted. Yes, she is older than me by almost a year. It seems that everything i take up, in order to find uniqueness within my family, she tries too. Im sick of this c**p shes playing with me. I dont care if its cuz she looks up to me or anything like that. I dont find it flattering and i have tried telling her in the nicest way i can to try something other than what im doing. Ive already tried to get her to speak to people that are not me and that got a little better but im tired of this. I love her, yes, but whenever im around her i cant help but feel hateful towards her. Im not sure what to do about this or how to tell her that by copying me, she makes me hate her and my life sucks 80 times worse than usual. Help?

Answer 1

dont hate her... all of these will end once she matures enough.  I understand how u feel though. Take this positively, and dont stress urself bec of this. U dont want to get wrinkles, anyway.  U can also talk to her and tell her that it's good to have originality rather than copy other's personality. Dont take this so seriously.....My daughter is the oldest among her cousins. Every younger ones looks up to her. Every parent in our family tells their kids to do what my daughter does. Im happy about that bec it only means that my daughter does what every cousin will be proud of.

Answer 2

The poor girl has no self-esteem and no creativity.

About all you can do is get slick about not being around where she can latch onto you. Learn how to lose her.

Maybe take up some activities that are completely out in left field... like take up playing the harp or something like that.

Answer 3

Imitation is the most sincerest form of flattery.

Why be offended that someone thinks you're "so cool" that they want to be JUST like you? If you really hate it that much, stop telling her what you're doing. Stop hanging around her so much, make some friends all of your own. Granted, I'm not sure what you hope to accomplish with an emocore look, why be something you're not? I mean really, changing your looks so you can be "alone"? That sounds just plain silly and makes you sound like a poser.

I think if I were you, I'd make a deal with cousin there. She gives being herself a shot, and you do the same.  

Answer 4

talk to her maybe she is trying to be accepted like you cause she thinks that people treat you good. help her find her own style.

Answer 5

Wow , your life sucks, having a person that probably thinks higher of you than you do of yourself. People imitate others cause they like what they see and want the same lifestyle , cause they think their life isn't as good .If it really bugs you that much tell her , if not just let her be her. You could always be nice and say I noticed you doing the same thing i'm doing , does it really interest you or you just coppying me , but say it nicer than that. Good luck

Answer 6

Dont worry about it..

its probly a situation like

you start playing the guitar so she thinks

"ohh cool,, i wanna do that too"

kinda thing.

have you ever thought that she might just like

the "emo" rock scene style? if you guys hang out,

and in school too,, maybe she gets her influence form you.

Or maybe shes a shy person, that thinks

if she looks more like you, people will like her more.